Mom asks if she's wrong for refusing to remove breastfeeding photo for MIL.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship can sometimes be as true as the stereotypes, but setting firm boundaries with family members can save you a lot of future stress and uncomfortable wine-fueled holiday fights...
Especially when children are involved, in-laws can feel extra emboldened with unsolicited opinions and advice. So, when a conflicted mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about tension with her mother-in-law, people were eager to help deem a verdict.
"AITA for telling my mother-in-law to either deal with looking at my t!$s or get out?"
I (28F) just gave birth to twins. They're a month old. My husband (32M) and I really struggled with fertility, so I've gone a bit all out with our nursery. There's a black and white picture of me breastfeeding the twins framed on one of the walls. I love it, my husband loves it and my mum loves it.
My husband had an unavoidable day trip for work last week, so he was gone all day. My mother was due to come over to help me out with the twins after her doctors appointment.
My mother-in-law stopped by unexpectedly. I let her in because although she can be a bit annoying, she loves her grandchildren and she's happy that we finally managed to have some babies.
I let her into the nursery to see them sleeping, and that's when she noticed the picture. She's never seen it before. I found them awake, so I let her join me in the nursery as I breastfed.
She couldn't shut up about the picture. According to her it's gross and inappropriate. I know breastfeeding with your t(ts out is a bit weird to the older generations, but this is my nursery. If my t^ts were that annoying, she could just get out.
She kept saying that I should take it down, and then actually took it off the wall herself. That's when I snapped. I put my son down, and I took the picture off her. I said 'you can either deal with looking at my t%ts or get out of the room.' She got extremely offended and left the house.
FIL called me later and said the language I used was disgusting and that I should apologize. I honestly just hung up without responding and decided to wait for hubby to get home.
I have post partum distress so I really cannot deal with bulls$*t atm. My husband told them to leave me alone, but then he said that I should've picked my words better.
I told him to tell his mother she wasn't welcome in the nursery ever again. MIL is still demanding an apology and father-in-law said I'm being a 'total cow'. AITA? (really should be am I the cow but this'll do)
'Am I the Cow?' coming soon to Reddit...
This mom has every right to decorate her nursery however she wants to and if it makes her mother-in-law uncomfortable then she'll simply have to deal with it. If it was her house and her children then she could choose the decor.
Of course, the jury of internet strangers was eager to weigh in on this glorious family drama. Here's what people had to say:
ivanthemute said:
NTA and congrats on the twins. MIL should know it's a pic of what boobs are made for. The super-sexy-funtime aspect of them is simply a bonus for what is, in essence, drink dispensers for newborns. If she's offended by your twins on your twins, then MIL can find the door.
dumbbinch99 said:
NTA. Also weird that it’s not okay for you to say “t#ts” but it’s okay for FIL to call you a cow? F*%k em
ravenousraven222 said:
NTA. A mother saying “ew, b@@bs” to another mother is a mindbogglingly hot take.
_neuros1s_ said:
NTA, it's your house, she came by unannounced. You were right, if she doesn't like it, the door is wide open
So, there you have it!
Everyone agreed unanimously here that if this mother-in-law has a problem with her daughter-in-law's pride in feeding her babies then she can get out of the house. Good luck, everyone!