Man asks if he's wrong for refusing to let fiancé buy the wedding dress she wants.

It's a classic He Posted, She Posted.

A guy's post on Reddit complaining about his fiancé's dream wedding dress resulted in the wedding being called off.

The saga begins—like most internet dramas do—with a man kvetching about his partner, a woman who is a decade younger. Because his fiancé Emma has a Reddit account, he made a throwaway profile called 'josh8449.' He might have been smart enough to change his name, but not smart enough to change hers.

The dude, who claims to be 38, asked, 'Am I the a-hole for telling my fiancee [a 27-year-old female] her wedding dress choice is way too extravagant and suggesting alternatives?'

He opens the post by explaining how fiscally responsible he is, especially compared to his betrothed:

We are getting married in July of this year, the venue is booked and the wedding is pretty much sorted. Emma has been researching dresses and has a little scrap book of lots of dresses she likes for ideas but is now looking to buy.

All that's left to get is the bridesmaid dresses and her wedding dress. We jointly put aside 10k each for the wedding, everything is paid and we have 6k left over which i think could go towards the honeymoon on top of the honeymoon fund we already had.

We aren't the extravagant type at all, then comes the time for Emma to pick her dress. I know everything is more expensive when it has the term wedding attached to it what i wasn't expecting was an $950 dress plus $120 veil!

He then explains just how little his outfit will cost (it's free), and just how much of a 'diva' Emma is being by wanting a wedding dress that's over $100 and fitted:

I'm using my dad's old tux he used for his wedding to my mom, just had it taken in a little, Emma can't use her mum's dress as her and her mum both say the style hasn't aged well which is fair. I had a quick Google around at dresses online and there were so many! And so many just like the one emma wants for like $50 to $100.

I'm not trying to get her to cheap out on her dress but she will literally wear it once, one dress for over $1000 is just insane that would fund our honeymoon . I tried to show her some dresses i found on a recommended app called Wish and others on websites but she was having none of it. She is very slender but apparently wants it specially fitted?

While Emma argues that it's her prerogative to buy a wedding dress-price level wedding dress because it's her own money, Josh argues that it's not exactly her money because it'll become his money as soon as they are wed.

It turned nasty unfortunately because i said i refuse to drop such a large amount of money on a dress and she argued that she is using her own money for the dress. Which isn't strictly true as we ate about to marry and our finances will be joined.

Then her mom had to get involved, they offered to pay for the dress but it's not a case of not being able to afford it. It's a dress! there are identical one's online at a fraction of the cost. I thought she would be ecstatic to learn there are identical dresses for a fraction of the cost but she was really angry and upset.

Now here's the part where he asks if he's an a-hole:

AITA here? Is there something I am seriously missing because after we argued about the dress Emma has been extremely cold towards me. Then yesterday she said if i want her to cheap out on her wedding dress on her wedding day that she needs to really consider if we are a good match for marriage.

I'm blown away that she would say that over a dress, I told her she's like a toddler throwing a tantrum over a sparkly toy she can't have, that was a mistake as she left to stay with her parent's, who called to tell me I am much more than an a**hole.

AITA here?

The AITA jury responded with a resounding 'YES!'

'[You're The A**hole]. You say you don't want her to cheap out, but then you say you want her to buy a $50 -$100 wedding dress. That's cheap. That's cheap even for a regular dress.

Those cheap dresses you're finding online will look terrible in person and are the source of so many disappointed women and jokes. Wedding dresses and their tailoring are expensive. $1000 is actually a low priced dress,' milee30 calmly explained.

'Regardless of dress type, though, your reaction to her - calling her names and deciding you have veto power - is the real problem. You should be solving this issue together. If you can't, maybe it's not time to get married yet.'

Now here's the part where it gets juicier than your average post: despite the fool-proof method of describing their exact situation under a different username, Emma saw the post, so Josh provided an update:

EDIT: Emma found this thread, it was a mistake to post here and im sorry i posted our problems on reddit, [I Am The A**hole]

A Redditor claiming to be Emma posted on r/Relationships explaining why she called off the wedding, and that the original poster lied about her age.

The now-deleted post is called 'Me [23 F] with my fiancee [43 M] of 1 and a half years, he has humiliated me just a few months before our wedding over my dress and I don't know what to do.'

'I picked a very simple and traditional gown that was already discounted as it is a...sample gown. My absolute idiot of a fiancee decided to post to a subreddit asking for opinions, or more likely validation, on whether I was being unreasonable,' she wrote. 'My dress is under 1000 dollars but will come to around 1500 with alterations.'

She found the thread not only because it included her real name, but 'his throwaway was his real name followed by his alarm pin!'

Josh denied making the post, but Emma said that it's not the first time he kvetched about her on Reddit.

'He got utterly [hammered] last night and called my parents, my dad had to hang up on him because he was screaming down the phone and my mom was disgusted,' she added.

The whole story is sad and scary, and this Josh guy frankly sucks.

Emma deserves an age-appropriate dude who won't undermine her at every turn, while trying to rally the internet against her.

As do you, dear reader. Nobody deserves a Josh.