People probably won't remember the unseasoned lukewarm buffet chicken as a highlight of your wedding day, but does that matter? As long as the open bar is flowing and someone keeps Aunt Mary away from the microphone, all anyone should care about at a wedding is celebrating the couple getting married.
So, when a conflicted bride decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about an annoyingly picky guest, people were eager to help deem a verdict.
I (mid 20sF) am getting married. We have sent out our invites and they are slowly starting to come back to us. We have family across the globe and with our postal service strikes, we decided to send them out early.
We invited one of our friends (mid 20s F) and her partner (late 20s M). Her partner has been difficult. When we sent out the invites, he called me asking if the options on the invite, were the only ones available. The options are grilled salmon with a lemon and caper sauce, grilled chicken or mushroom stroganoff.
The salmon and chicken come with baby potatoes and seasonal vegetables. I told him these were the only options, and we wouldn't be adding more but they can be amended if he has a dietary preference - one of our guests is a dairy-free vegetarian and the stroganoff is being made vegan for them.
He said he didn't like fish or mushrooms and thinks chicken is a bit plain for a wedding before settling on the chicken. A couple days later, he calls to change his mind and decides he will have the salmon.
He then proceeded to jump between all 3 options a couple times, each time finding a reason to why he didn't want it (Salmon tastes too fishy, the chicken will be dry, stroganoff is too heavy for a wedding meal, etc).
This morning, I got a call from my caterer (who is his partner's brother), and he's contacted her asking if she can make him his own specific meal. He's asking for an expensive steak, vegetables, boiled potatoes and peppercorn sauce. I'll admit I kind saw red and called him annoyed that he tried to go around me and order what he wanted.
The caterer laughed at him and told him that he had the options available and just to pick one. When I called him, I told him that he will be having the chicken and that if he doesn't like it then he can just go without as I won't have him calling the caterer to order something completely different. He wasn't happy when I told him, he argued I was being a bridezilla and that I needed to get off my high horse.
His partner has also been in touch, constantly sending me messages about how I know that he needs to have 'proper' meat at every meal otherwise he's sick and that fish and chicken won't sustain him, and that 'it's just one steak, it's not like he's asking you to serve him a cow.'
It's ridiculous, he can go without red meat for one meal, it won't kill him. AITA for suggesting that he gets what he is served or goes without?
NTA (Not the As*hole). If he needs red meat so badly he can go through the McDonald's drive-thru on his way home.
NTA. That’s ridiculous. I would uninvite him. Do you think he’d do something dumb like order food to the wedding? That would be embarrassing. I don’t think I’d want someone like that at my wedding.
Disinvite the guestzilla. NTA.
NTA. The gall of him to call the caterer, and the fact that your friend is on his side is appalling.
NTA. Note that you are still negotiating dinner, he hasn't even gone wedding cake tasting or consulted with your sommelier yet. Just revoke both of their invitations, this is ridiculous.
Let them come to the wedding and tell them that you’ve considered their request, and made arrangements. Have the caterer set out 2 kids place settings, with crayons and the paper menu, and give them Happy Meal cheeseburgers. Now he gets the meal his tummy wants and can color while the adults celebrate. NTA, goodness.
Everyone agreed unanimously here that this bride isn't wrong at all to serve this guest the menu options that every other guest will eat without complaining. If he has a problem with it, then he can bring his own peppercorn steak to the reception or he can stay home. Regardless, complaining to the caterer was an incredibly rude move. Good luck out there, everyone (except for this Guestzilla).