Woman asks if she was petty to insult co-worker for implying breasts got her promoted.
Dress for the job you want, not the job you have. Maybe that doesn't apply as much anymore in the zoom world, but showing up professionally and working hard will put you on track to moving up at your job. On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, a woman's promotion is questioned because of her body.
AITA for how I responded when my co-worker told me that the reason I got a promotion was because of my breast size?
Haters gonna hate.
So, I f33 been working in this company for three years. After years of long shifts, working on weekends, and going the extra mile. The company finally gave me a promotion. When my coworkers heard they were confused. Some pointed out that they've been with the company longer and worked harder. I ignored their comments since they were just 'venting.'
OP took this to HR of the internet...Reddit
However, There's one co-worker named 'Michael' who joined us yesterday during lunch break and started venting about his demotion. I stayed quiet til he brought up my promotion and flat out said, 'that the reason I got a promotion was because of my breast size.'
Got him!
I was shocked I almost dropped my cup. I looked around and everyone was staring. I responded, 'And the reason you got a demotion was because of your brain size!!!'. His face went pale, and people were laughing. He was pissed beyond belief. He turned around and walked out.
His reputation seems pretty bad to me.
Some co-workers approached me saying that Michael's reputation is ahead of him and that he's one of the best in this company, but due to his circumstances, he couldn't focus on work and got demoted as a result. so I shouldn't imply he was stupid and humiliate him in front of everybody. I asked if they were okay with what he said They said no but I could've ignored him or talked to him privately.
He went out of his way to hurt you first.
He's awaiting my apology and keeps avoiding me. I started to regret what I said. I feel horrible because I'm not a mean person and don't go out of my way to hurt others' feelings.
AITA?
Johnny-Fakehnameh says:
I think your response was perfect. Go straight to HR and report him for sexual harassment, which is precisely his comment. He was taking his failings out on your physical attributes. Get ahead of the situation. Do NOT apologize to him; that could be an admission of guilt.
buttercupgrump says:
NTA (Not the A**hole) Did your coworkers tell Michael he was way out of line for his comment? They don't get to tell you that you should have ignored him or talked to him privately after he very publicly insulted you. Go to HR. If Michael felt it was okay to talk about a coworker like that once, then he'll most likely do it again. He's already shown he has no issue putting you down in front of your peers.
Oh. So it’s ok to humiliate you in public but you have to talk to him in private. I don’t think so. Report him to HR NTA