Woman begs wife for cats then decides their too much work asks her to rehome them.

People with pets tend to live longer. Companionship, responsibility, and love from another are suitable for the soul. Despite that, some people aren't pet people, no matter how hard they try.

On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one woman convinces her wife to let him have a cat, and she almost immediately regrets her decision.

She writes:

My (28F) wife (29F) and I have been together for three years, married for one. Before us being together, she was very anti-pets, with zero interest. I’d always wanted a cat. We talked and, with heavy persuasion from me, ended up getting a Bengal from a breeder. She turned out to be very skittish, so we got her a Bengal sibling to help. Neither of them is super cuddly, so we added a calico who is. All of these were joint decisions. My wife feeds them; I do litter box, water, meds, and google solutions to any issues.

We just bought a house, and I do most of the cleaning: vacuuming, dusting, tubs, laundry, etc. This was the case when I worked, but more so since I’ve been unemployed for four months.

Since we moved, I’ve felt discontent with the cats because I have to clean constantly to stay on top of the shed hair, the food mess, and the litter tracked everywhere. They randomly threw up on rugs and pooped on the hardwood floor(the vet visit showed nothing wrong). They’ve ripped out the bottoms of a new sofa set and scratched up the other. And wife frets about the cats being sad when we go out of town, even though my sister watches them for free each time.

I’m over them and want to rehome them responsibly—the first alone and the last two together. I’ve mentioned it before and was met with sadness and resentment for bringing them into our lives, her getting attached, and me wanting them gone. She felt I was being flakey and said I struggle with commitment. So I walked it back with the condition that the wife would do more cleaning after them. I haven’t seen that happen.

I understand how it would hurt my wife to give them up, but I see upsides with less mess, more money in the budget, and more space with their cat stuff gone. AITA for prioritizing those things over her joy and love for the cats?

stainglassaura says:

F*cking wow. Don't ever have kids. You FOUGHT for those kitties. YTA (You're the A**hole).

Illustrious-Shirt569 says

YTA. You made a poor decision to get three cats as a first-time cat owners, but you pledged to care for them for their lives. You are capable of doing so, AND your wife loves them, so you should make good on what you signed up for. Bringing them into your home required both of you to be on board, and so would getting rid of them.

AppointmentEastern says:

YTA - pets are for life. You can't give them up just because you're 'over them' and can't be bothered to commit to the care they come with. Plus, you heavily persuaded your wife. You can't just change your mind.

You made your bed, OP, and now sit in it because it's full of adorable cats!