The dreaded wedding guest list. People will feel a particular way about your wedding list no matter what you do. The best thing to do is to invite who you want and let the haters hate. Unless you wanted an invite to a party one of the hater's throws, then maybe you should invite them to the wedding.
I have thrown a big Christmas party every year for a decade now. A few years ago, at one I threw, my friend Tara met my former co-worker Tony, and they hit it off. They dated for a while, and two years later, at my Christmas party, she showed up with a ring on her finger, and they announced for the first time that they were engaged. I was super happy for them.
They got married this spring. We didn't get invited. When I was sending around my party invitations this year, I didn't see any reason to invite them back if they didn't think I wasn't worthy of making their guest list. I have known them both for years, I introduced them, and they announced their engagement at my home.
It got back to me today that they're distraught with us for not inviting them this year, that my party is something they consider special, and they think I'm being petty. A couple of friends mentioned it was a smaller wedding, and they feel I'm punishing them.
It wasn't, though. There were probably 200 people, and I knew at least 50 of them, and I was a little surprised at some of the names that cut us. I didn't make a stink about it or anything, but I don't see why I should welcome them into my home again after being snubbed like that.
My partner thinks I should just let it go and invite them back, but I don't see a reason why I should. AITA?
NTA - you can invite and not invite whoever you want without any reason. And if they want one: it is a minor party this year
NTA - if they can't even invite the person who introduced them to their wedding, then I don't think they should expect an invitation to your Christmas party.
NTA. We don’t have to prioritize people who don’t prioritize us. I don’t think it’s petty.
Petty is as petty does unless it isn't a petty move.