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When it comes to online dating, the struggle is real. Weeding through the seemingly endless dating profiles, swiping left and right, and dealing with creepy come ons, can be discouraging to say the least. Women on this Ask Reddit thread are sharing their tips for weeding out the creeps as quickly as possible. <h2>What is your best tactic for weeding out creepy people on dating apps?</h2>1. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/flandyow/">flandyow</a> writes:<blockquote> I had 3 rules that weeded out a lot of people </blockquote><blockquote> - if they start talking about a second date before the first has even happened ❌ expecting too much from you too fast - if all they say is hey how was your day? ❌ Ya boring - if you get mad I don&#39;t respond back within 1-2 hours ❌ you probably have severe anxiety or control issues </blockquote>2. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ZodiacPainkiller/">ZodiacPainkiller</a> says:<div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> My left to right swiping ratio is about 20 to 1; I&#39;ve dated enough that I can kind of judge what types of profiles belong to men I just won&#39;t vibe with. </blockquote><blockquote> Beyond that, it&#39;s sort of out of your control what they say to you. Anyone who wants to meet up the day of, stay clear of. And if they say something inappropriate, I love firing back with a &quot;why would you think that&#39;s an ok thing to say to someone?&quot; and then watch them flounder for a couple of lines before I hit the report button. </blockquote>Why waste time with a loser when you could be at home drinking wine and watching Netflix with your dog, am I right? Everyone has different things they are looking for from a potential date. You have to weed out the people who you know won&#39;t be a match, especially if you are looking for &quot;the one&quot; and not just a one-night stand. <div className="ad-splitter"></div>3. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Jilltro/">Jilltro</a> adds:<blockquote> I met my husband and one of my best friends on a dating app. You have to set your standards high and not settle (also good advice for dating in general lol.) I started out making so many mistakes and giving so many people the benefit of the doubt so learn from my errors. </blockquote><blockquote> I don&rsquo;t answer messages that just say &ldquo;hey&rdquo; or &ldquo;how are you?&rdquo; I answer messages that show they read my profile and put a tiny bit of effort in. Doesn&rsquo;t have to be long or complicated. </blockquote><blockquote> If a guy makes a sexual statement of any kind he&rsquo;s out. I&rsquo;m sex-positive but to me, it&rsquo;s about respect. If I haven&rsquo;t indicated I&rsquo;m interested in a hookup and we haven&rsquo;t even MET yet I don&rsquo;t need to hear about your dick or how much you want to &ldquo;cuddle&rdquo; or whatever. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> Also, don&rsquo;t wait too long to meet up in person! Obviously, you want to make sure you&rsquo;re comfortable first and always meet in public and use your own transportation. </blockquote><blockquote> But sometimes you can get emotionally invested in who you think someone is online and then you meet in person and there&rsquo;s no spark or he doesn&rsquo;t like you and it&rsquo;s a huge letdown and very frustrating. </blockquote>For me personally, it is a huge red flag if someone negs me. You haven&#39;t even met me and you&#39;re already insulting me? Dude no. Also, I&#39;m out of there if someone gets too sexual right off the bat. Damn, buy me a drink first, ya horn dog. 4.<a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/melodiousmaple/">melodiousmaple</a> writes:<blockquote> My very best tip is to message back and forth a bit and then don&#39;t respond for 24-48 hours. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> A normal person will either 1) not send you more messages in that time frame or </blockquote><blockquote> 2) send you one more message like &quot;hey saw this meme and thought of you&quot; or &quot;so what&#39;s your favorite zoo animal.&quot; </blockquote><blockquote> An insane person will message you a bunch more, call you a bitch, say &quot;you&#39;re too ugly anyway,&quot; etc. </blockquote>5. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/PunkandCannonballer/">PunkandCannonballer</a> says:<blockquote> At the profile- no one who&#39;s defensive (&quot;I&#39;m sorry I&#39;m not 7 feet tall&quot;). No one who is way too keen on the one specific hobby (the dead deer/caught fish/workout photos). There&#39;s a fine line between self-deprecating and self-pity. The first is attractive. </blockquote><blockquote> After match- a conversation that&#39;s slow. Most don&#39;t have the patience for a long con. Might even purposefully be slow to respond just to see how they handle like a day between a message. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> Then there are the political lines to be sure of. &quot;Hey, sorry I&#39;ve been busy talking to my best friend. She just had an abortion and is struggling.&quot; &quot;Decided to stay in because a friend of mine was too stupid to be vaccinated.&quot; </blockquote><blockquote> Then there are some fun questions to see if we actually get along and share interests. &quot;What&#39;s your least favorite book?&quot; &quot;What movie do you love that everyone else hates?&quot; &quot;Thoughts on giraffes?&quot; </blockquote>6. