41yo woman surprises husband with boudoir photos; he calls her 'desperate.'
Keeping romantic relationships spicy and exciting after you've been together for decades and know everything about the person who shares your bed every night can be challenge, but if you're shaming your partner's cute gift? It's time for a divorce.
So, when a frustrated man decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about an awkward situation with his 'aging' wife (who is two whole years older than he is...IMAGINE) and his brutal rejection of her sexy gift, people were eager to roast him to bits.
'AITA (Am I the As*hole) for telling my wife I don’t want to look at her boudoir photos?'
My wife is two years older than me. She’s 41 now and I think she knows that she’s been aging. Even though she takes reasonably good care of herself, it’s pretty stark how she looks and how everybody else in our group of mid to late thirties people look.
She must think I’m not attracted to her either. She has a friend who said she would give my wife a discount if she wanted boudoir photos done. My wife went ahead and did them. Yesterday she “surprised” me with the results of them, saying she hopes this “helps.”
I frankly don’t think boudoir photos make her any more or less flattering and a quick glance at them did nothing for me. She kept trying to get me to take them and I finally put the pictures on the couch behind us and told her to stop being desperate and that there’s other ways to deal with a mid life crisis if that’s what she’s having.
To be honest, I hated how desperate she was acting and knew that the pictures don’t do anything for my attraction to her. AITA?
Everything about this is heartbreaking and embarrassing for this ungrateful husband who clearly doesn't realize he's 39 and not 19. Of course, the jury of internet strangers was eager to weigh in on this mess...
reginadl said:
“My wife took fancy pictures and showed them to me, and I called her desperate and attacked her emotionally.” Yeah dude, YTA (You're the As*hole). Let people be happy, especially your wife?
MaximusIsKing said:
YTA. Wow, you really don’t give a sh*t about your wife do you? She’s clearly feeling self conscious and unloved/ unattractive and you’re clearly going out of your way to reinforce that in any which way you can. Reality check for you: she’s not having a midlife crisis, she’s having a marital crisis that you’re contributing to.
adlittle said:
YTA, this is one of the meanest, saddest things I've seen here. Do you even like your wife? I don't even see how you two could come back from this, just the utter flippant meanness and coldness to someone who loves you and is connected to you is awful. Do you look at all women a day+ older than you like this, or just the one you promised to love and care for and treat as a partner?
rayyleighd said:
YTA. This entire post reeks of disdain for your wife whether you intended it to or not.
[deleted] said:
YTA. Your wife was excited about something that made her feel good, and you displayed nothing but coldness and nonchalance. Why is that, exactly?
So, there you have it!
Everyone agreed unanimously here that this husband is 100%, completely, fully, and impressively in the wrong here. Hopefully this wife finds someone else who is worthy of her fun photos. Good luck, everyone (except this nasty man).