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<p>We all know it&#39;s good to be the bigger person and not seek out petty revenge against those who&#39;ve wronged us. But there&#39;s a reason they say revenge is sweet.</p><p>A woman has <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/kcmpbx/aita_for_screwing_with_my_ex_and_his_assistant/">posted on Reddit</a> looking for advice after she got revenge on her ex&#39;s assistant. She feels the assistant has been messing with her for years, so she thinks she&#39;s in the clear for her actions.</p><h2>She and her ex have to stay in touch for custody reasons:</h2><blockquote> <p>My ex&rsquo;s assistant has disliked me since she started working for him. I have to stay in touch with my ex because we have a 9-month-old together. His schedule changes a lot so his assistant is supposed to let me know if there&rsquo;s a change which will mean he can&rsquo;t use his visitations and if he wants to reschedule the time.</p> </blockquote><h2>But the assistant keeps &quot;accidentally&quot; sending her the wrong things:</h2><blockquote> <p>She&rsquo;s started &ldquo;accidentally&rdquo; sending me his personal things. If he&rsquo;s making dinner arrangements with his current flavour of the week, she &ldquo;accidentally&rdquo; sends it to me asking to confirm when it&rsquo;s meant for someone else. She &ldquo;accidentally&rdquo; got two gifts mixed up, so she ended up sending me/our baby lingerie. There have been other things, but you get the idea.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>And including her on sexual calls:</h2><blockquote> <p>Last Tuesday, she &ldquo;accidentally&rdquo; called me whilst my ex was having a pretty sexual conversation with his best friend in which I came up an uncomfortable number of times. It was muffled but I heard way more than I wanted to.</p> <p>In the past, I would complain to my ex, but he always laughs her mistakes off and promises he&rsquo;ll have a word with her, but she keeps doing it.</p> </blockquote><h2>She decided to mess with him and the assistant:</h2><blockquote> <p>I was supposed to see my ex last Friday, but I was kind of annoyed with him, so I decided to screw with his assistant and him. I called her and told her he couldn&rsquo;t come on Friday because I had a date. On Friday, I called him when he didn&rsquo;t show and asked him why he didn&rsquo;t come. He ended up coming over later than he was supposed to, and he was sulking the whole time and kept complaining that he thought I was going on a date and he&rsquo;d need to have a word with his assistant about making mistakes because he had to cancel &quot;important&quot; plans to come over last minute.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Her ex got angry:</h2><blockquote> <p>I did end up telling him the truth after our son went to sleep and I confronted him about what he said. He denied it but then got angry at me for wasting his time and making him miss time with his son. He said I was being petty over small mistakes.</p> <p>I told my best friend what I did, and she said I was an AH because his assistant could get fired over this and I shouldn&#39;t have told him about hearing the call.</p> </blockquote><h2>Now she&#39;s wondering if she shouldn&#39;t have done that:</h2><blockquote> <p>I do feel kind of bad now but I&rsquo;m really sick of her making mistakes when it comes to me and getting away with it.</p> <p>So, [am I the a-hole]?</p> </blockquote><h2>The people of the internet are pretty torn on this one.</h2><p>Boguscertainty says she had every right to do what she did:</p><blockquote> <p>His assistant isn&#39;t making mistakes, she&#39;s (for lack of a better word) harassing you and it seems to mostly be sexual in nature. I&#39;m a strong believer that there is a time and a place for being petty and this was it.</p> <p>Start documenting every time it happens in case this somehow escalates.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>But greenseraphima thinks they&#39;re all being childish:</p><blockquote> <p>[Everyone sucks here]. Three grown adults playing stupid games at the expense of a child. Get a stricter visitation schedule and stop dealing with the assistant altogether.</p> </blockquote><p>But mikan-sakura145 is team mom:</p><blockquote> <p>start documenting everything for example: emails, texts, messages on Facebook- social media, voice mail, and start recording phone calls when you talk with her on the phone. Also hint that she&rsquo;s made some &ldquo;accidental&rdquo; mistakes too many times and if it keeps it up you&rsquo;ll take him to court and they will make those Visitations and decisions for him.</p> </blockquote><p>FeedThePug says this immature maneuver was justified:</p><blockquote> <p>Don&rsquo;t get me wrong, that was a dick move alright. But it was a relatable one. He didn&rsquo;t listen, so you made him see. She&rsquo;s obviously either a s*** stirrer or not very good at her job, so if she gets fired, that&rsquo;s totally on her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>PaperOperator has a more adult suggestion:</p><blockquote> <p>Stop dealing with the assistant. Put it in writing, send it to him and her, let them know you&rsquo;re not going to entertain the harassment anymore and if they have a problem with it you can take it to the mediator/judge. You&rsquo;re a grown woman and he&rsquo;s presumably a grown man, stop playing games with this little girl and get your s*** together.</p> </blockquote><p>KitnVixn thinks she shouldn&#39;t take it out on the assistant:</p><blockquote> <p>are you for certain it&#39;s the assistant and not him? Why would an assistant even do that? It seems like some passive agressive &quot;look at the sex I&#39;m having without you&quot; kinda gesture. Also his kid is more important than whatever late night romp he had planned.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Legitimate-Papaya-57 says it might not be the ex&#39;s fault at all:</p><blockquote> <p>Whether or not the assistant is doing this on purpose is irrelevant because you made him lose out on time with his child as well as punishing him for something that he had no control over. He is right, you are being petty.</p> </blockquote><h2>So there you have it. This is a sticky situation with no clear solution.</h2><p>But acting a little more mature might be a start for all three parties.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she's wrong for getting revenge on her ex's assistant.

