So, when a conflicted man decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about whether or not he was wrong to 'enjoy some cocktails' with his fancy foodie friends, people were quick to help deem a verdict.
I am not a big eater. I like going out with my friends and enjoying a reasonable meal with a beer or two. My friends go nuts. They order $100 dollar meals and appetizers with extra sides. When the bill comes they always just say to split it evenly. So I end up paying three times the cost of my meal and they each save a few dollars.
We can all afford this. No one is going broke from these meals but I don't think it's fair. I have mentioned a few times that we should get separate bills but they never agree. Last time we went out I was meeting my girlfriend afterwards for a movie. She is not the biggest fan of my friends so she didn't join us. But I knew I had a ride home.
I noticed that the restaurant we were at had a really interesting cocktails menu. Including a margarita made with Clase Azul Reposado and an Old Fashioned made with Pappy Van Winkle bourbon.
So as I enjoyed my burger and fries, I enjoyed a few drinks. When the bill came my total was about $250. Which is about $200 more than I usually top out at. We split the bill but they were all giving me side eye.
One of them texted me and said I was an as*hole for padding the bill like that and if I did it again he was going to insist that we have individual bills. I texted everyone and asked if they all felt the same. They did. So I apologized and agreed that from now on when we go out I will pay my own bill.
My girlfriend thinks I'm right for proving my point but I am still feeling resentment from my friends.
If this man happily splits the check for expensive items that he isn't enjoying, it doesn't make sense that his friends would insist that money only be spent on food instead of alcohol. You'll make your friend split a $200 steak, but a margarita is when the Mr. Monopoly money police emerge?
Especially since he has suggested in the past that itemizing the check would make more sense for these gatherings, this seems like a fair way to prove his point.
NTA (Not the A@*&ole). Touché and well played! It was fine until you turned the tables. They knew what they were doing and for the life of me idk why you would be friends with people like that.
You wanted separate bills, you now get separate bills. Looks like the problem is now solved. 'I was meeting my girlfriend afterwards for a movie. She is not the biggest fan of my friends' Now we know why. NTA.
NTA. You gave them a taste of their own medicine and they didn't like the flavor.
NTA. This is hilarious! LOVE IT! So you did what they did, and as a result you got what you wanted? Bravo! Their resentment comes from (1) being caught, (2) realizing they've been played, and (3) losing the opportunity to use you. If they can't get over themselves in a timely manner, you should rethink the friendship.
NTA - You’ve probably paid for those drinks ahead with the extra you’ve been shelling out for their meals up until now. You had every right to order them and now it proved a point to be more fair when dining out with these friends.
Everyone agreed unanimously here that this man wasn't wrong to prove his point to his friends even if it was in this delightfully petty way. Good luck, everyone!