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<p>Mothers-in-law: can&#39;t live with &#39;em...that&#39;s it. You just can&#39;t live with &#39;em.</p><p>Mothers-in-law are consistent winners in Most Passive-Aggressive Family Member competitions, excelling with special talents such as Giving Unsolicited Advice and Assuring You That You&#39;re Not Good Enough.</p><p>A mom who is eight weeks postpartum was NOT in the mood to deal with her mother-in-law, who has a habit of showing up unannounced and who refused and to listen after being confronted about it.</p><p>The daughter-in-law explained on <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/rpr3dl/aita_for_hiding_from_my_mil_and_pretending_not_to/">&quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot;</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I (32F) had a baby eight weeks ago and since then my MIL has had a habit of popping by without calling first. I have anxiety at the best of times but it&#39;s a bit worse right now and when she comes over (particularly when my husband is at work and not there to mediate).</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I find her constant stream of advice and thinly-veiled criticism (example: looking intently at the floor while saying, &quot;You must not have a vacuum cleaner. I&#39;ll bring one next time I&#39;m over&quot;) to be just too much to handle. Both my husband and I have asked that she call before coming over but she brushes it off, saying that family shouldn&#39;t have to call.</p> </blockquote><p>The mother-in-law was warned. She was given an explanation. Nevertheless, she persisted:</p><blockquote> <p>Last week I was having a rough day and was tired as the baby had been up in the night more than usual. I looked out the bedroom window to see my MIL walking through the front gate and I honestly wanted to cry. I&#39;m not proud of it, but I sat on the floor of the bedroom ignoring the doorbell until she went away.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I felt really bad after, because she doesn&#39;t drive and I knew it would have taken her a 20-minute bus ride to get to our house, just to have to turn around and go back.</p> </blockquote><p>The MIL went and complained to her son, who brought it up to his wife...</p><blockquote> <p>Apparently she called my husband at work to let him know that she&#39;d tried to visit me, because he called home to see if everything was okay and I told him she must have come while I was out with the baby for a walk, because I didn&#39;t want to admit that I had hidden from his mother.</p> </blockquote><p>...and kept bringing it up to her, even during the holidays.</p><blockquote> <p>That evening when he got home he noticed that the baby&#39;s stroller was in the corner with the diaper bag in it, as he&#39;d left it the previous day, so he figured out I hadn&#39;t taken the baby for a walk after all.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>I admitted that I hadn&#39;t answered the door for his mom even though I was home and he said that he knows she can be difficult, but that it was still an AH move to make her spend 40 minutes on transit to not even see me or her grandchild. He brought it up a couple of times over the holidays (just to me - he didn&#39;t tell her) and now I feel like maybe I did something really awful.</p> </blockquote><p>The Reddit Jury sympathized with the new mom, and insisted that the mother-in-law has only herself to blame for wasting time with the commute.</p><p>&quot;NTA (Not The A**hole) she has to call before coming, the fact that she sat in the bus for 40 min without seeing her grand child is her own problem,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/whateveryoubench/">whateveryoubench</a> wrote.</p><p>&quot;Yes MIL brought it on herself by not informing an upcoming visit. Too bad,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/little_munkin79/">little_munkin79</a> agreed.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>&quot;You should come to her house at a very bad time for her, like very early morning or while she is busy, and say that family shouldn&#39;t have to call to come over,&quot; <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/retiredcoin/">retiredcoin</a> jokingly pitched.</p><p>Family should call, and family should learn boundaries.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Mom asks if she was wrong for pretending not to be home when MIL came over.

Mothers-in-law: can&#39;t live with &#39;em...that&#39;s it. You just can&#39;t live with &#39;em.Mothers-in-law are consistent winners in Most Passive-Aggressive Family Member competitions, excelling with special talents such as Giving Unsolicited Advice and Assuring You That You&#39;re Not Good Enough.A mom who is eight weeks postpartum was NOT in the mood to deal with her mother-in-law, who has a habit of showing up unannounced and who refused and to listen after being confronted about it.The daughter-in-law explained on &quot;Am I The A**hole?&quot;: I (32F) had a baby eight weeks ago and since then my MIL has had a habit of popping by without calling first. I have anxiety at the best of times but it&#39;s a bit worse right now and when she comes over (particularly when my husband is at work and not there to mediate).  I find her constant stream of advice and thinly-veiled criticism (example: looking intently at the floor while saying, &quot;You must not have a vacuum cleaner. I&#39;ll bring one next time I&#39;m over&quot;) to be just too much to handle. Both my husband and I have asked that she call before coming over but she brushes it off, saying that family shouldn&#39;t have to call. The mother-in-law was warned. She was given an explanation. Nevertheless, she persisted: Last week I was having a rough day and was tired as the baby had been up in the night more than usual. I looked out the bedroom window to see my MIL walking through the front gate and I honestly wanted to cry. I&#39;m not proud of it, but I sat on the floor of the bedroom ignoring the doorbell until she went away.  I felt really bad after, because she doesn&#39;t drive and I knew it would have taken her a 20-minute bus ride to get to our house, just to have to turn around and go back. The MIL went and complained to her son, who brought it up to his wife... Apparently she called my husband at work to let him know that she&#39;d tried to visit me, because he called home to see if everything was okay and I told him she must have come while I was out with the baby for a walk, because I didn&#39;t want to admit that I had hidden from his mother. ...and kept bringing it up to her, even during the holidays. That evening when he got home he noticed that the baby&#39;s stroller was in the corner with the diaper bag in it, as he&#39;d left it the previous day, so he figured out I hadn&#39;t taken the baby for a walk after all.  I admitted that I hadn&#39;t answered the door for his mom even though I was home and he said that he knows she can be difficult, but that it was still an AH move to make her spend 40 minutes on transit to not even see me or her grandchild. He brought it up a couple of times over the holidays (just to me - he didn&#39;t tell her) and now I feel like maybe I did something really awful. The Reddit Jury sympathized with the new mom, and insisted that the mother-in-law has only herself to blame for wasting time with the commute.&quot;NTA (Not The A**hole) she has to call before coming, the fact that she sat in the bus for 40 min without seeing her grand child is her own problem,&quot; whateveryoubench wrote.&quot;Yes MIL brought it on herself by not informing an upcoming visit. Too bad,&quot; little_munkin79 agreed.&quot;You should come to her house at a very bad time for her, like very early morning or while she is busy, and say that family shouldn&#39;t have to call to come over,&quot; retiredcoin jokingly pitched.Family should call, and family should learn boundaries.

Mothers-in-law: can&#39;t live with &#39;em...that&#39;s it. You just can&#39;t live with &#39;em.  Mothers-in-law are consistent winners in Most Passive-Aggressive Family Member competitions, excelling with special talents such as Giving...