Weddings

<p>Your wedding day is supposed to be one of the most special times of your life. You spend a ton of money, all your friends and family fly in from around the world, everyone gets dressed up, and there&#39;s even a professional photographer. It&#39;s one occasion you definitely don&#39;t want to be ruined by someone trying to start some sh*t.</p><p>Reddit user <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Aggravating-Yam399/">u/Aggravating-Yam399</a> recently had to uninvite her fianc&eacute;&#39;s brother&#39;s new girlfriend from her wedding because she caused major drama at her bridal shower. The future in-laws are mad enough to make this frustrated bride ask:</p><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/sbmcd0/aita_for_uninviting_my_fianc%C3%A9s_brothers_new/">AITA</a> (Am I the As*hole) for uninviting my fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s brother&rsquo;s new girlfriend from the wedding after she caused a scene?</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>So it&rsquo;s only 2 weeks before the wedding and my fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s brother&rsquo;s (let&rsquo;s call him John M21) new girlfriend (let&rsquo;s call her Betty F18) caused a lot of drama at the bridal shower this past weekend.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>This has been an ongoing problem since they started dating. They got a promise ring shortly after dating which I have no problem with at all, but at the bridal shower, she used it to brag a lot and kept making comments such as calling my fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s mom her mother in law and she said to me I&rsquo;d soon be part of the family as though she is already married to John.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She also spread a rumour about one of the nicest ladies at the bridal shower (my neighbour) saying she had flirted with Betty&rsquo;s father (not FIL, her real father), which was merely impossible as she is married and is one of the most kind-hearted people I know and has never met Betty (we asked the neighbour if she was indeed at the pub where Betty works at the previous night where Betty claimed it happened and the neighbour said no she was at home).</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>A lot more went down and after Betty was extremely rude to my Maid of Honour I had to go up to her and ask her to stop being rude to my guests and to please stop gossiping. Shortly thereafter a lady on their table came up to me and asked to sit with me as she couldn&rsquo;t stand the bad-mouthing by Betty at the table.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My MOH then took it upon herself to uninvite Betty as she caused a lot of problems and generally just took away from one of the special moments in my life, after she sent her a message Betty simply ignored it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My MOH then told me about this and I decided that she was right as it is her duty to make the wedding run smoothly and as this has happened so many times before.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My Fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s father thinks I&rsquo;m tearing the family apart for uninviting her, even after I said that John was still to come as a groomsman and as my fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s brother. My fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s dad and brother have decided that if Betty is not invited they would not attend either.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>(I left out a lot of her actions as I did not want to elaborate on everything)</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m honestly stuck as to what to do, my fianc&eacute; feels that if his family chooses John&rsquo;s new girlfriend over his wedding then they don&rsquo;t care about him enough, it hurts to be in this situation. We want our wedding to run smoothly and drama free and Betty might not make this possible, so AITA for uninviting Betty?</p> </blockquote><p>Do you think that the bride-to-be was right to uninvite her fianc&eacute;&#39;s brother&#39;s girlfriend? The users of Reddit did not. They declared her &quot;Not the As*hole&quot; and offered her some solid advice for the big day.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/LittleRedCarnation/">LittleRedCarnation</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA Betty&rsquo;s gonna show up in a glittery white ball gown with a veil. And then say random people are fucking in the bathroom and your new husband hit on her right before the ceremony. Then probably announce her fake pregnancy. Hire security.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Brilliant-Trifle-954/">Brilliant-Trifle-954</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA Your wedding is your special day. You deserve to be happy with as little stress as possible. If she isn&rsquo;t willing to do that for you, she doesn&rsquo;t need to be there. If your other in-laws don&rsquo;t understand that, neither do they. Enjoy your big day. Congratulations!