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<p>Is it possible to &quot;steal&quot; the name of a baby that isn&#39;t even born yet?</p><p>That&#39;s what one woman is wondering after her friend stopped speaking to her over a baby name dispute. She <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/je21ls/aita_for_stealing_a_baby_name/">took to Reddit</a> to ask if she&#39;s in the wrong.</p><h2>Her friend is five months along, and the two women have talked about names:</h2><blockquote> <p>So, my best friend is about 5 months pregnant. When she first found out we had fun brainstorming names together for both boys and girls. When she found out she was having a boy we were thrilled and she settled on the name Josh. I&rsquo;m not going to lie, as soon as we knew it was a boy all the other name options kind of evaporated from my head... maybe that makes me a shitty friend but it&rsquo;s the truth.</p> </blockquote><h2>She&#39;s now pregnant, too, and found out she&#39;s having a girl:</h2><blockquote> <p>Then, last month I found out I&rsquo;m pregnant as well, and at 10 weeks now I&rsquo;m far enough along to take one of the at home gender reveal tests, and we are having a girl! We are so excited and settled on a name (Ada) that my husband and I love and is a family name for both sides of the family.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>But the name she picked was one of her friend&#39;s favorites for a girl:</h2><blockquote> <p>When I told my friend she was extremely upset because Ada was the girl name they wanted to use (again, I frankly forgot, it was months ago and we had talked about several other girl names that she wanted).</p> </blockquote><h2>The friend is furious:</h2><blockquote> <p>Now she won&rsquo;t speak to me because she&rsquo;s convinced her next baby will be a girl and they&rsquo;re already planning on calling her Ada, so I&rsquo;m &ldquo;stealing&rdquo; their name.</p> <p>I understand that it&rsquo;s hurtful that I forgot their hypothetical girl name choice, but does that really make me [the a-hole] here?</p> </blockquote><h2>She also added an update that she and her husband tweaked the name, but the friend is still peeved:</h2><blockquote> <p>Husband and I couldn&rsquo;t find a middle name we liked, so we&rsquo;ve actually decided to change the name slightly (I changed the names here but think Ada to Ava- it&rsquo;s close but not the same) and she&rsquo;s still upset with me. Guess I can&rsquo;t win.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The people of Reddit mostly agree that you can&#39;t call dibs on a baby name.</h2><p>GirlMcGirlface says:</p><blockquote> <p>She&#39;s mad at you for a ridiculous reason. My Best friend of 20 years got mad at me when I named my daughter. She wasn&#39;t even pregnant or planning on kids at the time, and my name only rhymed with the name she wanted to call her hypothetical baby. She went on to have 3 boys. If I&#39;d caved in to her ridiculousness and changed the name, it would have been for nothing. Keep the name Ada, you probably won&#39;t even be friends with this person in future anyway. She&#39;s being completely unreasonable.</p> </blockquote><p>MeowGirly says two kids having the same name isn&#39;t the end of the world anyway:</p><blockquote> <p>It&rsquo;s a family name. Plus it&rsquo;s not like friends can&rsquo;t have kids with the same first name.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>GrymDraig agrees:</p><blockquote> <p>You can&#39;t &quot;steal&quot; a name. It&#39;s not something one person gets exclusive rights to. You said yourself it is a family name on both sides of your family, so it clearly has meaning to you. This person is being unreasonable.</p> </blockquote><p>Dilemma728 says name-stealing <em>is</em> a thing, but this isn&#39;t it:</p><blockquote> <p>If you were having a boy and decided to name him Josh that&rsquo;d be lame of you. But you&rsquo;re not stealing a name if she isn&rsquo;t even pregnant yet. If that&rsquo;s the only name you and your husband like use it. But maybe stop talking about baby names with this person to avoid future problems.</p> </blockquote><p>The_Iron_Quill agrees:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>The only way that you&rsquo;d be an (unintentional) AH is if she&rsquo;d specifically told you that she planned on using the name Ada, and you didn&rsquo;t talk to her before announcing it. (I don&rsquo;t mean just &ldquo;I love the name Ada&rdquo;, I mean literally &ldquo;I&rsquo;m going to name my next baby Ada&rdquo;.)</p> </blockquote><p> </p><blockquote> <p>To be clear, you&rsquo;re not obligated to let her have dibs on the name. You still have just as much claim to the name. But if she&rsquo;d told you that she&rsquo;d picked that name and you didn&rsquo;t even give her a heads up - yeah, that&rsquo;d be hurtful.</p> </blockquote><p>But Notts_gal_ pointed out there&#39;s probably no point respecting someone else&#39;s &quot;dibs&quot;:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I wanted to call my son Joe but realised that a close friend had already said they wanted that name for their &lsquo;future&rsquo; son. Out of respect I picked a different name. They now have 3 boys and neither of them are named Joe! I wish I&rsquo;d just gone ahead with it now.</p> </blockquote><h2>So there you have it. When it comes to baby-naming, nobody owns a name unless there&#39;s an actual kid attached to it.</h2><p>And even then, two kids having the same name isn&#39;t the end of the world.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman seeks advice after friend accuses her of 'stealing' baby name.

