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Husband doubts wife's side hustle until she profits; now she's hoarding the money.

Husband doubts wife's side hustle until she profits; now she's hoarding the money.


There's nothing that can ruin a romance in marriage quite like a tension-filled discussion about splitting finances...

So, when a conflicted woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole?' about her business, people were quick to help deem a verdict.

AITA (Am I the As*hole) for refusing to share my business profit with my husband?

I F32 have a leg disability that got worse to the point I could no longer work. So I stayed home with the kids for 4 years. I had plenty of free time after the kids became more independent and I found myself sitting around all day long.

I have sewing hobby that I learned while living with my grandmother since I was 13. So I started spending my time sewing. My husband made a laughing stock out of me calling me 'grandma' or 'granny' and running with the jokes and teasing. It was unbearable but I ignored him.

Anyway, a friend of mine saw some of my work and suggested I open an website and sell what I make. I was hesitant about it and my husband's opinion was 'mehhh...who would want to buy grandma's junk,' but I asked my friend to help me and people really liked my works.

They started buying them off of me which was shockingly amazing y'all. I started really investing into this and in one month I was able to make over $200-300. It's been 3 months now into the business.

When money started coming my husband would ask me to buy something or make a restaurant reservation or even fix his car for him. When I refuse he'd say that I have money from my sewing business and should really pay. I decline every. single. time. he asks.

Yesterday, he showed me a wrist watch online that he really liked and asked if I could pay for it. I said no because I have no money. He pointed out once again the money I have from my sewing business but I told him that the money was literally 'none of his business.'

He blew up saying that I was being selfish and mean and said that the business profit SHOULD be split EQUALLY between BOTH of us (I use caps because he yelled those words) not just ME. I told him he not only mocked me for sewing he even doubted my potentials. Besides that I do all the work so, why would he expect profit?!?

He said that he as my husband gets half and I should really consider it or stop the sewing thing all together. I laughed thinking he was messing around but he left the house then came back looking pissed.

His friend called to 'scold' me reminding me that my husband already 'does' enough for me to be able to find time to sew and so he deserves a percentage but I still refused. Now he's family are pressuring me to share the money but I'm still refusing. AITA?

I'm all for holding a petty grudge when you've been casually bullied, but this household financial dilemma is a bit more complicated than that...

Cruel comments aside, now that she is contributing financially to the income, why shouldn't her husband have access to her sewing earnings? He owes her a sincere apology for doubting her obvious talents, but now that she is thriving the money should technically be shared.

Regardless of the 'what's mine is ours' marriage mentality, the communication between this couple seems like an immature and messy disaster waiting to crumble.

Of course, the jury of internet strangers was eager to weigh in on this marriage drama. Here's what the jury of internet strangers had to say:

He_Who_Is_Right_ said:

ESH (Everyone Sucks Here). Your husband sucks for belittling you and discouraging you. But...I assume your husband works and has been bringing in an income that he used to pay for food and shelter.

You got to share in that, didn't you? Your husband may not deserve a 'percentage,' but you're supposed to be in this marriage together. It doesn't sound like you are. If that's the case, end it with him so you can both find someone more suitable.

lankeyboards said:

ESH - at the core of it, you were a stay at home mom, and now you're working again, you should be contributing equitably to the household.

Your husband is definitely worse though for how he has handled basically every aspect of the situation, from relentless teasing of your hobby to a lack of support for your business to not addressing the financial situation directly and then involving friends and family into the conflict.

Remarkable-Simple-33 said:

I mean, are you paying 50% of the bills or are you using his money from work to do that? What about the materials you use to make these with, how did you get the money for them? If it's yes, YTA (You're the As*hole)

oiler1996 said:

ESH he shouldn't mock you but if he is paying for everything with his money he makes with his kob, you should be willing to help out or split some money, your married, your a team and your keeping your money separate to spite him. What would happen if he did the same thing?

Every_Caterpillar945 said:

YTA, I guess your husbands money is shared income. Then why would yours be not? I hope you are fine with paying 50% of household expenses and 100% of your personal expanses since there is a big chance your husband will stop sharing his income with you.

So, there you have it!

While the opinions were fairly mixed for this one, most people agreed that this woman needs to let go of her husband's prior mockery and accept that she has been happily living off of his income. Yes, it was wrong for him to make fun of her business idea, but it's nothing a healthy conversation can't fix right? (He doesn't deserve a watch, though.) Good luck, everyone!

Sources: Reddit
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