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'AITA for wanting to take my daughter along on my guys' fishing trip?' UPDATED

'AITA for wanting to take my daughter along on my guys' fishing trip?' UPDATED

may wilkerson
Aug 23, 2024 | 7:22 P.M. ET

"AITA for wanting to take my daughter fishing?"

For over a decade, myself and my four best friends have had an annual fishing trip. There has always been a "no wives, no girlfriends rule" since the beginning, and no one has ever violated it.

Two years ago, my friend "Tim" told the group he wanted to bring his five year old son, to sort of pass the tradition on to the next generation. At that point, only Tim and I had kids, but my daughter was three and two young for fishing. We all supported Tim's idea and made a big deal over the little guy. He had a great time and came last year as well.

My other friend, "Randy" has a four month old son now. When the baby was born, Tim gave Randy a children's fishing pole to give to his son on his fifth birthday. So it seemed clear to me that the tradition had evolved to us + our kids, which I'm cool with.

I mentioned to my friends the other day that my daughter was excited for this year's fishing trip and they looked at me like I was crazy. Tim said I shouldn't bring her, and I was baffled. I was super supportive of him bringing his son. This is no different. My daughter is now the age Tim's son was when he first came on the trip.

Another friend brought up the "no wives, no girlfriends" rule, which pissed me off. My five year old daughter isn't anyone's wife or girlfriend. I said if they don't want my daughter there, then I don't want Tim's son there. Tim was offended and stormed out. Randy said what I said was uncalled for. I said I'm bringing my daughter and that's that. I just want to make sure I'm not being an entitled jerk. AITA?

What do you think? AITA? This is what top commenters had to say:

Far_Anteater_256 said:

NTA, but if that's the kind of reception your daughter will be subjected to by your friends, you might just want to bring her fishing by yourselves. She'll probably enjoy that a lot more than she will being looked at by your friends like she's biologically lesser than.

Here_for_tea_ said:

NTA but please give consideration to whether you want to maintain these friendships at all, now you know that they have problematic gender views.

Stranger0nReddit said:

NTA. If I were you i'd ditch their trip and take your daughter on a fishing trip one on one. Clearly when they said "no wives, no girlfriends" they meant no females. Really lame that they, as fathers themselves, aren't more understanding and supportive of you wanting to bring your daughter.

He later shared this update:

I sent this post to my friends, and we talked some more. They ended up apologizing. Daughter is definitely coming on the trip. I know many people assumed that my friends are sexist and horrible, but they're really not. They were just worried that with daughter there we would have to stay at a hotel instead of the usual cabin and not be able to do as many activities.

I assured them my daughter can sleep without air conditioning as easily as Tim's son and they are going to be the ones having trouble keeping up with her five year old energy. Everyone apologized for bringing up the "no wives, no girlfriends rule" and agreed that was a sh!tty thing to say. It's all good now. Thank you for your support.

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