Man serves bad quality steaks to in-laws because they like them well done, wife fumes.

How you order a steak will receive judgment from all the steak connoisseurs around you. The only incorrect answer to a waiter asking how you want your steak is, 'well-done.' Even as someone that doesn't eat meat, I know this.

On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, a man asks if he's wrong not to serve his in-laws fancy steaks because they want it well done.

He writes:

My wife and I live far away from both sets of parents. We visit them a couple of times a year, and they visit us at about the same. My mom and dad love food. They will buy pounds of garlic and leave it in a rice maker for a month to make black garlic. They plan their vacations around excellent restaurants.

My in-laws are lovely, but boiling chicken drumsticks is fancy for them. And they refuse to eat steak that isn't well done. I discovered this the first time I went to their home for dinner. Everyone got a well done steak. I wasn't even asked how I liked my steak.

It took me years to convince my wife to try a medium-rare steak. Now she loves them. I bought some beautiful prime steak for them when they came over when we moved in together. I made theirs medium well, and I died a little inside. Her dad took them back to the grill and destroyed them. So now I buy Select grade meat.

I've been buying some excellent quality Wagyu for when my parents visit. Not every single time. Maybe once a year. My wife says I'm being an a**hole by not treating both families equally. I don't think I should waste money on great food for them when I know how they will treat it.

The steak world is on the internet.

OverRice2524 says:

Honestly, I do not see the point in paying for an expensive steak for someone who wants it served as burnt offerings. They certainly won't understand the difference. NTA (Not the A**hole).

catsndogspls says:

NTA - but perhaps you can think of something else your in-laws would appreciate a splurge on - drinks, desserts, or even an experience that would be meaningful to them (and more importantly, make your wife feel heard, validated and like her family is important to you).

KindCompetence says:

NAH (No A**hole Here). Stop having steak with your in-laws. You can’t feed them, Wagyu (and I understand why), but your wife can’t accept you are being snobby about meat and giving her parents meat you know is lower quality on purpose. She’s right; serving food, which you see as insulting, is disrespectful.

So rather than fighting about it until the end of time, understand that -steak is not an in-law meal- and find one that you can make with ingredients you respect and that they will enjoy. I don’t drink wine. Fermented grapes taste bad to me. It’s wasted on me. My husband and his family drink wine, study wine, and are careful with wine selections. They don’t serve me sh*tty wine; they ensure the freezer has my favorite upscale vodka.

They’re not wrong that wine has many nuances, and finding good wines is fun. I’m not wrong that I find the wine undrinkable. You’re only an AH if you demand that someone wins the steak fight instead of putting all that energy into finding another showpiece meal you can enjoy each other’s company over.

OP, definitely don't buy them Wagyu steaks but perhaps a high quality chicken to boil?