A woman is wondering if she's a hero or a villain for refusing to go to her cousin's wedding in the name of feminism.
The wedding will be in January 2021, and she won't be there because of the wording on the envelope, and she turned to "Am I The A**hole?" for validation. She wrote:
My cousin [30M] is getting married to his girlfriend of 4 years, [29F]. The wedding will be in January 2021 and the invitations arrived 2 days ago. His girlfriend's family is very rich/formal and the invitations reflected that.
My husband and I [27F] received the invite in the mail, and they were addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith." I was livid, because they totally erased my name and my identity by referring to me as an extension of my husband. My husband thought it was old fashioned but he didn't think it was offensive.