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/flamingolion/">flamingolion</a> writes:<blockquote> Trust your instincts is a way overused trope&hellip; but understand the signals which are making you feel an instinctive negative feeling. I&rsquo;ve found I can intuit a lot just from their profile and have done a lot of online dating and never had a date with a creep. I don&rsquo;t think I have unique intuition or a uniquely long vetting process though I just trust my judgement. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> More practical advice, creep signs: </blockquote><blockquote> -any sexual messages ever or anything sexual in bio - even if a hookup if it&rsquo;s brought up before in person he&rsquo;s a creep </blockquote><blockquote> -negging </blockquote><blockquote> -bathroom selfies or one poorly angled under chin face selfie </blockquote><blockquote> -having too few pictures or no pics show his teeth or eyes or hair (like sunglasses and hat and far away all pics) </blockquote><blockquote> -being too focused on your appearance in messages </blockquote>7. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Ferretastic359/">Ferretastic359</a> writes:<blockquote> First one is &quot;before the swipe&quot;. No guys with shirtless pics (that might be a superstition of mine, but I stand by it). </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> No guys with a passive aggressive tone (&quot;I&#39;m 6&#39;2 because apparently that matters here&quot;). No guys with identifiable children in their profile (either clickbait or too stupid to protect the kids in his family). No dudes who go crazy on the cars/fishing/hunting front. No gym rats (in my experience they only want to hook up. </blockquote><blockquote> An interesting person has additional hobbies he can present). No &quot;trashy&quot; profiles. No face tattoos. Only pictures where you can see the face and the body clearly. No dudes with a 6+ years age gap. </blockquote><blockquote> I usually text with them for a bit to see if they take the initiative to ask me out in a reasonable manner. Weeds out the booty calls. </blockquote><blockquote> When they suggest a meet up I either deny &quot;because I&#39;m not comfortable yet&quot; or reschedule once &quot;because I don&#39;t feel too good&quot;. Weeds out the guys who can&#39;t handle rejection. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> I touch political topics with them. Usually, I throw them a bait of &quot;an acquaintances wife&quot; or whoever who currently suffers from things that are important to me, like abortion, DV, whatever. I start the story in a neutral way to see where they go. If they hold back and have me give a tone, I stay relatively neutral but condone that womans behavior slightly. Weeds out the anti-feminists. </blockquote><blockquote> Unmatch everyone who &quot;has the wrong age displayed, but IDK how to change it, lol&quot;. They&#39;re lying. If what they say was true they would&#39;ve announced the malfunction in their profile. Weeds out some of the liars. </blockquote><blockquote> These are the ones that just came to my mind. I&#39;m out of the game for a while, but these are the ones still very present on my mind. </blockquote><blockquote> Always let a trusted friend of yours know when you&#39;re on a date and where you are. Stay safe! I wish you all the best! </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>8. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/MerakDubhe/">MerakDubhe</a> says:<blockquote> I start the filtering on my own profile. It said I am a feminist, so the guys who matched me/talked to me knew what they were gonna find. </blockquote><blockquote> And it worked. I met my boyfriend about seven months ago. </blockquote>9. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/KentuckyFriedEel/">KentuckyFriedEel</a> writes:<blockquote> Add guys that make weed or drinking their primary personality trait </blockquote>10. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/-wafflelove/">-wafflelove</a> knows a red flag when they sees one:<blockquote> When he sends a dickpic 🙈 </blockquote>11. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/intentamos_de_nuevo/">intentamos_de_nuevo</a> writes:<blockquote> I actually don&#39;t care if a guy shares the same hobbies, but they have to be hobbies that I could see myself participating in. If it&#39;s just cars and football, I have to pass </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>12. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/IQpretty/">IQpretty</a> adds:<blockquote> Hard pass on any of the following phrases: </blockquote><blockquote> here for a good time, not for a long time -looking for the next Mrs. -looking for a woman who brings something to the table </blockquote><blockquote> currently separated, seeing what&#39;s out there, in an open relationship </blockquote><blockquote> want someone who brings out the best in me -any questions just ask </blockquote><blockquote> let&#39;s just see where it goes -no gold diggers, cheaters or high drama </blockquote>13. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/searedscallops/">searedscallops</a> makes a good point:<blockquote> Ask yourself &quot;Is this person cooler than me spending time doing my favorite hobbies?&quot; Most people aren&#39;t. </blockquote>14. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/anon023191/">anon023191</a> says:<div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> I would ask them questions specific to my beliefs, politically and religiously. It weeded out 99% in the first few questions </blockquote>15. <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/justsimplyq/">justsimplyq</a> writes:<blockquote> Only way to avoid the creeps: Delete the app. Just don&rsquo;t even do it. </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

15 women share their best tactics for weeding out creeps on dating apps.

