'AITA for cancelling the catering for a wedding because of the bride's accusations?' UPDATED
"AITA for cancelling the catering for a wedding because of the bride's accusations?"
Most of our communications has been through emails but we have met 2 times once with their wedding coordinator and one just with the couple. The second time she got very upset and said enough! You are being way too cutesy and flirty with my fiancé.
Stop it now! We are getting married get your desperate hands off my fiancé. How would you like it if I put this in your reviews? I was shocked because I almost only talked to the woman because of my experience with weddings, it is the woman who is in charge and you need to please.
Her fiancé wasn’t flirtatious either, not with me anyway but he did give me many compliments on the menu, like duuuh? Isn’t that good? And apparently he laughed too hard at my jokes because when he tried to calm her down she told him he was giggling like a p-word at my lame jokes and why not just f her already.
Then she turned to me and called me a pathetic cow and to get my own man. I told both to leave and then I returned their deposit. She started bombarding me with emails and messages because she can’t find new catering this fast.
PS: I will be paying my employees who booked that day for this gig as usual of course but I’d rather take the loss than work with her.
Here's what top commenters had to say about this one:
Subjective_Box said:
NTA. She literally blackmailed you with an unfair review.. over being too courteous. Very reasonable to believe this is her first tantrum of many. If she’s no longer a client - she can’t do that.
bplimpton1841 said:
NTA - She can get a local restaurant to cater it that quickly. Sometimes they can do things like this with a week’s notice. Of course it probably won’t be fancy, but it can be done.
Status-Pattern7539 said:
NTA. You wouldn’t be able to win with this person. There would be threats of negative reviews, trying to say it was bad for discounts etc. It’s common for clauses in contracts for hostile environments/ threatening behavior/language/offensiveness/politeness etc. no one deserves to be treated terribly bc someone is jealous and insecure. The bride FAFO. Not your problem. She should have held her tongue.
HalfSugarMilkTea said:
If you still cater her wedding she's just going to find something else to complain about in her review. As long as nothing was signed that allows her to sue for incomplete service or anything like that, just block her and stay away. NTA.
love_92 said:
NTA, the bride doesn't trust her fiance.
Bonnm42 said:
NTA but I’d be surprised if they are still getting married after how she acted.
5 days later OP came back with this update: "Her fiancé texted me out on a date. Now I totally feel for this lady."
The fiancé of the lady who insulted me just texted me on instagram to apologize for what happened at the meeting then he said that he thought I was nice and asked if we could meet for dinner or coffee.
I asked him are you asking me out?
He answered that he wanted to apologize and that he thought I was great and beautiful. And wanted to get to know me. So he admitted it in everything but words.
I wrote that I was sorry for his fiancée and I really think she deserved better and I hope she leaves him or at least next time She takes out her anger on the source,,,,, him. He blocked me.
I will not be able to tell her due to how she acted in our previous interaction. I think she will probably put the blame on me. But I am so very sorry that she is with this man and I really hope she finds out what he is before she makes a commitment.
Here's what people had to say after the update:
NTA. Anyone want to place bets that it was actually the lady trying to "trap" OP? To basically set up a date, take pictures of OP when they show up, and start a social media campaign to ruin the business. If either of them try to contact you again, tell them to stop contacting you and block them. You don't need the drama they are trying to create.
Putrid_Ear4343 OP:
Wow!
Agreed. Either he's tone deaf or she's playing games, and didn't get the response she wanted, because that level of insecurity either has a source or it craves one.
Honestly, it sounds as though they’re perfect for each other!