AITA

<p>Holidays are filled with fun, love, and, most importantly, drama. Deciding where to go and who to see is a tension point for many families. On a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yxogxf/aita_for_telling_my_son_that_he_ruined_christmas/" target="_blank">popular Reddit thread</a> in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one mom is taken aback when her son drops a bombshell on where he went to spend Christmas.</p><p>She writes:</p><blockquote> <p>My (F.) and My ex-husband (M.) are divorced. We have a 16 yo son together, 'Mason.' I got remarried to my husband (M.) Nathan.</p> </blockquote><h2>Custody battles are always ugly.</h2><blockquote> <p>My ex-husband and I used to argue about who should get Mason for the holidays back when he was little. As he got older, we started letting him decide. Last year he spent Christmas with me, Nathan, and my inlaws.</p> </blockquote><h2>You must pitch Mason on a good time the way shoe brands pitch future sports stars.</h2><blockquote> <p>He complained that the experience was 'terrible' because he said Nathan and his family had little to no accommodation for his food choices (I&#39;m not defending them, but my inlaws are pretty traditional when it comes to food and a bit ignorant to what types of foods Mason eats). He also said he didn&#39;t feel as welcome as the other kids in the family and that Nathan forced him to share his stuff, like his phone, so that his stepnephews could watch Christmas movies.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Well, what did you expect after that bad pitch meeting last year?</h2><blockquote> <p>Yesterday, during breakfast, we were talking about Christmas and what we were planning this year, but out of nowhere, Mason announced that he&#39;d spend Christmas with his dad at a rental Christmas cottage in his favorite town.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I was stunned, and so was Nathan. I asked Mason when and how he agreed to this arrangement. Still, he pointed back to what happened last Christmas and said he didn&#39;t want to 'have another sh*tty holiday and be miserable' I told him that his dad should&#39;ve come to me first.</p> </blockquote><h2>That is healthy communication.</h2><blockquote> <p>Still, he argued that his dad had already okayed it, so he saw no need for my opinion. We started arguing, and he started complaining about me trying to ruin the experience. In response, I told him he had already ruined Christmas for me and his stepdad when he agreed to this arrangement.</p> </blockquote><h2>If you can&#39;t get what you want, turn to the law.</h2><blockquote> <p>He got up and walked away after saying that I was being 'overdramatic.' Nathan just sat there and looked down. I had a massive argument on the phone with Mason&#39;s dad, and he kept giving me an attitude and laughing and saying that I sounded pathetic. When I told him I&#39;d have my lawyer call him, he backpedaled and said he wouldn&#39;t have done this if Mason didn&#39;t like it.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Nathan and OP think Mason is being a bit unreasonable.</h2><blockquote> <p>He urged me to drop it and let Mason have this experience, or he&#39;ll resent me for missing it. Now Mason isn&#39;t speaking to me. Nathan is trying to convince him to stay with us because our Christmas is ruined without him, but he won&#39;t budge from the looks of it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>AITA for not dropping it as well? What I meant by 'why didn&#39;t his dad come to me first' is that he planned to take Mason out of town, which is a big deal to me. There&#39;s going to be traveling.</p> </blockquote><h2>The internet chimed in, and it is not looking good for OP.</h2><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yxogxf/comment/iwplvku/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3" target="_blank">horrorwhore22</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA (You&#39;re the A**hole). So your son can decide who he wants to spend holidays with, as long as he chooses you? Get over yourself. Start thinking of your son.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>You did nothing to make his holiday a good one last year. You let him be miserable and just defended your in-laws. Instead of supporting your son&#39;s choice, you throw a tantrum and threaten your ex. Some parent you&#39;re being. You&#39;re acting more like a kid than your kid.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yxogxf/comment/iwpliwb/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3" target="_blank">ElendorEcco</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>Yeah, in my opinion, YTA. He spent last Christmas with you guys, and I think it&#39;s only fair for him to want to spend this Christmas with his dad.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Totally unfair for you to say that he ruined Christmas. He&#39;s still a kid. Did you think he&#39;d spend every holiday with you guys when he also has a dad with whom he&#39;d like to spend the holidays?</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yxogxf/comment/iwplipp/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3" target="_blank">Wolfenbro </a>says:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA. Maybe if Mason had enjoyed his Christmas, and was treated fairly, he&rsquo;d want to be around you for Christmas? He also chose to spend it with you last year, why can&rsquo;t he switch off this year if you &ldquo;let him choose&rdquo;?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I get the impression that the only reason you give him an option is so that you get to lord it over your ex when you get picked, but now that it&rsquo;s gone the other way, you&rsquo;re throwing a tantrum. And you&rsquo;re going to ruin your kid&rsquo;s holiday (and your relationship with him) if you keep pushing this.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Yikes, OP, Mason is right to run away from you and Nathan.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

'Am I a bad mom for telling my son he'll ruin my Christmas if he stays with his dad?'

