'AITA for announcing our pregnancy at my brother's wedding after he proposed at mine?' UPDATED 2X
"AITA for announcing our pregnancy at my brother's wedding after he proposed at mine?"
My brother said he was going to propose at my wedding. I told him no. It was a day about myself and my wife, and we did not want any distractions. My mom lost her temper. She said that he wanted family he might not see again for a while to be a part of the proposal. I said I did not care and that if he did it, I would have him kicked out.
He did it. And my mom said if I tried kicking him out, she would leave too. I just remember seething inside. My brother got married last weekend. Instead of a welcome-to-the-family toast, I used the time to announce that we were expecting our first baby.
My mom was upset, but my grandmother told her to sit down and shut up. We spent most of the reception talking to family we would not see again for a while about our coming baby.
My mom says I was an a%#^ole for taking attention away from my brother on his wedding day. She got really mad when I reminded her that she threatened to leave my wedding if I kicked him out after he proposed. I have the screenshots of the text messages.
Here's what people had to say to OP:
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The tid bit about grandma is funny. I’d like to know more!
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Grandma's tired of her daughter's s%&# and isn't afraid to say so.
It's blatantly obvious which one of you is the golden child. Good job to grandma for shutting Mom's bullshit down. But your bro! He asked, you said no, he did it anyway. That's an easy way to wind up on people's shit list.
What did his wife say when she found out he didn't get your permission to ask? Is she an asshole too? NTA for giving back what you got.
What a toxic family. OOP started planning revenge when the brother tried to upstage him at his own wedding.
No_Kiwi_2 OP responded:
Oh I did absolutely. Fun fact my wife is not pregnant.
OP provided an update 2 months later:
Okay, so, some bad news and some amazing news. Bad news: my brother figured out that we weren't really pregnant at his wedding, and he is livid, as is his wife. I don't really care. I know it's childish, but he started it.
The amazing news: WE ARE PREGNANT FOR REAL. We were pregnant at the wedding, but we didn't know. Thanks again for validating my immature and vengeful nature. I guess I have to grow up now. Sorry for the short post, but I'm so excited I almost didn't post at all.
Here's what people had to say to OP after the update:
Olivia_Bitsui says:
When I read stuff like this, I am grateful for going NC with my family 18 years ago.
OP responded:
I'm getting there.
Mme_merle says:
Congratulations! You gave your brother a taste of his own medicine, let’s hope he learns the lesson.
DoctorGuvnor says:
You should thank St Elizabeth of Hungary, the patron saint of accidental truth.
Bertie-Marigold says:
As a wedding photographer, I would have loved to have shot both weddings just for the reactions to all of the above!
7 months later OP came back with this update:
Holy cr@p we are actually pregnant So for any of you that may still be interested. We had our daughter today. Both my wife and daughter are doing well. 9 pounds 7 ounces. All ten toes and all ten fingers. My brother and sister-in-law are still pissed. My grandmother was the first one besides my wife and I to hold Emily Anne. Thank you all for your kindness and support. HAPPY NEW YEAR.
Here's what people had to say after the update:
Don’t forget to send baby photos of her to EVERYBODY on your brother’s 1st wedding anniversary! But seriously. Congrats
Congrats! Serves your brother right! And your mom needs to get her head out of her ass! And props to grandma!
The fact it isn’t spelled Emayleigh Ahenne makes this even better.
No_Kiwi_2 OP:
Yeah no Tragediegh for us.
Man, I remember the first post. Was a beautiful revenge. Congrats to all! Except your brother and SIL.
Congratulations!!! I hope in the wedding photos your hand are on your wife’s belly to suggest she was pregnant.
No_Kiwi_2 OP:
We totally did that. And we laughed about it. God has a sense of humor.