Woman asks if she was wrong to leave husband after exposing his friend as a scammer.
Sometimes, there's one guy in a friend group who can't hold down a job and is always getting someone else to pay for his drinks. He's fun but a bit of a mooch, so it's best not to enable him by continuing to give him money. On a popular Reddit thread on the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one wife exposes their friend Andy for being a mooch and a scammer.
AITA for telling everyone it’s not Andy’s birthday?
Andy is not paying for any dinners.
My husband has a friend Andy who can’t hold down a job, and there’s always something wrong where he can’t afford his rent. Andy always asks for money or a loan he doesn’t pay back. My husband gives in and gives it to him. I’m talking thousands of dollars over the last few years my husband has “loaned” him. A few months ago, I told my husband I was gone the next time he gave Andy money.
I have lied to companies about my birthday to get free stuff.
My husband was doing well until Andy showed up at our door last night and told my husband everyone had forgotten his birthday. So they go out for drinks. I do some snooping on Facebook, and Andy’s birthday isn’t until next month, and I screenshot a picture of my husband last year with him on Andy’s actual birthday in front of a Christmas tree.
Sometimes being a party pooper can be very satisfying.
I go to the bar and show everyone that it’s not Andy’s birthday, and the room is dead silent. Andy said he put the wrong birthday on his Facebook account, so I showed him the picture of him from last year with the date posted of his actual birthday. Andy said that was a mistake, and everyone thinks the December date is correct because it’s on his Facebook.
Classic Andy.
I asked Andy to show everyone his driver's license, and he said he had forgotten it. I asked the bartender if Andy could legally drink without proof of age, and the bartender said no. Andy left refused to show his license and quit. My husband said I was a b*tch for no reason, but I reminded him that it’s the first day of the month, and Andy always comes around looking for extra money.
Andy ruins more than his friend's wallets.
We argued about Andy once again. My husband stayed with a friend, and I’m packing up my things because he acts like I’m the AH for coming to the bar and saying publicly what I did.
RateMySass says:
NTA (Not the A**hole) file for divorce and let your husband and Andy live happily ever after. You deserve better.
collegegrad2022 says:
NTA -
Assuming this story is true, Andy is a leech. Your husband has on Rose colored glasses.
Someone getting in trouble- either through an actual consequence or just sheer embarrassment- because of something they ACTIVELY choose to do, is not your fault.
That’s like saying I stole something from BestBuy, my friend reported me, and I got arrested and then blamed my friend for “ruining my life.” My friend didn’t ruin my life; I did.
Andy is embarrassed for being called out because he got away with so much for so long. Your husband is embarrassed because that’s his friend.
OP, stand your ground. Money troubles await if your husband doesn’t see the significance of giving money to people without a second thought who clearly won’t pay a cent back.
MamaH1620 says:
How good are any of these friends if none of them know Andy’s birthday? I know some of my neighbor’s birthdays. NTA.