Holidays are filled with fun, love, and, most importantly, drama. Deciding where to go and who to see is a tension point for many families. On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one mom is taken aback when her son drops a bombshell on where he went to spend Christmas.She writes: My (F.) and My ex-husband (M.) are divorced. We have a 16 yo son together, 'Mason.' I got remarried to my husband (M.) Nathan. Custody battles are always ugly. My ex-husband and I used to argue about who should get Mason for the holidays back when he was little. As he got older, we started letting him decide. Last year he spent Christmas with me, Nathan, and my inlaws. You must pitch Mason on a good time the way shoe brands pitch future sports stars. He complained that the experience was 'terrible' because he said Nathan and his family had little to no accommodation for his food choices (I&#39;m not defending them, but my inlaws are pretty traditional when it comes to food and a bit ignorant to what types of foods Mason eats). He also said he didn&#39;t feel as welcome as the other kids in the family and that Nathan forced him to share his stuff, like his phone, so that his stepnephews could watch Christmas movies. Well, what did you expect after that bad pitch meeting last year? Yesterday, during breakfast, we were talking about Christmas and what we were planning this year, but out of nowhere, Mason announced that he&#39;d spend Christmas with his dad at a rental Christmas cottage in his favorite town.  I was stunned, and so was Nathan. I asked Mason when and how he agreed to this arrangement. Still, he pointed back to what happened last Christmas and said he didn&#39;t want to 'have another sh*tty holiday and be miserable' I told him that his dad should&#39;ve come to me first. That is healthy communication. Still, he argued that his dad had already okayed it, so he saw no need for my opinion. We started arguing, and he started complaining about me trying to ruin the experience. In response, I told him he had already ruined Christmas for me and his stepdad when he agreed to this arrangement. If you can&#39;t get what you want, turn to the law. He got up and walked away after saying that I was being 'overdramatic.' Nathan just sat there and looked down. I had a massive argument on the phone with Mason&#39;s dad, and he kept giving me an attitude and laughing and saying that I sounded pathetic. When I told him I&#39;d have my lawyer call him, he backpedaled and said he wouldn&#39;t have done this if Mason didn&#39;t like it. Nathan and OP think Mason is being a bit unreasonable. He urged me to drop it and let Mason have this experience, or he&#39;ll resent me for missing it. Now Mason isn&#39;t speaking to me. Nathan is trying to convince him to stay with us because our Christmas is ruined without him, but he won&#39;t budge from the looks of it.  AITA for not dropping it as well? What I meant by 'why didn&#39;t his dad come to me first' is that he planned to take Mason out of town, which is a big deal to me. There&#39;s going to be traveling. The internet chimed in, and it is not looking good for OP.horrorwhore22 says: YTA (You&#39;re the A**hole). So your son can decide who he wants to spend holidays with, as long as he chooses you? Get over yourself. Start thinking of your son.  You did nothing to make his holiday a good one last year. You let him be miserable and just defended your in-laws. Instead of supporting your son&#39;s choice, you throw a tantrum and threaten your ex. Some parent you&#39;re being. You&#39;re acting more like a kid than your kid. ElendorEcco says: Yeah, in my opinion, YTA. He spent last Christmas with you guys, and I think it&#39;s only fair for him to want to spend this Christmas with his dad.  Totally unfair for you to say that he ruined Christmas. He&#39;s still a kid. Did you think he&#39;d spend every holiday with you guys when he also has a dad with whom he&#39;d like to spend the holidays? Wolfenbro says: YTA. Maybe if Mason had enjoyed his Christmas, and was treated fairly, he&rsquo;d want to be around you for Christmas? He also chose to spend it with you last year, why can&rsquo;t he switch off this year if you &ldquo;let him choose&rdquo;?  I get the impression that the only reason you give him an option is so that you get to lord it over your ex when you get picked, but now that it&rsquo;s gone the other way, you&rsquo;re throwing a tantrum. And you&rsquo;re going to ruin your kid&rsquo;s holiday (and your relationship with him) if you keep pushing this. Yikes, OP, Mason is right to run away from you and Nathan.

Holidays are filled with fun, love, and, most importantly, drama. Deciding where to go and who to see is a tension point for many families. On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one mom is taken aback when her son...