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<p>When you&#39;re in a relationship and one person&#39;s chronically late while the other is a stickler for earliness, things can get heated.</p><p>One woman is<a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/lm24o3/aita_for_throwing_out_my_husbands_dinner/"> asking Reddit</a> whether she did the right thing by throwing her husband&#39;s dinner in the trash because she was so fed up with his lateness. Here&#39;s teh story.</p><h2>She says their division of household labor is pretty fair:</h2><blockquote> <p>My husband could burn cereal so I do all the cooking in the household, although he does balance the division of labor out pretty well with other chores. The problem is that he is chronically late for dinner.</p> </blockquote><h2>They&#39;ve established a regular dinner time:</h2><blockquote> <p>We agreed months ago to have dinner at 6:30 every night to try and get the problem under control, but it hasn&#39;t helped at at. Every day he gets home from work at 5:30, I remind him that dinner will be ready in exactly one hour and to make sure he is ready. Every. Single. Day. he sits down at the table 10 to 20 minutes late. Every single day he yells &quot;I&#39;ll be down in just a second!&quot; from his computer room while I am sitting there watching my food get cold.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Her husband gets annoyed if she starts eating without him:</h2><blockquote> <p>Sometimes I say &quot;f*** it&quot; and start eating my portion after it&#39;s clear that he&#39;s not going to be on time, which he is indifferent to mildly annoyed about depending on the day.</p> <p>Yesterday afternoon, he texts me that we need to push back dinner to 7:30 tonight because he is going to be working late. I say I&#39;m okay with that but he needs to be on time. He says of course.</p> </blockquote><h2>Here&#39;s when she had enough:</h2><blockquote> <p>He gets home at 6:45 while I am making dinner.</p> <p>At 7:20 I give him a heads up that he needs to be ready in ten minutes.</p> <p>At 7:30 I put food on the table. He yells down &quot;Sorry, sorry! I am literally coming in one minute.&quot;</p> <p>At 7:35 I pick up his plate and empty it into the garbage.</p> </blockquote><h2>He finally came down, and...:</h2><blockquote> <p>At 7:45 he comes downstairs and asks where his dinner is. I tell him that I threw it out because he couldn&#39;t be bothered to be on time. He says &quot;Are you f****** serious? What am I going to eat?&quot; and I say &quot;Whatever you make.&quot;</p> <p>He throws a fit and ends up eating a handful of granola bars from the pantry and slept in the spare bedroom last night, and it&#39;s been radio silence all day today.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>She says she &quot;snapped&quot;:</h2><blockquote> <p>I know I only waited five minutes but something about last night just made me snap. Like it&#39;s not bad enough that he is never ready on time, but he makes me wait even on the day that he specifically requested a certain time? I get home at 5 every day so I have almost no time to relax when I get home from work, while he has an hour every day to unwind and he still leaves me sitting at the table waiting for him.</p> </blockquote><h2>He thinks it was petty:</h2><blockquote> <p>During his fit he told me I was being petty throwing out his food, that it was a &quot;performance&quot; and I could have just eaten my meal without touching his food and that I&#39;m in the wrong for wasting food. I haven&#39;t stopped thinking about this situation all day and I don&#39;t know where I stand.</p> </blockquote><h2>The people of the internet say she has every right to be annoyed, while some add that she <em>maaaaybe</em> could&#39;ve waited more than five minutes.</h2><p>DisneyFoodie20 says:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>What the f*** is your husband doing that is so important that he can&rsquo;t come downstairs to eat dinner at a certain time? This is a problem people typically have with children, not grown a** adults. If he can&rsquo;t learn to respect the time and energy you put into having meals ready for him at a specific time of day, he can make the meals himself.</p> </blockquote><p>And alwaysonalongtrip says there&#39;s no point in waiting for him:</p><blockquote> <p>stop waiting for him. Make dinner and eat without him. He can eat his dinner cold. Then he can also figure out how to make up for the couple time you are missing.</p> </blockquote><p>Prawn_Vindaloo says:</p><blockquote> <p>Tossing his food was a bit of an overreaction, but he&#39;s throwing a fit over one disrespectful act after showing you months of chronic disrespect.