It might come as a surprise to some people, but it's possible to be a jerk while telling somebody that you love them and want to spend your life with them.
A guy on Reddit asked, "Am I The A**hole for proposing to my girlfriend in a way she didn't like?"
The headline implies that she was being a snob, but the situation is more nuanced that that.
The Maybe-Groom-To-Be wrote:
I (34 m) have been seeing my girlfriend (28 f) for 4 years.
We've talked about marriage and kids in passing, it's always been something we're both open to, but we're both quite career-minded and that's been our focus.
She and her brother both often joke/complain about the pressure they feel from their parents to get married (he's been in a relationship longer than we have and still not engaged), and I've seen as well how it's something their parents drop unsubtle hints about all the time. I don't think they mean it to feel like pressure - they just want their kids to be happy, and they want to be grandparents.
Anyway, I've been thinking about it a lot lately. I've reached that point in my life where marriage is increasingly appealing. I'm ready to make that commitment, and I know she's the one for me.