When it comes to online dating, the struggle is real. Weeding through the seemingly endless dating profiles, swiping left and right, and dealing with creepy come ons, can be discouraging to say the least. Women on this Ask Reddit thread are sharing their tips for weeding out the creeps as quickly as possible. What is your best tactic for weeding out creepy people on dating apps?1. flandyow writes: I had 3 rules that weeded out a lot of people  - if they start talking about a second date before the first has even happened ❌ expecting too much from you too fast - if all they say is hey how was your day? ❌ Ya boring - if you get mad I don&#39;t respond back within 1-2 hours ❌ you probably have severe anxiety or control issues 2. ZodiacPainkiller says: My left to right swiping ratio is about 20 to 1; I&#39;ve dated enough that I can kind of judge what types of profiles belong to men I just won&#39;t vibe with.    Beyond that, it&#39;s sort of out of your control what they say to you. Anyone who wants to meet up the day of, stay clear of. And if they say something inappropriate, I love firing back with a &quot;why would you think that&#39;s an ok thing to say to someone?&quot; and then watch them flounder for a couple of lines before I hit the report button. Why waste time with a loser when you could be at home drinking wine and watching Netflix with your dog, am I right? Everyone has different things they are looking for from a potential date. You have to weed out the people who you know won&#39;t be a match, especially if you are looking for &quot;the one&quot; and not just a one-night stand. 3. Jilltro adds: I met my husband and one of my best friends on a dating app. You have to set your standards high and not settle (also good advice for dating in general lol.) I started out making so many mistakes and giving so many people the benefit of the doubt so learn from my errors.  I don&rsquo;t answer messages that just say &ldquo;hey&rdquo; or &ldquo;how are you?&rdquo; I answer messages that show they read my profile and put a tiny bit of effort in. Doesn&rsquo;t have to be long or complicated.  If a guy makes a sexual statement of any kind he&rsquo;s out. I&rsquo;m sex-positive but to me, it&rsquo;s about respect. If I haven&rsquo;t indicated I&rsquo;m interested in a hookup and we haven&rsquo;t even MET yet I don&rsquo;t need to hear about your dick or how much you want to &ldquo;cuddle&rdquo; or whatever.  Also, don&rsquo;t wait too long to meet up in person! Obviously, you want to make sure you&rsquo;re comfortable first and always meet in public and use your own transportation.  But sometimes you can get emotionally invested in who you think someone is online and then you meet in person and there&rsquo;s no spark or he doesn&rsquo;t like you and it&rsquo;s a huge letdown and very frustrating. For me personally, it is a huge red flag if someone negs me. You haven&#39;t even met me and you&#39;re already insulting me? Dude no. Also, I&#39;m out of there if someone gets too sexual right off the bat. Damn, buy me a drink first, ya horn dog. 4.melodiousmaple writes: My very best tip is to message back and forth a bit and then don&#39;t respond for 24-48 hours.  A normal person will either 1) not send you more messages in that time frame or  2) send you one more message like &quot;hey saw this meme and thought of you&quot; or &quot;so what&#39;s your favorite zoo animal.&quot;  An insane person will message you a bunch more, call you a bitch, say &quot;you&#39;re too ugly anyway,&quot; etc. 5. PunkandCannonballer says: At the profile- no one who&#39;s defensive (&quot;I&#39;m sorry I&#39;m not 7 feet tall&quot;). No one who is way too keen on the one specific hobby (the dead deer/caught fish/workout photos). There&#39;s a fine line between self-deprecating and self-pity. The first is attractive.  After match- a conversation that&#39;s slow. Most don&#39;t have the patience for a long con. Might even purposefully be slow to respond just to see how they handle like a day between a message.  Then there are the political lines to be sure of. &quot;Hey, sorry I&#39;ve been busy talking to my best friend. She just had an abortion and is struggling.&quot; &quot;Decided to stay in because a friend of mine was too stupid to be vaccinated.&quot;  Then there are some fun questions to see if we actually get along and share interests. &quot;What&#39;s your least favorite book?&quot; &quot;What movie do you love that everyone else hates?