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Draconicpotato says the husband had enough chances:</p><blockquote> <p>Lol sorry this made me chuckle a bit. Your husband sounds like a child. He was late multiple times before you took action. You were way more patient than I would&#39;ve been lol. Let him sulk. Hopefully this will be a lesson learned for him, and next time he won&#39;t be late.</p> </blockquote><p>MoodyStarGirl disagrees:</p><blockquote> <p> I&#39;m the main cook in my household, so i get the frustration but I also think a set dinner time is kind of patronizing. Eat when you want to eat, they can eat when they want to too. I&#39;d just be annoyed if they complained about the food being cold - like lol yeah.. my bf sometimes gets home after my own bedtime, so I just cook dinner and so it&#39;s their for when he gets home. I think I&#39;d also get annoyed if it was a special dinner/occasion... but idk.. </p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>And ruski101 agrees:</p><blockquote> <p>This seems extremely unnecessary to me. I live in a house with 6 people, if we agree dinner is at 5:30, people who want to eat start eating. It&#39;s your problem if you&#39;re late. Food gets cold sure, but why throw it out? There are times that I come down at 6 because I was busy.</p> </blockquote><p>They continue:</p><blockquote> <p>No one tells me that because I&#39;m late, I somehow forfeited my food. Do I now have to eat by myself? Yes. Do I have to make an effort to come down on time if I want to eat with my family? Yes.</p> <p>Seems like there&#39;s deeper rooted issues here than him not coming to eat on time.</p> </blockquote><p>jaccajjaccaj says it might be time to accept that he&#39;s never going to be on time:</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p> this is it. This is who he is. This is who he is going to be next week, and next year, and next decade. Are you ok with this? Because he is happy coming home and not seeing you, and then waiting until you&#39;re done eating and eating alone, and he&#39;s happy doing this even knowing that it makes you unhappy.</p> </blockquote><p>They continue:</p><blockquote> <p>You need to decide if you will live with this or not, because he&#39;s made his decision, and so you can choose to live with him not coming down to share a meal, or you can choose to break up, but &quot;husband comes down and enjoys eating dinner with me without making me wait&quot; is not an option you have.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>The woman responded to the comments, saying:</h2><blockquote> <p>I really appreciate all of the comments, I definitely have a lot to think about. My husband came home today with a combo meal, which he ate in the spare bedroom. I made dinner for just myself and have been downstairs on my phone reading this thread and thinking about the situation. He has not said anything to me since yesterday evening.</p> </blockquote><h2>Hope they figure this out...</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman asks if she was wrong for throwing out husband's dinner because he was late.

When you&#39;re in a relationship and one person&#39;s chronically late while the other is a stickler for earliness, things can get heated.One woman is asking Reddit whether she did the right thing by throwing her husband&#39;s dinner in the trash because she was so fed up with his lateness. Here&#39;s teh story.She says their division of household labor is pretty fair: My husband could burn cereal so I do all the cooking in the household, although he does balance the division of labor out pretty well with other chores. The problem is that he is chronically late for dinner. They&#39;ve established a regular dinner time: We agreed months ago to have dinner at 6:30 every night to try and get the problem under control, but it hasn&#39;t helped at at. Every day he gets home from work at 5:30, I remind him that dinner will be ready in exactly one hour and to make sure he is ready. Every. Single. Day. he sits down at the table 10 to 20 minutes late. Every single day he yells &quot;I&#39;ll be down in just a second!&quot; from his computer room while I am sitting there watching my food get cold. Her husband gets annoyed if she starts eating without him: Sometimes I say &quot;f*** it&quot; and start eating my portion after it&#39;s clear that he&#39;s not going to be on time, which he is indifferent to mildly annoyed about depending on the day. Yesterday afternoon, he texts me that we need to push back dinner to 7:30 tonight because he is going to be working late. I say I&#39;m okay with that but he needs to be on time. He says of course. Here&#39;s when she had enough: He gets home at 6:45 while I am making dinner. At 7:20 I give him a heads up that he needs to be ready in ten minutes. At 7:30 I put food on the table. He yells down &quot;Sorry, sorry! I am literally coming in one minute.