There's nothing quite like pulling out of the wedding album twenty years in the future only to try desperately to remember who the stranger next to your sister is in every photo. So, when a conflicted bride decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about her wedding guest list, the jury of internet strangers was eager to help deem a verdict.
I (30f) am getting married in 6 months. I have a younger brother (27m) whose relationship of 7 years ended three months ago. The reason of the break-up was that he cheated on his former girlfriend with the girl he is currently dating.
His former girlfriend was like a sister to me, we grew to be really close during these past 7 years and I was really disappointed on my brother he had done such a thing to such a sweet person. I was really excited to have this girl in my bridal party.
Now she won't even be at the wedding for obvious reasons, and on top of that my brother expects me to invite his current girlfriend. I really don't want her there. Even if they had started dating in a 'normal' way (like, not cheating) I'm not sure I would want to invite someone I met only a few months prior to the wedding day (I've been planning my wedding for longer than I've known this person!).
Also knowing that this new girlfriend really hurt my 'ex-sister-in-law' and the fact that she is the main reason she won't be there not there, would make me really mad and sad every time I saw her at the reception. I'm so mad at my brother too, cause what he did is awful. The only reason he is still in the wedding list is because I know my mother will start drama if I don't invite him.
I don't think I'm the a-hole, but my brother and my dad are calling me a bridezilla and my mother is telling me I'm ruining the day for her. AITA?
NTA, your wedding your rules - and your family can get all the way off your back for you not wanting someone to come that you don't really know.
NTA, in fact, you could disinvite your brother and re-invite his ex and still be NTA. It's your wedding invite who you want.
NTA. It's YOUR wedding, you're allowed to curate the guest list. Of course, your brother is also allowed to skip it, so don't be shocked if that's the case.
NTA- this is your day with your fiancé. Not their day. Let’s see if this woman is still around in 6 months but I wouldn’t invite her either.
Everyone agreed unanimously here that this bride wouldn't be wrong to leave her brother's new girlfriend off the guest list as it's her wedding day. Shaming people for their mistakes in life is never recommended, but she also doesn't need to invite anyone she doesn't want on the dance floor. Good luck at all future family holidays, everyone...