Divorce makes weddings complicated.
A dad is inquiring on "Am I The A**hole?" whether he'd be a jerk to threaten not to attend his daughters' weddings if they refuse to invite his wife, their stepmom.
In the soap opera version of the story, the stepmom is an extremely younger woman who broke up their parents' marriage, but this dad wasn't the cheater, he was the cheatee.
My two younger daughters (27 and 30) are both getting married next year. Their mother and I divorced 13 years ago. It was a bad breakup when I caught her in an affair but she didn’t want to divorce.
Anyways, I’ve remarried to my current wife for 8 years now and we’re very happy to have found each other.
The issue: when my oldest daughter got married, my wife wasn’t invited to spare my ex-wife’s feelings. She struggled to recover from the split and never remarried nor dated. We’re now on amicable terms but she still tries to “rekindle” things even though I’ve shut her down too many times to count. Regardless, for my oldest’s wedding my wife stayed home to keep the peace.