AITA

<p>Calling dibs can be traced back to the ancient Egyptians. Okay, I can&#39;t prove that, but dibs has been around for a long time. Are there times when dibs doesn&#39;t apply? On a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yklkgm/aita_for_leaving_the_thrift_store_with_an_item_i/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=ios_app&amp;utm_name=iossmf">popular Reddit thread</a> in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one man argues dibs don&#39;t apply in this scenario.</p><blockquote> <p>AITA for leaving the thrift store with an item I paid for?</p> </blockquote><h2>OP is an avid thrifter.</h2><blockquote> <p>I went into my local thrift shop and immediately found a piece of furniture I wanted. In the past, I&#39;ve been through the furniture section and seen receipts attached to items saying they&#39;ve been sold already and are no longer available. That was not the case with this table.</p> </blockquote><h2>Nothing more exciting than finding a steal at a thrift shop.</h2><blockquote> <p>Stoked, I asked an employee to help me move it to the register so I could pay for it. A friendly staff member helps me by putting it on a dolly and rolling it up to the front. I pay for it, and he pushes the dolly to my car.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Uh-oh, a steal indeed.</h2><blockquote> <p>Lady comes out of the store behind us, and she is PISSED. She comes up with a temper, yelling that it&#39;s her table that we&#39;re wheeling out to my car. I was confused because there was no sold tag on this thing, so I asked her if she also paid for it. She says, &quot;No, but I told the manager I wanted it, and she set it aside for me.&quot; I feel awkward at first and kind of freeze there for a minute while she returns to get the manager.</p> </blockquote><h2>OP is an expert in &#39;dibs&#39; law.</h2><blockquote> <p>I considered going in and refunding it and giving it back. I decided that since I paid for it, I had essentially called dibs and that the store manager should&#39;ve had the woman pay for the item and put a receipt on it as they&#39;ve done in the past.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>So I look at the dude helping me lug this thing into my car. He seems stunned and is going to wait to see what happens. I decide not to stay. I tell him I&#39;m not going to make him any more involved, and I pick up my furniture and walk to the car.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>This thrift store has an official term for &#39;dibs.&#39;</h2><blockquote> <p>As soon as I finish loading it into the car, the manager comes out with the woman. The manager asks me if I will return the furniture to the lady. I asked the manager if the lady had paid for it. She says, &quot;No, but we put it on hold for her.&quot;</p> </blockquote><h2>This store believes in banishment.</h2><blockquote> <p>I told her there was no signage indicating it was sold, it wasn&#39;t moved off the floor, and no one stopped me when I asked for help moving it and checked out. The manager then tells me that if I don&#39;t go back in and return the table, I&#39;m banned from this thrift store and never come back.</p> </blockquote><h2>This piece of furniture is worth any punishment.</h2><blockquote> <p>So I told her I was sorry that her staff had made a mistake, but that I had no intention of returning the item I paid for, got in my car, and nope&#39;d out. I upset this lady by not returning and &quot;giving back&quot; this table. I feel bad that she was upset... But I did it anyway. I know I didn&#39;t commit a crime by taking a table I paid for, but AITA? Should I have just given it to her?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yklkgm/comment/iuttd99/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">archetyping101</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the A**hole). This is how thrifting works. They&#39;re lucky they have a policy of setting stuff aside or leaving a note. When I go to any quick sale process, I always tell a staffer and pay UPFRONT. Loitering and waiting with &quot;holds&quot; leads to situations like this.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Also, the manager knew she made a mistake, and instead of owning up to it and maybe giving the lady a 10% discount for this oversight, she threatened you with a ban. What a s*itty way to do business.</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yklkgm/comment/iuttlzi/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">XmasYoda</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>The manager put you in a bad spot, basically making you look like a giant AH (A**hole) for their mistake.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>If they were going to hold the item, they should have indicated it somewhere or moved it to the side.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I&#39;m going to say NTA for you and the lady. (She trusted the manager to hold the item adequately.)</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>The manager is a major AH.</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yklkgm/comment/iutt1e7/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">AzurePantaloons</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA. The manager wanted you to hand it over to cover up her mistake of not putting the item on hold.</p> </blockquote><p>OP, your theory in dibs is worth writing a thesis on it. Perhaps outlining the necessary steps to claim dibs adequately is a book worth selling.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Two thrift shop customers get into an argument over who had dibs on a table.

