Man forces unemployed GF to leave home while he works; GF calls him 'controlling.'

Living with your significant other can be a rewarding experience. It can solidify your desire to be with that person for the long haul or give insight into why this person may not be the right choice.

On a popular Reddit thread on the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one man asks if his girlfriend is right to call him controlling after he forces her to leave their apartment for six to seven hours a day.

He writes:

I (24M) am Canadian and have been in the US for ten months, where I have lived with my American girlfriend (25F) for seven of them. My time in the US is almost up, and I'm stressing about having to return to Canada. For one, my family relies on me to make money to support my grandma and pay for her medical support.

I also want to earn money for my girlfriend; she deserves the world. Because I have so many side hustles going on to make money, I admittedly don't spend a lot of time with my girlfriend, but I've always been open with her that I am not able to give her a lot of attention right now, even though I love her more than anything.

My girlfriend lost her job last month and, as a result, has been at the house more often. We live in a one-bedroom and split the rent evenly. She understands I'm busy all day/night, but I don't like her sitting in the same room. Even though she knows her presence is distracting to me, she will try to start conversations, and she's not the cleanest. So I would ask her to go to the bedroom for the day while I worked in the living room on my desktop.

She was okay with that for a few weeks but began complaining that she was stuck in the bedroom. She says that since she's paying half the rent, she has every right to be where she wants to be in the house. I agree. So, after a few big fights, we decided she would leave the house during the day, and I would leave the house at night. Now she's upset that she's spending all day out of the house.

Her car was in an accident last month and has been in the shop, so she's been going to do work in the boba shop by our house. Before anyone asks, I cannot do the work I do during the day outside the house, which is why I leave in the evening.

Today, my friend was over and was sitting on the couch where my girlfriend usually eats lunch. I say couch, but it's an oversized loveseat. My girlfriend went to sit in her usual spot to eat lunch, but I asked her if she could eat in the kitchen instead so she would have more room to eat. She went to the kitchen, but I could tell she was pissed.

When I asked her if everything was okay, she said she was tired of me controlling her. I think she's being selfish and not considering that I need a specific environment to concentrate and get work done and that I am doing all this for her and my family.

One day I will be able to spend all the time in the world with her, but right now, I am grinding, and most strong relationships are built on sacrifice. So, AITA for asking my girlfriend to accommodate my work schedule?

The internet will let you know what's right.

Ok_Register3005 says:

YTA (You're the A**hole). Your girlfriend does not have to leave the house all work day. That's ridiculous. You need to adapt or go to the library.

CajunKC says:

YTA, she's right. She pays half the rent. She is entitled to be there. If you need isolation to work, I suggest you find a secluded location. Your expectations are unreasonable.

imothro says:

Why did you let her move in if you needed her to leave half of your waking time? This task is far too big. She pays half the rent and shouldn't have to leave for half the day. You must ask her to move out, which will probably end the relationship. Good luck. YTA

OP, what's the point of living with someone if you're never in the same place as them?