AITA

<p>A good friend is there in the good and bad times unless they&#39;re just pretending to be good friends! On a popular Reddit thread on the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, a woman questions whether the people in her life are friends.</p><blockquote> <p>AITA for canceling a check of $12,000 that I wrote for my infertile friend for her next IVF cycle over a joke?</p> </blockquote><h2>Good friends can carry you through the worst of times.</h2><blockquote> <p>I (F35) am infertile. My ex-husband and I tried everything to have kids, but it never happened. He divorced me, went and married someone younger who was able to give him a kid, and from what I gather, they&#39;re expecting a second child together. It hurts like hell seeing someone else have what I couldn&#39;t.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I sometimes get frustrated with myself and my family, blaming myself for everything. I turn to my friends for support, Especially &quot;Alessia,&quot; she&#39;s in the same &quot;infertility boat&quot; as me, but she and her husband are currently trying IVF, hoping it&#39;d work.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Dang, OP takes care of her friends.</h2><blockquote> <p>Alessia asked me for help to pay for her upcoming IVF cycle. I agreed to write her a check for $12,000, I wanted to help her, and the money came with no strings attached. I wrote the review and gave it to her last week. She was very appreciative of it.</p> </blockquote><h2>Alessia&#39;s true colors are shining through.</h2><blockquote> <p>The next day, I got a sudden message from a mutual friend, &quot;Carol,&quot; with a screenshot of her conversation with Alessia. It turns out she and Alessia were talking about the next IVF cycle. Alessia said she hoped the cycle would work because &quot;she didn&#39;t wanna end up divorced and having her husband marry someone younger and have a baby with them and another one on the way! While she&#39;s alone and without a family at 35! (She&#39;s 32).</p> </blockquote><h2>OP is non-confrontational.</h2><blockquote> <p>I was stunned and hurt, knowing she meant me here. But I did not confront her. I contacted my bank and canceled the check. In the evening, Alessia called to ask why I canceled the check, and I told her. She went batsh*t, saying she didn&#39;t mean it that way and thought this was somewhat an &quot;inside joke&quot; between &quot;desperate infertile women.&quot;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Alessia&#39;s husband is not happy.</h2><blockquote> <p>She came over with her husband the next day, begging me to write another check, but I refused. An argument ensued, and her husband thought I wasn&#39;t being supportive of her, like when she supported me throughout my struggles. She left crying, and we hadn&#39;t talked since then. Her husband keeps reminding me (while repeatedly calling Carol, a toxic snake) of the date of the next cycle, saying they can&#39;t have it after I took the money that was supposed to pay for it back!</p> </blockquote><h2>One joke can trump fifteen years.</h2><blockquote> <p>Some friends think I&#39;m being oversensitive. Carol&#39;s on my side telling me to tell them to go to hell, but I feel so bad about it. What I&#39;ve done might damage our fifteen years of friendship. Maybe I shouldn&#39;t have canceled it, but I felt offended by what she said about me and how she mocked my unfortunate circumstances.</p> <p>So Reddit, AITA?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yfm01l/comment/iu403pv/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Tigarana</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA</p> <p>It was a cruel thing to do to her. Especially after you are being so gracious towards them.</p> <p>Btw, just a reminder, your worth is not connected to your ability to bear children &lt;3</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yfm01l/comment/iu40l9c/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Mean_Macaroni59</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA. Let the friends calling you too sensitive open their checkbooks.</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/yfm01l/comment/iu40pmg/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">butt5000 </a>says:</h2><blockquote> <p>NTA - but shelling out $12k for a friend&rsquo;s IVF treatment is wild. Don&rsquo;t do that.</p> </blockquote><p>Real friends don&#39;t talk sh*t about friends who give them $12,000...I certainly would never.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

"Was I wrong to cancel my 12K IVF donation after my friend ridiculed my infertility?"

A good friend is there in the good and bad times unless they&#39;re just pretending to be good friends! On a popular Reddit thread on the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, a woman questions whether the people in her life are friends. AITA for canceling a check of $12,000 that I wrote for my infertile friend for her next IVF cycle over a joke? Good friends can carry you through the worst of times. I (F35) am infertile. My ex-husband and I tried everything to have kids, but it never happened. He divorced me, went and married someone younger who was able to give him a kid, and from what I gather, they&#39;re expecting a second child together. It hurts like hell seeing someone else have what I couldn&#39;t.  I sometimes get frustrated with myself and my family, blaming myself for everything. I turn to my friends for support, Especially &quot;Alessia,&quot; she&#39;s in the same &quot;infertility boat&quot; as me, but she and her husband are currently trying IVF, hoping it&#39;d work. Dang, OP takes care of her friends. Alessia asked me for help to pay for her upcoming IVF cycle. I agreed to write her a check for $12,000, I wanted to help her, and the money came with no strings attached. I wrote the review and gave it to her last week. She was very appreciative of it. Alessia&#39;s true colors are shining through. The next day, I got a sudden message from a mutual friend, &quot;Carol,&quot; with a screenshot of her conversation with Alessia. It turns out she and Alessia were talking about the next IVF cycle. Alessia said she hoped the cycle would work because &quot;she didn&#39;t wanna end up divorced and having her husband marry someone younger and have a baby with them and another one on the way! While she&#39;s alone and without a family at 35! (She&#39;s 32). OP is non-confrontational. I was stunned and hurt, knowing she meant me here. But I did not confront her. I contacted my bank and canceled the check. In the evening, Alessia called to ask why I canceled the check, and I told her. She went batsh*t, saying she didn&#39;t mean it that way and thought this was somewhat an &quot;inside joke&quot; between &quot;desperate infertile women.&quot; Alessia&#39;s husband is not happy. She came over with her husband the next day, begging me to write another check, but I refused. An argument ensued, and her husband thought I wasn&#39;t being supportive of her, like when she supported me throughout my struggles. She left crying, and we hadn&#39;t talked since then. Her husband keeps reminding me (while repeatedly calling Carol, a toxic snake) of the date of the next cycle, saying they can&#39;t have it after I took the money that was supposed to pay for it back! One joke can trump fifteen years. Some friends think I&#39;m being oversensitive. Carol&#39;s on my side telling me to tell them to go to hell, but I feel so bad about it. What I&#39;ve done might damage our fifteen years of friendship. Maybe I shouldn&#39;t have canceled it, but I felt offended by what she said about me and how she mocked my unfortunate circumstances. So Reddit, AITA? Tigarana says: NTA It was a cruel thing to do to her. Especially after you are being so gracious towards them. Btw, just a reminder, your worth is not connected to your ability to bear children &lt;3 Mean_Macaroni59 says: NTA. Let the friends calling you too sensitive open their checkbooks. butt5000 says: NTA - but shelling out $12k for a friend&rsquo;s IVF treatment is wild. Don&rsquo;t do that. Real friends don&#39;t talk sh*t about friends who give them $12,000...I certainly would never.

A good friend is there in the good and bad times unless they&#39;re just pretending to be good friends! On a popular Reddit thread on the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, a woman questions whether the people in her life are friends.   AITA for...