Calling dibs can be traced back to the ancient Egyptians. Okay, I can&#39;t prove that, but dibs has been around for a long time. Are there times when dibs doesn&#39;t apply? On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one man argues dibs don&#39;t apply in this scenario. AITA for leaving the thrift store with an item I paid for? OP is an avid thrifter. I went into my local thrift shop and immediately found a piece of furniture I wanted. In the past, I&#39;ve been through the furniture section and seen receipts attached to items saying they&#39;ve been sold already and are no longer available. That was not the case with this table. Nothing more exciting than finding a steal at a thrift shop. Stoked, I asked an employee to help me move it to the register so I could pay for it. A friendly staff member helps me by putting it on a dolly and rolling it up to the front. I pay for it, and he pushes the dolly to my car. Uh-oh, a steal indeed. Lady comes out of the store behind us, and she is PISSED. She comes up with a temper, yelling that it&#39;s her table that we&#39;re wheeling out to my car. I was confused because there was no sold tag on this thing, so I asked her if she also paid for it. She says, &quot;No, but I told the manager I wanted it, and she set it aside for me.&quot; I feel awkward at first and kind of freeze there for a minute while she returns to get the manager. OP is an expert in &#39;dibs&#39; law. I considered going in and refunding it and giving it back. I decided that since I paid for it, I had essentially called dibs and that the store manager should&#39;ve had the woman pay for the item and put a receipt on it as they&#39;ve done in the past.  So I look at the dude helping me lug this thing into my car. He seems stunned and is going to wait to see what happens. I decide not to stay. I tell him I&#39;m not going to make him any more involved, and I pick up my furniture and walk to the car. This thrift store has an official term for &#39;dibs.&#39; As soon as I finish loading it into the car, the manager comes out with the woman. The manager asks me if I will return the furniture to the lady. I asked the manager if the lady had paid for it. She says, &quot;No, but we put it on hold for her.&quot; This store believes in banishment. I told her there was no signage indicating it was sold, it wasn&#39;t moved off the floor, and no one stopped me when I asked for help moving it and checked out. The manager then tells me that if I don&#39;t go back in and return the table, I&#39;m banned from this thrift store and never come back. This piece of furniture is worth any punishment. So I told her I was sorry that her staff had made a mistake, but that I had no intention of returning the item I paid for, got in my car, and nope&#39;d out. I upset this lady by not returning and &quot;giving back&quot; this table. I feel bad that she was upset... But I did it anyway. I know I didn&#39;t commit a crime by taking a table I paid for, but AITA? Should I have just given it to her? archetyping101 says: NTA (Not the A**hole). This is how thrifting works. They&#39;re lucky they have a policy of setting stuff aside or leaving a note. When I go to any quick sale process, I always tell a staffer and pay UPFRONT. Loitering and waiting with &quot;holds&quot; leads to situations like this.  Also, the manager knew she made a mistake, and instead of owning up to it and maybe giving the lady a 10% discount for this oversight, she threatened you with a ban. What a s*itty way to do business. XmasYoda says: The manager put you in a bad spot, basically making you look like a giant AH (A**hole) for their mistake.  If they were going to hold the item, they should have indicated it somewhere or moved it to the side.  I&#39;m going to say NTA for you and the lady. (She trusted the manager to hold the item adequately.)  The manager is a major AH. AzurePantaloons says: NTA. The manager wanted you to hand it over to cover up her mistake of not putting the item on hold. OP, your theory in dibs is worth writing a thesis on it. Perhaps outlining the necessary steps to claim dibs adequately is a book worth selling.

Calling dibs can be traced back to the ancient Egyptians. Okay, I can&#39;t prove that, but dibs has been around for a long time. Are there times when dibs doesn&#39;t apply? On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit,...