'AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend over cheese?' 'They don’t sell this anywhere.'
"AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend over cheese?"
For some backstory I (24F) have been dating my girlfriend (23F) for a little over a year. We’ve been living together for 5 months. I would say we are an average couple, happy most times but we argue here and there. The main reason why we argue is because she has a streak of acting very entitled and spoiled at times.
She will do things I specifically ask her not to do, and if I get upset she will cry and make excuses for herself and only apologize if she feels like I’m “ignoring her” (i.e. when I am too exhausted to keep entertaining her).
She will eat my leftovers, leave the apartment a mess (it’s my apartment), invite people over and let them leave the apartment a mess, etc. This has been happening at least once a week since we moved in together.
Yesterday, there was a holiday market about 2 hours away. She had sent me a post about it about a week ago and kept talking about how she wanted to go, so I rented an airbnb for the weekend for the both of us to go together.
We ended up getting into an argument day of because she's never had to stay in an airbnb before and convinced herself that the hosts were going to spy on us or kidnap us or kill us or something. She got upset that I didn’t get a hotel even though every hotel in the area is so damn expensive and I’m the only one with a job right now.
I told her I was just gonna go by myself if she’s going to make such a big deal over nothing, and her exact words were “f you and your farmer's market, don’t get me s%#$”. So I go to the market, had fun by myself, and got this very expensive imported European cheese.
Mind you, this cheese was $40 for a pound, and I’m sure it would cost more having to buy it online because I know they don’t sell this anywhere around here. I planned to make a meal with this cheese for me and her because I like to cook.
I came back this morning and told her exactly, “Do not eat the cheese in the refrigerator. It was expensive and I’m going to use it later, and you also said don’t get you anything so it’s not for you.” She said okay, and I went to work.
She texts me at work and says “promise not to be mad” and I immediately knew. She ate my cheese. What I did not expect was for her to eat the entire pound of cheese. I was gone for 6 hours????? And the entire pound is gone?????
I didn’t text her back but when I got home I told her right away to pack her shit up and leave because I can’t deal with her bs anymore. She started crying about how “it’s just cheese” and that I’m “getting mad over nothing” but I told her to leave before I call the police.
She left in tears and is staying with her parents, who are texting me calling me an asshole for breaking up with her and kicking her out over cheese. I think the issue is bigger than the cheese at this point, but maybe I overreacted I don’t know. Am I the ahole?
Here's what top commenters had to say about this one:
FunnyScreenName said:
NTA. She crossed a boundary to spite you. It’s not the cheese, it’s the principle. You’d be looking forward to a lifetime of that. You made the right call.
GabriellaGlamouur said:
NTA. She expects you to cater to her whims, even if it means disregarding your financial limitations. While the cheese itself might seem trivial, it symbolizes the larger issue of her constant disregard for your boundaries.
Turbulent_Ebb5669 said:
NTA, she's an exhausting princess.
n0nya9 said:
I accidentally ate an entire pound of the cheese that you specifically asked me not to eat while I stayed home, not looking for a job to support myself. She couldn't even wait for you to get home. She had to text you and torture you at work She sounds very petty. NTA.
WifeofBath1984 said:
NTA she didn't eat an entire block of cheese in 6 hours. Maybe she ate some of it, but she definitely threw or gave away the rest. She is testing you. Run!
GemmaGlade said:
NTA - Cheese wasn't the issue; it's about boundaries. You laid out the Brie-rier, and she crossed it. Might be a sign to let her gruyere own way.