AITA

<p>Being the primary breadwinner when you&#39;re 20 and living with your parents is weird. It might get more bizarre when you have a step-parent. Do you lay down the law because it&#39;s your money, or do you still let them have control because it&#39;s their house? We see one man go through this struggle on a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xrh4mj/aita_for_telling_my_stepdad_that_ill_eat_whatever/">popular Reddit thread</a>.</p><blockquote> <p>AITA for telling my stepdad that I&#39;ll eat whatever I want in this house because I&#39;m paying for it in front of my step-sisters?</p> </blockquote><h2>The gig economy is rough.</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m (20m) currently living with my mom full time since my dad is working out of the country. She has a husband, and he has two daughters from a previous marriage (12F and 14F) and my half-sibling (6M); my mom&#39;s husband is unemployed because he was abruptly terminated, and both of them do gigs here and there while he looks for a job, but they barely bring money to the house.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Paying rent to live with your parents feels wrong.</h2><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m in my second year of uni; while working and getting money from my dad, every month, I&#39;ve been paying for most of my stuff (clothes, hobbies, phone bill, etc.) ever since I was 16 and when I turned 18 I began to pay rent and for my car.</p> </blockquote><h2>OP, tell your family to call you &#39;Papa&#39;.</h2><blockquote> <p>My mom&#39;s husband and his daughters are big eaters; I don&#39;t mind, I just started to buy my groceries, and they knew they weren&#39;t allowed to have any (tho, I&#39;d let my step-sisters take some of my snacks because I get they&#39;re kids).</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>However, three or four months ago, my mom was asking me to &#39;&#39;buy this, buy that, repurchase this,&#39;&#39; and I&#39;ve been doing their groceries too, so I&#39;m paying for all of the food, plus rent, plus driving my step-sister to and from school and among other things.</p> </blockquote><h2>Papa has spoken.</h2><blockquote> <p>Yesterday we were having dinner together, and I remembered I&#39;d bought a watermelon a few days ago; it was almost all gone, but I could eat the last of it, and it was okay. My step-sister said she wanted some too, and I said there was barely anything left and she could have an apple or something, she said she wanted watermelon, and I said sorry.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Um, who does this false papa think he is?</h2><blockquote> <p>My mom&#39;s husband said kids go first, but I said kids have been eating watermelon for the past days, and it was my turn; he looked me dead in the eye and said &#39;&#39;Put it back, son. You can eat something else&#39;&#39; so I just said I&#39;ll be eating whatever I want because I was paying for it. Nobody said anything after that, and I took it to my room.</p> </blockquote><h2>What do we think internet? Is papa being a little a**hole?</h2><blockquote> <p>Later my mom came and apologized for him but said that I shouldn&#39;t have said anything in front of my sisters and was rude because I was &#39;&#39;financially abusing&#39;&#39; my family, so IDK?</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xrh4mj/comment/iqeptpf/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Future-Block</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the A**hole). They&#39;re financially abusing you.</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xrh4mj/comment/iqepzh9/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">TheDeadlyPandaGamer</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA, he was rude to you in front of everyone and you gave it right back. If you are paying for everything, you need to move out.</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xrh4mj/comment/iqepn2k/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">imothro</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA. You&#39;re financially abusing them when you&#39;re paying for everything? LOL. Sounds like it&#39;s time to move out. I imagine living on your own or with a roommate is going to be less expensive than paying rent AND feeding a family of four.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>OP congrats on achieving every stepchild&#39;s dream and overtaking their stepparent as head of the household.</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he was wrong to 'embarrass' stepdad for not being able to pay for food.

Being the primary breadwinner when you&#39;re 20 and living with your parents is weird. It might get more bizarre when you have a step-parent. Do you lay down the law because it&#39;s your money, or do you still let them have control because it&#39;s their house? We see one man go through this struggle on a popular Reddit thread. AITA for telling my stepdad that I&#39;ll eat whatever I want in this house because I&#39;m paying for it in front of my step-sisters? The gig economy is rough. I&#39;m (20m) currently living with my mom full time since my dad is working out of the country. She has a husband, and he has two daughters from a previous marriage (12F and 14F) and my half-sibling (6M); my mom&#39;s husband is unemployed because he was abruptly terminated, and both of them do gigs here and there while he looks for a job, but they barely bring money to the house. Paying rent to live with your parents feels wrong. I&#39;m in my second year of uni; while working and getting money from my dad, every month, I&#39;ve been paying for most of my stuff (clothes, hobbies, phone bill, etc.) ever since I was 16 and when I turned 18 I began to pay rent and for my car. OP, tell your family to call you &#39;Papa&#39;. My mom&#39;s husband and his daughters are big eaters; I don&#39;t mind, I just started to buy my groceries, and they knew they weren&#39;t allowed to have any (tho, I&#39;d let my step-sisters take some of my snacks because I get they&#39;re kids).  However, three or four months ago, my mom was asking me to &#39;&#39;buy this, buy that, repurchase this,&#39;&#39; and I&#39;ve been doing their groceries too, so I&#39;m paying for all of the food, plus rent, plus driving my step-sister to and from school and among other things. Papa has spoken. Yesterday we were having dinner together, and I remembered I&#39;d bought a watermelon a few days ago; it was almost all gone, but I could eat the last of it, and it was okay. My step-sister said she wanted some too, and I said there was barely anything left and she could have an apple or something, she said she wanted watermelon, and I said sorry. Um, who does this false papa think he is? My mom&#39;s husband said kids go first, but I said kids have been eating watermelon for the past days, and it was my turn; he looked me dead in the eye and said &#39;&#39;Put it back, son. You can eat something else&#39;&#39; so I just said I&#39;ll be eating whatever I want because I was paying for it. Nobody said anything after that, and I took it to my room. What do we think internet? Is papa being a little a**hole? Later my mom came and apologized for him but said that I shouldn&#39;t have said anything in front of my sisters and was rude because I was &#39;&#39;financially abusing&#39;&#39; my family, so IDK? Future-Block says: NTA (Not the A**hole). They&#39;re financially abusing you. TheDeadlyPandaGamer says: NTA, he was rude to you in front of everyone and you gave it right back. If you are paying for everything, you need to move out. imothro says: NTA. You&#39;re financially abusing them when you&#39;re paying for everything? LOL. Sounds like it&#39;s time to move out. I imagine living on your own or with a roommate is going to be less expensive than paying rent AND feeding a family of four. OP congrats on achieving every stepchild&#39;s dream and overtaking their stepparent as head of the household.

Being the primary breadwinner when you&#39;re 20 and living with your parents is weird. It might get more bizarre when you have a step-parent. Do you lay down the law because it&#39;s your money, or do you still let them have control...