</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ayoitsjo/">ayoitsjo</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>The brother being stupid and picking his 6-month relationship over his family is awful and dumb, but what REALLY boggles my mind is that the future FIL is also dying on this hill??</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Like what connection does FIL have to this girl that he is literally choosing some rando who just started dating his one son over his other son&#39;s major life landmark, his actual <em>wedding</em></p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>NTA it will suck and I feel really bad for the fiance, but there is a pretty solid chance she would ruin the wedding and she should not be there.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/navykymmy/">navykymmy</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>I think if they give in a &ldquo;re&rdquo; invite her, it will just make things worse. At that point, the BIL &amp;FIL will know or feel they&rsquo;ve won and will be able to steamroll you in the future. And &ldquo;Betty&rdquo; would just be an attention-seeking smug (insert name calling here) and ruin the wedding day somehow knowing she won&rsquo;t be &ldquo;punished&ldquo; for her rude behaviors.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/mizfit0416/">mizfit0416</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>This is a tough one. If you don&#39;t invite Betty, some of your fianc&eacute;&#39;s family may not come but if you do, it&#39;s sure to be a drama filled day. It all depends on how you want the day to go.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>She sounds like trouble and I&#39;m sure alcohol will be involved which will make things worse. If the family won&#39;t come because Betty&#39;s uninvited, tell them you&#39;re sorry and you&#39;ll miss them on YOUR big day. Why take a risk that the trash will ruin your day? NTA.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/meiio/">meiio</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>OP get security/a bouncer for your wedding (be it a family member who is willing, that you can trust implicitly, or someone you pay) because Betty is the type of person to try to show up (probably in a big white wedding dress) and try to barge in anyway</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/prove____it/">prove____it</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>Warning: This level of drama doesn&#39;t just go away. Take active steps to insure that Betty doesn&#39;t sabotage the wedding. Talk to all of your vendors and be sure that only you can make any changes to the wedding.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Let the entire wedding party know to be on the look-out for day-of issues with her.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>And, your fianc&eacute; should tell his entire family that while they&#39;re sad they won&#39;t be coming, any attempts to sabotage the wedding (whether it&#39;s Betty or someone else) will irreparably damage their relationship.</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/SaikaTheCasual/">SaikaTheCasual</a> writes:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA And your fianc&eacute; is right. If they chose her over the wedding, they&rsquo;re not important enough to attend the wedding anyway.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>They clearly don&rsquo;t care about you or your feelings. Uninvite the troublemaker and move on instead of having a messed-up wedding.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Bride asks if it's wrong to uninvite her brother-in-law's drama-causing GF to wedding.

Your wedding day is supposed to be one of the most special times of your life. You spend a ton of money, all your friends and family fly in from around the world, everyone gets dressed up, and there&#39;s even a professional photographer. It&#39;s one occasion you definitely don&#39;t want to be ruined by someone trying to start some sh*t.Reddit user u/Aggravating-Yam399 recently had to uninvite her fianc&eacute;&#39;s brother&#39;s new girlfriend from her wedding because she caused major drama at her bridal shower. The future in-laws are mad enough to make this frustrated bride ask:AITA (Am I the As*hole) for uninviting my fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s brother&rsquo;s new girlfriend from the wedding after she caused a scene?  So it&rsquo;s only 2 weeks before the wedding and my fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s brother&rsquo;s (let&rsquo;s call him John M21) new girlfriend (let&rsquo;s call her Betty F18) caused a lot of drama at the bridal shower this past weekend.  This has been an ongoing problem since they started dating. They got a promise ring shortly after dating which I have no problem with at all, but at the bridal shower, she used it to brag a lot and kept making comments such as calling my fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s mom her mother in law and she said to me I&rsquo;d soon be part of the family as though she is already married to John.  She also spread a rumour about one of the nicest ladies at the bridal shower (my neighbour) saying she had flirted with Betty&rsquo;s father (not FIL, her real father), which was merely impossible as she is married and is one of the most kind-hearted people I know and has never met Betty (we asked the neighbour if she was indeed at the pub where Betty works at the previous night where Betty claimed it happened and the neighbour said no she was at home).  