So, when a conflicted mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about her attempt to get her husband to stop lying about his contribution to co-parenting, people were quick to help deem a verdict.
We had our baby girl 6 weeks ago. Since then my husband started sharing on social media platforms about how hard he works and how hard being a father is. Basically getting sympathy point while I do 80% of childcare obviously.
It got to the point where friends and family would scold me for 'not giving the poor man a break.' I got fed up so I started recording him when he gets home. Eats by himself, watch tv, nap etc.
All with dates and times and started sharing those videos whenever a family member or friend call me bossy. My husband got mad and demanded I stop sharing those videos. I said I will once he stops acting like he's the one working hard.
Last night we were out and some friends and my husband started with his sob story about how being a dad is 'consuming' friends started side-eyeing while he listed the things he does throughout the day.
I pulled my phone and showed them the thing he really does throughout the day. He was stunned and our friends were quiet. Dinner got awkward and we went home...
He blew up at me saying I was ruining his reputation, alienating him from everyone and throwing dirt on his name. We argued for hours then he left to be with his family. His mom hinted I was wrong for how I handled this and called me 'childish' and 'bully' for it.
Pulling up the evidence in front of friends is definitely a bold move, but it was probably the only way this man could've learned his lesson. Bragging about your parenting skills for public sympathy and likes shouldn't be the motivating factor behind being a father as for most people it's, um, THEIR BABY. You know, keeping the human being they brought into this world alive and happy...?
People really need to stop building a fake image on their social medias and be surprised when reality comes biting their a*ses. His fantasy stories aren't only about him, they deserve you, he should have stopped completely, or deal with the reality check, but in no way he has any right to complain about this situation.
NTA never spare the feelings of a liar.
NTA. Oh honey, the only thing you ruined is his fake reputation. He is lying to everybody and himself... I don't know if he just likes the attention or what but he's taking it to a point where it backfires on you when people start to think you're the lazy one and he's such a martyr. No way, you just told the truth.
NTA. Offer him to help fixing his reputation by recording and sharing positive videos of him when he starts to actually do what he claims he does. Win-win.
Everyone agreed unanimously here that this woman wasn't at all wrong to bring her husband back down to reality, but this couple definitely needs to communicate better to avoid future co-parenting conflicts. Good luck, everyone!