&quot; At 7:35 I pick up his plate and empty it into the garbage. He finally came down, and...: At 7:45 he comes downstairs and asks where his dinner is. I tell him that I threw it out because he couldn&#39;t be bothered to be on time. He says &quot;Are you f****** serious? What am I going to eat?&quot; and I say &quot;Whatever you make.&quot; He throws a fit and ends up eating a handful of granola bars from the pantry and slept in the spare bedroom last night, and it&#39;s been radio silence all day today. She says she &quot;snapped&quot;: I know I only waited five minutes but something about last night just made me snap. Like it&#39;s not bad enough that he is never ready on time, but he makes me wait even on the day that he specifically requested a certain time? I get home at 5 every day so I have almost no time to relax when I get home from work, while he has an hour every day to unwind and he still leaves me sitting at the table waiting for him. He thinks it was petty: During his fit he told me I was being petty throwing out his food, that it was a &quot;performance&quot; and I could have just eaten my meal without touching his food and that I&#39;m in the wrong for wasting food. I haven&#39;t stopped thinking about this situation all day and I don&#39;t know where I stand. The people of the internet say she has every right to be annoyed, while some add that she maaaaybe could&#39;ve waited more than five minutes.DisneyFoodie20 says: What the f*** is your husband doing that is so important that he can&rsquo;t come downstairs to eat dinner at a certain time? This is a problem people typically have with children, not grown a** adults. If he can&rsquo;t learn to respect the time and energy you put into having meals ready for him at a specific time of day, he can make the meals himself. And alwaysonalongtrip says there&#39;s no point in waiting for him: stop waiting for him. Make dinner and eat without him. He can eat his dinner cold. Then he can also figure out how to make up for the couple time you are missing. Prawn_Vindaloo says: Tossing his food was a bit of an overreaction, but he&#39;s throwing a fit over one disrespectful act after showing you months of chronic disrespect. Draconicpotato says the husband had enough chances: Lol sorry this made me chuckle a bit. Your husband sounds like a child. He was late multiple times before you took action. You were way more patient than I would&#39;ve been lol. Let him sulk. Hopefully this will be a lesson learned for him, and next time he won&#39;t be late. MoodyStarGirl disagrees:  I&#39;m the main cook in my household, so i get the frustration but I also think a set dinner time is kind of patronizing. Eat when you want to eat, they can eat when they want to too. I&#39;d just be annoyed if they complained about the food being cold - like lol yeah.. my bf sometimes gets home after my own bedtime, so I just cook dinner and so it&#39;s their for when he gets home. I think I&#39;d also get annoyed if it was a special dinner/occasion... but idk..  And ruski101 agrees: This seems extremely unnecessary to me. I live in a house with 6 people, if we agree dinner is at 5:30, people who want to eat start eating. It&#39;s your problem if you&#39;re late. Food gets cold sure, but why throw it out? There are times that I come down at 6 because I was busy. They continue: No one tells me that because I&#39;m late, I somehow forfeited my food. Do I now have to eat by myself? Yes. Do I have to make an effort to come down on time if I want to eat with my family? Yes. Seems like there&#39;s deeper rooted issues here than him not coming to eat on time. jaccajjaccaj says it might be time to accept that he&#39;s never going to be on time:  this is it. This is who he is. This is who he is going to be next week, and next year, and next decade. Are you ok with this? Because he is happy coming home and not seeing you, and then waiting until you&#39;re done eating and eating alone, and he&#39;s happy doing this even knowing that it makes you unhappy. They continue: You need to decide if you will live with this or not, because he&#39;s made his decision, and so you can choose to live with him not coming down to share a meal, or you can choose to break up, but &quot;husband comes down and enjoys eating dinner with me without making me wait&quot; is not an option you have.  The woman responded to the comments, saying: I really appreciate all of the comments, I definitely have a lot to think about. My husband came home today with a combo meal, which he ate in the spare bedroom. I made dinner for just myself and have been downstairs on my phone reading this thread and thinking about the situation. He has not said anything to me since yesterday evening. Hope they figure this out...

When you&#39;re in a relationship and one person&#39;s chronically late while the other is a stickler for earliness, things can get heated.  One woman is asking Reddit whether she did the right thing by throwing her husband&#39;s dinner in...