Man asks if he's wrong to shame girlfriend for the 'weird' way she talks about her car.
Is it weird to have a name for your car?
Reddit user u/Ok-Disk-5109 says yes, his girlfriend (and her car Angie) disagree. It seems like a silly reason to fight, but for this couple, it's a relationship dealbreaker.
This boyfriend is asking the internet, 'AITA (Am I The A**hole) for telling my girlfriend the way she talks about her car is weird and embarrassing?'
He writes:
I’ve (25) been dating my GF (23) for about 9 months now. When she turned 21, her parents gave her a car, and she decided to name it Angie. I learned all this on our first date when she said “Angie took me here.” I thought that was odd but let it slide.
Throughout our relationship, she’s always talked about her car as if she’s talking about another person. When she got a flat tire on the highway a few months back, she called me and said that “Angie’s shoe broke and has to get a new one.” When she goes to the car wash she describes it as “giving Angie a bath.”
This all came to a head this weekend when me and my friends went out drinking, and my GF offered to be the designated driver. We were out for a couple of hours and I admittedly got a bit too drunk. When my GF came to pick us up, she said she was stopping at the gas station first “to get Angie something to drink.”
'This is where I may be the a-hole...'
I told her I think it’s weird and embarrassing of her to talk about her car like that. It’s a machine, not a pet or a kid, and that she should treat it like how a normal person would treat any machine.
She got very quiet and refused to say anything for the rest of the drive home. She dropped off my friends, and then drove to my apartment. I asked her why we weren’t going back to hers, and she said she needed some time to think and told me to get out. She’s been radio silent since then and I’m starting to think I did something wrong. AITA for what I said?
He asked and Reddit answered. They overwhelmingly declared this boyfriend 'The A**hole' and an all-around stick in the mud.
His girlfriend isn't hurting anyone by being silly and naming her car. It sounds like this couple may not be a good match personality-wise, but that shouldn't be much of a problem anymore, because it sounds like he got dumped by his girlfriend and her car.
From Pass_The_P0pcorn
I asked Sasha since she’s my car & would have a better perspective on this. She said YTA. Sasha also said cars need gas because they’re hungry, not thirsty. She thought it was important for everyone to know.
From Hugh_Jass_Clouds
I asked Taco what he thought of all this. He squirt some fluids and flashed some lights at me. I think that means OP is the AH, or he wants to go play with Herbie...
From MiniatureAppendix
My car Bertha agrees. She’s 15 years old and on her last legs, and I frequently give her a pat to the hood or steering wheel and say, “Good job, girl. Hold in there just a little longer for me.” Is it stupid? Sure. Does it hurt anyone? No. YTA.
From SadderOlderWiser
YTA - don’t crap on the harmless little quirks of others. You look so much worse than your GF in this story. Spoiling her fun for no earthly reason. I’d be embarrassed to date someone as uptight as you are.
From nerdpower13
My van, Vanna White, also agrees. OP YTA, let people enjoy things. Your girlfriend talking about her car that way doesn't hurt you or anyone else. It's just a fun thing she likes to do. Stop being so boring.
From lihzee
YTA. Jeez, just let your girlfriend enjoy her relationship with Angie. Are you jealous? How was she hurting anyone by being a bit silly when referring to her car?
From Professional_Fee9555
“I’m sorry but Angie says your an asshole and she doesn’t want you inside her anymore. Get out.”
From the_esjay
There are always people who treat their environment differently to you. Either respect them and leave them to their perfectly acceptable choices, or stfu. Everyone has quirks, and part of being in a relationship is accepting and even loving those odd little behaviours and foibles.
Trying to embarrass someone - anyone - in front of our friends is something no one should consider acceptable, however. It’s just bullying, and it tells me she’s definitely better off without you. If one of my friends did something like that to someone, I’d reconsider our friendship too.
Being drunk is no excuse. Get a handle on yourself and apologize to her (and Angie) as publicly as you called her out. It doesn’t mean she’ll forgive you, but you might have some hope of becoming a decent human being.
Yes, we cried when our first little van died. We still have his number plate on the wall. It’s a natural human behavior to anthropomorphize the objects we form relationships with. A bad workman blames his tools; a good workman names them. YTA
From daisukidesu1981
You called her weird and embarrassing as she did you and your stupid drunk friends a favor late into the night. You made her feel stupid because she now knows you’ve been secretly embarrassed by her for months over a quirk. YTA and probably a single one if you can’t turn this around.
From graeflamingo
My Jeeps name is RUBY, and she has a strict ' no assholes allowed' rule ..... so no ride for you, sir