Couple takes in friend who lost spouse, but wife's creeped out by ashes in house.
When this woman is conflicted about her friend's wife's ashes, shes asks Reddit:
'AITA asking my husband's friend if he was going to bring his wife's ashes when he moves in with us?'
My husband's friend (31) lost his wife 4 monrhs ago. He had cremeted and used to keep her ashes in their home. He unfortunately had to lose their home to medical debts and asked me and my husband to let him move in with us and stay for few weeks til he figures it out.
He told us this during dinner. My husband said of course we'd welcome him to move in and stay in our house. I, for some reason kept thinking about his wife's ashes.
Now I'm not of fan cremation but obviously I can't control how others choose to honor their deceased loved ones. But still, seeing ashes or bring around them gives off weird vibes that I cannot control. I decided tj speaj up and asked his friend if he was going to bring his wife's ashes as well.
His friend got quiet and my husband gave me a death stare. His friend left and then my hudband blew up asking what the hell possessed me to ask such question. I told him I was just inquiring about the ashes since he knows how I feel about it.
He said this came across as insenstive and unwelcoming towards not just his friend but the deceased wife as well. We had an argument and he called me cruel and reckless to speak to his friend the way I did.
He said I should've never brought it up and told me to get over myself and not expect his frirnd to part with his wife just because I'm uncomfortable.
We argued some more and he told me to apologize next timeI see his friend for the disrespect I'd displayed. But in my opinion he made a big deal out of a question. AITA?
Well, let's see what Reddit had to say.
viewfromthe31stfloor writes:
YTA - possibly the most insensitive person who ever posted here thinking they were right. Unbelievable.
unavaialbleclown disagrees:
NTA because that is literally a dead body, but in a sealed container. I wouldn’t want it in my house either. Your husband’s friend should know that and should expect to keep her urn somewhere else if needed.