You don't have to love everyone your sibling dates, but it's rough if you despise them. On a popular Reddit thread on the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, a woman sabotages her sister's relationship with her awful boyfriend.
James sounds like an annoying person.
I (F20) have an older sister “Lauren” (F21). Lauren started dating “James” (M23) about three weeks ago. They’ve known each other for about a year, and I’ll be honest, I never really liked James from the start. He’s blatantly misogynistic and homophobic ( I’m part of the LGBTQ+ community, so this bothered me). Despite this, I keep it civil with him.
James and Lauren came to my apartment for dinner last night. I’m not sure how we got onto the topic, but we talked about body counts (how many people you’ve slept with). James commented, 'If a girl has a higher body count than five, that’s disgusting, and I would never talk to her.”
My sister and I talk to each other about everything, so I know her body count is higher than five, so I looked at her and commented, “hmm, that’s interesting,” in response to what James had said. He quickly looks over at my sister and says, “why is that interesting? You told me I was your fourth?
If I find out you lied, that’s a dealbreaker, and you know that”. My sister didn’t say anything, and the conversation was dropped.
A while later, James leaves, and it’s just my sister and me. She immediately flips out on me, saying I exposed her and that I was trying to sabotage her relationship. I told her I had no idea she lied to James and that maybe she should be honest with him instead of getting mad at me. She then left, and I hadn’t spoken to her since. So AITA?
NTA (Not the A**hole). How were you supposed to know that your sister wasn't being honest with her boyfriend? I hate the mentality that these narcissistic people have where if someone else accidentally exposes their lies that it's somehow not their own fault for lying, but rather on the person who exposed them because of reasons.
NTA. Dating for 3 weeks is nothing and James has already made his views on women and lgbt+ community clear. Of course, he can for himself say he wants a woman with a low body count but it is surely the best when he breaks up with your sister. In a few years, depending on how close you are, she'll be glad she didn't enter a serious relationship with James.
ESH (Everyone Sucks Here).
You suck for outing your sister's 'body count'.
James sucks for being a misogynistic D-Bag for thinking something like that should even matter about a person.
Your sister sucks for lying and continuing to be with said D-bag. And everyone involved equally sucks for even remotely caring about the number of partners a person has had. If you truly didn't care, you should have made a comment along the lines of 'why should anyone care?' You all need to grow up.