Is it possible to &quot;steal&quot; the name of a baby that isn&#39;t even born yet?That&#39;s what one woman is wondering after her friend stopped speaking to her over a baby name dispute. She took to Reddit to ask if she&#39;s in the wrong.Her friend is five months along, and the two women have talked about names: So, my best friend is about 5 months pregnant. When she first found out we had fun brainstorming names together for both boys and girls. When she found out she was having a boy we were thrilled and she settled on the name Josh. I&rsquo;m not going to lie, as soon as we knew it was a boy all the other name options kind of evaporated from my head... maybe that makes me a shitty friend but it&rsquo;s the truth. She&#39;s now pregnant, too, and found out she&#39;s having a girl: Then, last month I found out I&rsquo;m pregnant as well, and at 10 weeks now I&rsquo;m far enough along to take one of the at home gender reveal tests, and we are having a girl! We are so excited and settled on a name (Ada) that my husband and I love and is a family name for both sides of the family. But the name she picked was one of her friend&#39;s favorites for a girl: When I told my friend she was extremely upset because Ada was the girl name they wanted to use (again, I frankly forgot, it was months ago and we had talked about several other girl names that she wanted). The friend is furious: Now she won&rsquo;t speak to me because she&rsquo;s convinced her next baby will be a girl and they&rsquo;re already planning on calling her Ada, so I&rsquo;m &ldquo;stealing&rdquo; their name. I understand that it&rsquo;s hurtful that I forgot their hypothetical girl name choice, but does that really make me [the a-hole] here? She also added an update that she and her husband tweaked the name, but the friend is still peeved: Husband and I couldn&rsquo;t find a middle name we liked, so we&rsquo;ve actually decided to change the name slightly (I changed the names here but think Ada to Ava- it&rsquo;s close but not the same) and she&rsquo;s still upset with me. Guess I can&rsquo;t win. The people of Reddit mostly agree that you can&#39;t call dibs on a baby name.GirlMcGirlface says: She&#39;s mad at you for a ridiculous reason. My Best friend of 20 years got mad at me when I named my daughter. She wasn&#39;t even pregnant or planning on kids at the time, and my name only rhymed with the name she wanted to call her hypothetical baby. She went on to have 3 boys. If I&#39;d caved in to her ridiculousness and changed the name, it would have been for nothing. Keep the name Ada, you probably won&#39;t even be friends with this person in future anyway. She&#39;s being completely unreasonable. MeowGirly says two kids having the same name isn&#39;t the end of the world anyway: It&rsquo;s a family name. Plus it&rsquo;s not like friends can&rsquo;t have kids with the same first name. GrymDraig agrees: You can&#39;t &quot;steal&quot; a name. It&#39;s not something one person gets exclusive rights to. You said yourself it is a family name on both sides of your family, so it clearly has meaning to you. This person is being unreasonable. Dilemma728 says name-stealing is a thing, but this isn&#39;t it: If you were having a boy and decided to name him Josh that&rsquo;d be lame of you. But you&rsquo;re not stealing a name if she isn&rsquo;t even pregnant yet. If that&rsquo;s the only name you and your husband like use it. But maybe stop talking about baby names with this person to avoid future problems. The_Iron_Quill agrees: The only way that you&rsquo;d be an (unintentional) AH is if she&rsquo;d specifically told you that she planned on using the name Ada, and you didn&rsquo;t talk to her before announcing it. (I don&rsquo;t mean just &ldquo;I love the name Ada&rdquo;, I mean literally &ldquo;I&rsquo;m going to name my next baby Ada&rdquo;.)   To be clear, you&rsquo;re not obligated to let her have dibs on the name. You still have just as much claim to the name. But if she&rsquo;d told you that she&rsquo;d picked that name and you didn&rsquo;t even give her a heads up - yeah, that&rsquo;d be hurtful. But Notts_gal_ pointed out there&#39;s probably no point respecting someone else&#39;s &quot;dibs&quot;: I wanted to call my son Joe but realised that a close friend had already said they wanted that name for their &lsquo;future&rsquo; son. Out of respect I picked a different name. They now have 3 boys and neither of them are named Joe! I wish I&rsquo;d just gone ahead with it now. So there you have it. When it comes to baby-naming, nobody owns a name unless there&#39;s an actual kid attached to it.And even then, two kids having the same name isn&#39;t the end of the world.

Is it possible to &quot;steal&quot; the name of a baby that isn&#39;t even born yet?  That&#39;s what one woman is wondering after her friend stopped speaking to her over a baby name dispute. She took to Reddit to ask if she&#39;s in the...