Brides kicks MIL out of wedding for saying her son should've ended up with his ex. AITA?
"AITA for kicking my in-laws out of my wedding?"
For a little back story, I (21F) and my partner Jake (23M) met around three years ago at a concert; we started dating two months later. A year into the relationship, Jake proposed to me, and even tho his parents were set against it, we still went ahead (In-laws and I got along, but we weren’t friends nor associated too much).
December ‘22, we found out we were pregnant. We were excited, as were our families (remember, we only told our parents). Come to the current day (my wedding day); it started as a great time. Everyone was enjoying themselves, and my now husband and I were sitting at the tables while the speeches were taking place. Everyone said some beautiful things, and then came my MIL.
She started her speech with some kind things, but then she talked about my husband's ex (Sally 20F) and how she wrote this speech about them as she thought they were ‘destined by god.’
Then she exposed my pregnancy to all of our extended family/friends. Her words were, ‘Jake was destined to be with Sally, and now Jake has a baby on the way and a wife god did not approve of’ I looked over at Jake in complete shock, and his face was bright red.
Jake and MIL got into a massive argument before me, and my older brother mike (24M) escorted my in-laws out. My in-laws extended family have now been blowing up our phones, saying we are in the wrong for hiding the pregnancy from everyone (Although I wasn’t even two months yet) and kicking the in-laws out after she said some lovely words and blessed our marriage.
My husband has cut all contact off from his family, but some of my family are now saying I took it too far, that they were looking out for Jake, and that the rest of the family deserved to know about our pregnancy. Now that I think about it, maybe I did overreact and thought I should have told them about the pregnancy. So AITA?
Here's what poeple had to say to OP:
PeteO5D says:
NTA. The choice of who you tell and when should be yours (as a couple) alone, and the comments she made sound malicious purely for the sake of it.
Moppermonster says:
The pregnancy is irrelevant. Someone whose speech includes that the bride is bad and ungodly at the wedding itself deserves to be tossed out. NTA.
RoxasofsorrowXIII says:
NTA. FIRST; most people don't announce a pregnancy until the END of the first trimester, as the largest miscarriages happen in weeks 1-12. This is COMMON, nothing being hidden, just being smart.
Second, she made a scene at your wedding. YOUR WEDDING. You have every right to uninvite or remove whomever you please on your special day. Ignore them. If your hubby is standing by the choice, that's all that matters.
YTA I understand that it's not what you WANTED... you can't just refuse people money for a service. According to your story you didn't even ask for a manager or anyone higher up. You just walked out when the language barrier left no other option in your head... what you did is 1000% illegal.
Doesn't matter that the service isn't what you WANTED. I grunted you don't want to pay your bills but guess what it's a service! You used it! You pay for it! No matter how bad and then you leave a scathing review that's how it works
Physical-Proposal213 OP responded:
the lady doing my nails was the OWNER so i couldn’t speak to anyone ‘higher up.’ i spoke to police as i was wanting advice and they told me to call them and explain my frustration with the situation and negotiate something that would work for both parties as i had shown them the service i had received.
they said i was not the first complaint they’ve had about that place they told me many people have had injuries coming out of this place, iv got bandaids on 7 of my fingers due to the constant bleeding.
i couldn’t see my hands as there was somewhat of a bored in between us, in assuming from covid and it was at the height that me being fairly tall couldn’t see under it unless i leant down, my phone was on a mount in which i advised them id be bringing so i could read my book without interfering with there work which auto flipped pages after a certain amount of time meaning i didn’t have to use my hands.
i didn’t ‘refuse money’ i refused to not only be talked to in that manner but also not to be reasoned with to work out a solution to the situation in which has happened, i would have gladly paid $100 or so what, or the price with a removal included but the fact being she didn’t talk it out she screamed in my face which caused me to then leave.
if you read it even customers that were there were coming over appalled with not only the service but the lady’s behaviour and was trying to calm her down and help me out with explaining to her that the work she had done was quote “toddler work” her words. i can honestly say she used all of 2 dips of black.
polish on both my hands & barely any glue as when the other place was removing them she was more unless popping them off like nothing and even she said they would have lasted me a week if that.
It’s not really credible that you spoke to the police and that they said they’d had a lot of complaints. The cops would a) not give a shit and b) tell you to pay.