We all know it&#39;s good to be the bigger person and not seek out petty revenge against those who&#39;ve wronged us. But there&#39;s a reason they say revenge is sweet.A woman has posted on Reddit looking for advice after she got revenge on her ex&#39;s assistant. She feels the assistant has been messing with her for years, so she thinks she&#39;s in the clear for her actions.She and her ex have to stay in touch for custody reasons: My ex&rsquo;s assistant has disliked me since she started working for him. I have to stay in touch with my ex because we have a 9-month-old together. His schedule changes a lot so his assistant is supposed to let me know if there&rsquo;s a change which will mean he can&rsquo;t use his visitations and if he wants to reschedule the time. But the assistant keeps &quot;accidentally&quot; sending her the wrong things: She&rsquo;s started &ldquo;accidentally&rdquo; sending me his personal things. If he&rsquo;s making dinner arrangements with his current flavour of the week, she &ldquo;accidentally&rdquo; sends it to me asking to confirm when it&rsquo;s meant for someone else. She &ldquo;accidentally&rdquo; got two gifts mixed up, so she ended up sending me/our baby lingerie. There have been other things, but you get the idea. And including her on sexual calls: Last Tuesday, she &ldquo;accidentally&rdquo; called me whilst my ex was having a pretty sexual conversation with his best friend in which I came up an uncomfortable number of times. It was muffled but I heard way more than I wanted to. In the past, I would complain to my ex, but he always laughs her mistakes off and promises he&rsquo;ll have a word with her, but she keeps doing it. She decided to mess with him and the assistant: I was supposed to see my ex last Friday, but I was kind of annoyed with him, so I decided to screw with his assistant and him. I called her and told her he couldn&rsquo;t come on Friday because I had a date. On Friday, I called him when he didn&rsquo;t show and asked him why he didn&rsquo;t come. He ended up coming over later than he was supposed to, and he was sulking the whole time and kept complaining that he thought I was going on a date and he&rsquo;d need to have a word with his assistant about making mistakes because he had to cancel &quot;important&quot; plans to come over last minute. Her ex got angry: I did end up telling him the truth after our son went to sleep and I confronted him about what he said. He denied it but then got angry at me for wasting his time and making him miss time with his son. He said I was being petty over small mistakes. I told my best friend what I did, and she said I was an AH because his assistant could get fired over this and I shouldn&#39;t have told him about hearing the call. Now she&#39;s wondering if she shouldn&#39;t have done that: I do feel kind of bad now but I&rsquo;m really sick of her making mistakes when it comes to me and getting away with it. So, [am I the a-hole]? The people of the internet are pretty torn on this one.Boguscertainty says she had every right to do what she did: His assistant isn&#39;t making mistakes, she&#39;s (for lack of a better word) harassing you and it seems to mostly be sexual in nature. I&#39;m a strong believer that there is a time and a place for being petty and this was it. Start documenting every time it happens in case this somehow escalates. But greenseraphima thinks they&#39;re all being childish: [Everyone sucks here]. Three grown adults playing stupid games at the expense of a child. Get a stricter visitation schedule and stop dealing with the assistant altogether. But mikan-sakura145 is team mom: start documenting everything for example: emails, texts, messages on Facebook- social media, voice mail, and start recording phone calls when you talk with her on the phone. Also hint that she&rsquo;s made some &ldquo;accidental&rdquo; mistakes too many times and if it keeps it up you&rsquo;ll take him to court and they will make those Visitations and decisions for him. FeedThePug says this immature maneuver was justified: Don&rsquo;t get me wrong, that was a dick move alright. But it was a relatable one. He didn&rsquo;t listen, so you made him see. She&rsquo;s obviously either a s*** stirrer or not very good at her job, so if she gets fired, that&rsquo;s totally on her. PaperOperator has a more adult suggestion: Stop dealing with the assistant. Put it in writing, send it to him and her, let them know you&rsquo;re not going to entertain the harassment anymore and if they have a problem with it you can take it to the mediator/judge. You&rsquo;re a grown woman and he&rsquo;s presumably a grown man, stop playing games with this little girl and get your s*** together. KitnVixn thinks she shouldn&#39;t take it out on the assistant: are you for certain it&#39;s the assistant and not him? Why would an assistant even do that? It seems like some passive agressive &quot;look at the sex I&#39;m having without you&quot; kinda gesture. Also his kid is more important than whatever late night romp he had planned. Legitimate-Papaya-57 says it might not be the ex&#39;s fault at all: Whether or not the assistant is doing this on purpose is irrelevant because you made him lose out on time with his child as well as punishing him for something that he had no control over. He is right, you are being petty. So there you have it. This is a sticky situation with no clear solution.But acting a little more mature might be a start for all three parties.

We all know it&#39;s good to be the bigger person and not seek out petty revenge against those who&#39;ve wronged us. But there&#39;s a reason they say revenge is sweet.  A woman has posted on Reddit looking for advice after she got...