Pregnant sister 'ruins' sister's baby shower, 'have you had enough attention;' AITA?
The competition between sisters can run deep, but what happens when you're both pregnant at the same time?
So, when a conflicted expecting mom decided to consult the moral compass of the internet about the drama that went down at her baby shower, people were eager to hear the juicy details.
AITA (Am I the As*hole) for asking my sister if she’s had enough attention?
My (30F) sister (36) is pregnant with her second child. Her first child, she didn’t find out the sex until she gave birth. This time, she and her husband did but have decided not to tell anyone. We’ve all respected that.
Like, it’s their business. They have made a pretty big deal about it, constantly bringing it up and trying to bait people into asking, just so they can smile and say “we know but we’re not telling!” Annoying, but we avoid it.
They recently picked a name. As you can guess, they don’t want to tell anyone. Cool, their choice. But once again, there’s baiting for people to ask questions.
I am also pregnant with my first. We’re not finding out the sex until birth, though we have 2 names picked out and have told people if they ask. I had my baby shower last weekend.
My sister was there. She baited a few people that didn’t know her into asking her what she was having. I ignored it.
Then, while opening gifts, I received two onesies. One had the name we picked out for a girl, the other with the one for a boy. My aunt explained I could hold onto the other one for if we had a second or donate it (both are pretty common names).
I thought it was so sweet. My sister then said “oh, we’ve picked a name too!” I already knew what would happen. A few asked what it was. She smirked and said “we’re not telling.'
I rolled my eyes and said “yeah, we know, have enough attention for now?” She turned red but didn’t say anything else. We moved on.
My mom later chastised me, saying I shouldn’t have called her out like that. Apparently my sister cried after. I pointed out she already had her shower where she could annoy people with all that, she doesn’t need to do it with mine. AITA?
Here's what the jury of internet strangers had to say:
Champi_Feuille said:
My french a@s don't understand the concept of baby shower but it was YOUR moment. It's very rude of her to try to make it about her because she's pregnant too. If you don't want to give out the gender or the names, don't do it, and stop trying to bait people to be an attention seeker. Rude. NTA.
heyitsmelxd said:
NTA. Not only is that incredibly annoying, but this was a celebration for you and your baby. She couldn’t avoid making it about her for a couple hours? She’d already had her shower and a previous child before that. Seems as though she suffers a bit from main character syndrome.
sha_n0n said:
NTA. At your baby shower, its extra 'ick' for her to talk about her pregnancy. Your baby shower should be about you, partner, and baby. Not sisters need to be seen as mysterious and special because she's keeping the gender and name to herself. Actually, she should KEEP that to herself as well.
Meth_Hardy said:
NTA - It was YOUR baby shower. She sounds insufferable.
Jamez_the_human said:
NTA. Yeah, she cried because people kept enabling her and letting her this it was fine. Which it was, at first. A little annoying maybe, but she's pregnant and excited and this might very well be the last time.
Sure...but trying to one up you at your own baby shower is just too much. You deserve to enjoy what little things you can about being pregnant too.
FantasyLarperTX said:
Nta at all. It was indeed attention seeking.