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'AITA for telling my sister that’s it’s too late for apologies?'

'AITA for telling my sister that’s it’s too late for apologies?'

"AITA for telling my sister that’s it’s too late for apologies?​​​"

My sister and her two kids moved in with us after she was facing homeless after being evicted from her place. She has become very clingy with me. I have to repeatedly tell her my wife and I are not watching you kids.

We gave you a place to stay. We have to constantly remind her to clean up after her and her children and not let her kids destroy things. She’s been envious if my wife and I go out. And has made comments like that must be nice if my wife buys new clothes or something designer. She has been repeatedly talked to about this and told to stop.

Last night my wife and I went on a date night to go out and see a live show and get sushi. My sister is waiting up of us close to 1 am and yells at us how we didn’t bring her the kids something.

How it is so mean that we flaunt our lifestyle while her kids are struggling and the least we could do is bring her and her kids home something. It’s 1 am. Her kids aren’t even awake. My sister said she deserves a little treat time to time and more say around the home.

My wife flips on her and tells my sister she needs to move out ASAP she doesn’t want her toxic ass in her home anymore and if she’s not out in 30 days she will be getting the courts and child services involved to remove them from the home and my wife told my sister how she’s a mentally unstable unfit mother.

My sister acted like I would protect her and she called my wife a bitch and saying I wouldn’t let that happen. I told my sister my wife can do as she wants and it’s her home too. My sister is the one who made herself unwelcome.

My sister didn’t apologize but made us breakfast this morning and my wife threw the plate of food away and told my sister 29 days. My wife left to go speak to one of her cousins who is a lawyer this morning.

My sister acted all innocent in front of her kids who could tell their aunts attitude was off. My sister tried apologizing to me after my wife left and I told her it’s probably too late for that because my wife is getting the official paperwork now.

Here were the top rated comments from readers in response to the OP's post:

Brilliant_Norma

NTA. Your sister's actions have created a toxic environment in your home, and it's valid that your wife wants her gone. Your wife has every right to set boundaries and feel safe and respected in her own home. Your sister's behavior has been consistently ungrateful, disrespectful, and manipulative.

mildepan

I wouldn’t be surprised if the sister actually thought that she would get away with calling the wife a bitch and thought “this is it, they get divorced and now HE can (edit: stupid autocorrect) take care of US.”

ThePapaIsHere

Where does your sister get her absurd sense of entitlement? Almost sounds like you two came from different sets of parents. It would enhance the narrative if you included the ages of all involved. Even so, you are NTA.

Peony-Pony

NTA Your sister had more than thirty days to figure out her living situation. She needed to start looking for housing the day after she and her children showed up on your doorstep. She's jealous of your home life and a little too comfortable living with you and your wife. She pushed your wife's buttons one too many times and now she's getting an eviction notice.

magiemaddi

She wants a brother-baby-daddy. She thinks she's equal to your wife. Or above your wife apparently. Are you willing to take care of your sister like a wife for the rest of your life? No? Then help your wife evict them. NTA but you will be if you let them stay.

Only-Ingenuity7889

Serve that eviction notice in writing asap. NTA.

Proof_Strawberry_464

Also, OP, check with your local laws. The fact that she lives with you guys could mean that she doesn't have many tenancy rights. In my area she'd be considered a lodger, and lodgers only need a few days notice to vacate.

Even_Budget2078

NTA. "she called my wife a bitch and saying I wouldn’t let that happen." THANK YOU, OP. You handled this exactly correctly. Your sister is acting in an incredibly disrespectful and sexist manner to your wife.

Your wife has every right to act on this unacceptable behavior in her home and you did great in supporting her and refusing to let your sister try to drive a wedge between you two.

saintandvillian

NTA. Your sister must have a high sense of entitlement given she thinks you should house her and her kids, babysit, clean up after them, and provide special treats. It sounds like she needs a reality check.

Does she work? Has she been looking for a job or a place to live? And why has your sister not gotten a clue prior to last night? What did you and your wife tell her during her other instances of poor behavior? And why does your sister seem to think that apologizing to you and not your wife will change the situation? She sounds incredibly rude and disrespectful to your wife.

But, to be honest, she might have been intimidated after your wife threw away the food lol. Besides which, 30 days is plenty of time. shes an adult with dependents so she needs to figure out a more long-term solution.

So, what do you think about this one? If you could give the OP any advice here, what would you tell them?

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