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Man doesn't recognize girlfriend, she demands apology but he says 'leave me alone.'

Man doesn't recognize girlfriend, she demands apology but he says 'leave me alone.'


Dating someone means supporting each other through the good times and the bad. Illness, job loss, or even accidents are all potential hills to get over in a relationship. Hopefully, there are way more good times than bad ones in your relationships.

On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, a man going through a difficult medical period does not get the support he needs from his girlfriend.

He writes:

I (M22) recently suffered a TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury) and developed prosopagnosia (face blindness). I can recognize my immediate family vaguely. Still, it’s near impossible for me to recognize anyone unless I remember other distinctive cues about their appearance (such as unique hair color or accessory.)

This has been hard on me, and I’ve been hospitalized for the past two weeks (for other medical reasons related to my TBI). I texted my girlfriend (F21) to explain my condition and linked her to some articles. She insisted on visiting me since she hadn’t seen me since I was hospitalized.

When she came into my room, I wasn’t sure whether she was my cousin (my cousin had planned on visiting, too), a nurse, or my girlfriend. She didn’t say anything to introduce herself, so I asked her, 'can you tell me who you are?'

When she replied, I could hear that she was extremely mad and recognized her voice as my girlfriend’s. She said, 'are you f*&#ing for real? You don’t recognize me?' I told her that I physically could not recognize her, and she started crying about how that meant she wasn’t important enough to recognize and a whole lot of other stuff.

I was hurt that she was upset with me over a medical condition I recently acquired and am struggling with. This has changed the entire course of my life and caused me so much emotional pain, not to mention the other trauma I sustained from my accident.

If she had read the explanation I texted her or the articles I sent, she would understand that my ability to recognize her has nothing to do with my care for her. She got upset at me for not apologizing to her, but I refused and told her to leave me alone and go home. AITA?

The internet has thoughts.

JazzyLizard27 says:

NTA (Not the A**hole). If anything, she owes you a huge apology. I'm sure that this is upsetting for her and maybe that was part of her response. However, emotional maturity would mean that she needs to recognize that and apologize for her behavior. I'm so sorry that this happened to you and I hope that you have a smooth recovery.

PottymouthPanik says:

NTA the symptoms of a TBI aren’t a reflection of how much you care about her. But I could argue the fact that she didn’t read the info you sent her does reflect how much she cares about you.

BrinkyStitches says:

Your girlfriend has a lot of growing up to do. You have a TBI. NTA, but please reconsider this relationship. She should be worried about YOU, not about whether or not you recognize her. She's selfish.

Wishing you a speedy recovery, OP; nobody would blame you if you broke up with your girlfriend.

Sources: Reddit
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