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Bride asks if she was wrong to tell in-laws she doesn't feel bad about SIL's divorce.

Bride asks if she was wrong to tell in-laws she doesn't feel bad about SIL's divorce.


Planning a wedding is already complicated, expensive, and stressful enough without your in-laws wondering how you can be so excited to get married while your sister-in-law is going through a divorce...

Yes, it might be a good idea to be extra sensitive while discussing exciting wedding-related events, but what if your sister-in-law 'had it coming?' So, when a conflicted bride decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about her weirdly entitled sister-in-law's impending divorce, people were quick to help deem a verdict.

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for saying that I don't feel sorry for my sister-in-law getting divorced while I'm planning my wedding?

SIL and I never truly got along. The reason is that we have different mindsets on some stuff regarding how we live our lives. And while I'm respectful or indifferent about her life choices she's always trying to impose her beliefs and choices on me and my fiancé, her brother.

My fiancé and I (26m and 26f) have been together for 7 years and we have a very loving relationship. He proposed 6 months ago and I started wedding planning 3 months ago.

We have a very loving relationship with great communication and we still go on dates and like to dress up, we join activities and hobbies together and overall our relationship hasn't changed and we haven't stopped loving each other more and more.

SIL on the other hand has a different mindset. She was married and her marriage was the kind of marriage where they brag about how much they hate and can't stand each other.

She'd also mock me and my fiancé's relationship the entire time and call our dates, dressing up and our hobbies bullsh*t, claimed we do it for attention and don't truly love each other and also said how she can't wait till we end up hating each other too in the future.

She and her husband filed for divorce two months ago and I honestly am indifferent about it. I don't feel sad, or happy I just don't care.

Yesterday my MIL & FIL had joined us for dinner. As I was talking about some wedding stuff MIL pretty much confronted me and said how can I be so happy and excited to plan a wedding while my SIL is getting divorced.

My fiancé tried to intervene but MIL told him to shut up because he's a terrible brother who doesn't support his sister through those hard times. She also said I have no empathy for SIL and I only care about my wedding and my little stupid dates.

I told her I indeed don't feel sorry that SIL, the person who bragged about hating her husband and being in a loveless marriage, is getting divorced. She and her husband had it coming. I also won't feel sorry for a person who mocked my happiness and relationship.

MIL said I'm very insensitive for saying this and she expects an apology to her as well as to my SIL for this. She left after that and only told me and my fiancé to call her if we want to apologize and only then. AITA?

Of course, the jury of internet strangers was eager to weigh in on this delightful family drama. Here's what people had to say:

PurpleMuskogee said:

NTA (Not the As*hole). I bet your SIL and her ex-husband were the types of people to have a cake topper showing them fighting or showing him being forced to marry with a ball and chain at his feet. Seeing happy couples should make you... happy for them. If she isn't able to see someone being happy and being thrilled for them because she's so focused on her own misery, that's her loss.

Material_Positive_76 said:

Nta sounds like we know who taught the SIL those behaviors. Should flip it and say how dare she divorce during your wedding planning. How insensitive that is to her brother. I mean you were planning your wedding before she planned her divorce. Give them back their own medicine.

SadExtension524 said:

NTA. Also, don't invite these jerks to the wedding. I would go no contact with his whole family.

4682458 said:

NTA. That's one less person eating at the reception.

So, there you have it!

Everyone agreed unanimously here that this bride has nothing to apologize for and she should cut these relatives our of her wedding and her life to avoid future issues. Her sister-in-law's divorce is unfortunate but shouldn't steal the spotlight from this exciting time in her life. Good luck, everyone!

Sources: Reddit
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