&quot; &quot;Thoughts on giraffes?&quot; 6. flamingolion writes: Trust your instincts is a way overused trope&hellip; but understand the signals which are making you feel an instinctive negative feeling. I&rsquo;ve found I can intuit a lot just from their profile and have done a lot of online dating and never had a date with a creep. I don&rsquo;t think I have unique intuition or a uniquely long vetting process though I just trust my judgement.  More practical advice, creep signs:  -any sexual messages ever or anything sexual in bio - even if a hookup if it&rsquo;s brought up before in person he&rsquo;s a creep  -negging  -bathroom selfies or one poorly angled under chin face selfie  -having too few pictures or no pics show his teeth or eyes or hair (like sunglasses and hat and far away all pics)  -being too focused on your appearance in messages 7. Ferretastic359 writes: First one is &quot;before the swipe&quot;. No guys with shirtless pics (that might be a superstition of mine, but I stand by it).  No guys with a passive aggressive tone (&quot;I&#39;m 6&#39;2 because apparently that matters here&quot;). No guys with identifiable children in their profile (either clickbait or too stupid to protect the kids in his family). No dudes who go crazy on the cars/fishing/hunting front. No gym rats (in my experience they only want to hook up.  An interesting person has additional hobbies he can present). No &quot;trashy&quot; profiles. No face tattoos. Only pictures where you can see the face and the body clearly. No dudes with a 6+ years age gap.  I usually text with them for a bit to see if they take the initiative to ask me out in a reasonable manner. Weeds out the booty calls.  When they suggest a meet up I either deny &quot;because I&#39;m not comfortable yet&quot; or reschedule once &quot;because I don&#39;t feel too good&quot;. Weeds out the guys who can&#39;t handle rejection.  I touch political topics with them. Usually, I throw them a bait of &quot;an acquaintances wife&quot; or whoever who currently suffers from things that are important to me, like abortion, DV, whatever. I start the story in a neutral way to see where they go. If they hold back and have me give a tone, I stay relatively neutral but condone that womans behavior slightly. Weeds out the anti-feminists.  Unmatch everyone who &quot;has the wrong age displayed, but IDK how to change it, lol&quot;. They&#39;re lying. If what they say was true they would&#39;ve announced the malfunction in their profile. Weeds out some of the liars.  These are the ones that just came to my mind. I&#39;m out of the game for a while, but these are the ones still very present on my mind.  Always let a trusted friend of yours know when you&#39;re on a date and where you are. Stay safe! I wish you all the best! 8. MerakDubhe says: I start the filtering on my own profile. It said I am a feminist, so the guys who matched me/talked to me knew what they were gonna find.  And it worked. I met my boyfriend about seven months ago. 9. KentuckyFriedEel writes: Add guys that make weed or drinking their primary personality trait 10. -wafflelove knows a red flag when they sees one: When he sends a dickpic 🙈 11. intentamos_de_nuevo writes: I actually don&#39;t care if a guy shares the same hobbies, but they have to be hobbies that I could see myself participating in. If it&#39;s just cars and football, I have to pass 12. IQpretty adds: Hard pass on any of the following phrases:  here for a good time, not for a long time -looking for the next Mrs. -looking for a woman who brings something to the table  currently separated, seeing what&#39;s out there, in an open relationship  want someone who brings out the best in me -any questions just ask  let&#39;s just see where it goes -no gold diggers, cheaters or high drama 13. searedscallops makes a good point: Ask yourself &quot;Is this person cooler than me spending time doing my favorite hobbies?&quot; Most people aren&#39;t. 14. anon023191 says: I would ask them questions specific to my beliefs, politically and religiously. It weeded out 99% in the first few questions 15. justsimplyq writes: Only way to avoid the creeps: Delete the app. Just don&rsquo;t even do it. 

When it comes to online dating, the struggle is real. Weeding through the seemingly endless dating profiles, swiping left and right, and dealing with creepy come ons, can be discouraging to say the least. Women on this Ask Reddit thread...