A lot more went down and after Betty was extremely rude to my Maid of Honour I had to go up to her and ask her to stop being rude to my guests and to please stop gossiping. Shortly thereafter a lady on their table came up to me and asked to sit with me as she couldn&rsquo;t stand the bad-mouthing by Betty at the table.  My MOH then took it upon herself to uninvite Betty as she caused a lot of problems and generally just took away from one of the special moments in my life, after she sent her a message Betty simply ignored it.  My MOH then told me about this and I decided that she was right as it is her duty to make the wedding run smoothly and as this has happened so many times before.  My Fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s father thinks I&rsquo;m tearing the family apart for uninviting her, even after I said that John was still to come as a groomsman and as my fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s brother. My fianc&eacute;&rsquo;s dad and brother have decided that if Betty is not invited they would not attend either.  (I left out a lot of her actions as I did not want to elaborate on everything)  I&rsquo;m honestly stuck as to what to do, my fianc&eacute; feels that if his family chooses John&rsquo;s new girlfriend over his wedding then they don&rsquo;t care about him enough, it hurts to be in this situation. We want our wedding to run smoothly and drama free and Betty might not make this possible, so AITA for uninviting Betty? Do you think that the bride-to-be was right to uninvite her fianc&eacute;&#39;s brother&#39;s girlfriend? The users of Reddit did not. They declared her &quot;Not the As*hole&quot; and offered her some solid advice for the big day.LittleRedCarnation writes: NTA Betty&rsquo;s gonna show up in a glittery white ball gown with a veil. And then say random people are fucking in the bathroom and your new husband hit on her right before the ceremony. Then probably announce her fake pregnancy. Hire security. Brilliant-Trifle-954 says: NTA Your wedding is your special day. You deserve to be happy with as little stress as possible. If she isn&rsquo;t willing to do that for you, she doesn&rsquo;t need to be there. If your other in-laws don&rsquo;t understand that, neither do they. Enjoy your big day. Congratulations! ayoitsjo says: The brother being stupid and picking his 6-month relationship over his family is awful and dumb, but what REALLY boggles my mind is that the future FIL is also dying on this hill??  Like what connection does FIL have to this girl that he is literally choosing some rando who just started dating his one son over his other son&#39;s major life landmark, his actual wedding  NTA it will suck and I feel really bad for the fiance, but there is a pretty solid chance she would ruin the wedding and she should not be there. navykymmy says: I think if they give in a &ldquo;re&rdquo; invite her, it will just make things worse. At that point, the BIL &amp;FIL will know or feel they&rsquo;ve won and will be able to steamroll you in the future. And &ldquo;Betty&rdquo; would just be an attention-seeking smug (insert name calling here) and ruin the wedding day somehow knowing she won&rsquo;t be &ldquo;punished&ldquo; for her rude behaviors. mizfit0416 writes: This is a tough one. If you don&#39;t invite Betty, some of your fianc&eacute;&#39;s family may not come but if you do, it&#39;s sure to be a drama filled day. It all depends on how you want the day to go.  She sounds like trouble and I&#39;m sure alcohol will be involved which will make things worse. If the family won&#39;t come because Betty&#39;s uninvited, tell them you&#39;re sorry and you&#39;ll miss them on YOUR big day. Why take a risk that the trash will ruin your day? NTA. meiio writes: OP get security/a bouncer for your wedding (be it a family member who is willing, that you can trust implicitly, or someone you pay) because Betty is the type of person to try to show up (probably in a big white wedding dress) and try to barge in anyway prove____it says: Warning: This level of drama doesn&#39;t just go away. Take active steps to insure that Betty doesn&#39;t sabotage the wedding. Talk to all of your vendors and be sure that only you can make any changes to the wedding.  Let the entire wedding party know to be on the look-out for day-of issues with her.  And, your fianc&eacute; should tell his entire family that while they&#39;re sad they won&#39;t be coming, any attempts to sabotage the wedding (whether it&#39;s Betty or someone else) will irreparably damage their relationship. SaikaTheCasual writes: NTA And your fianc&eacute; is right. If they chose her over the wedding, they&rsquo;re not important enough to attend the wedding anyway.  They clearly don&rsquo;t care about you or your feelings. Uninvite the troublemaker and move on instead of having a messed-up wedding. 

Your wedding day is supposed to be one of the most special times of your life. You spend a ton of money, all your friends and family fly in from around the world, everyone gets dressed up, and there&#39;s even a professional photographer....