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Woman chronicles multi-year saga of sociopathic sister; 'The alleged golden child framed me for a felony.' AITA? UPDATED 3X

Woman chronicles multi-year saga of sociopathic sister; 'The alleged golden child framed me for a felony.' AITA? UPDATED 3X


When this woman lays out the details of her family's multi-year felony saga, she asks the internet:

"My golden child sister tried to frame them for a felony and there was years and years of aftermath. AITA?"

This happened some years ago. I'm in my 30s now, but back then I was 22. My sister was 18, and was my mom's golden child. My dad thankfully has a good head on his shoulders, and always called my sister out on her shit. But my mom's interference always meant my sister got off easy anyway. This is what happened back then.

My parents decided to take a vacation to ski in Aspen and let my sister watch the house for them. They told her no parties, but that was a rule she straight up ignored. A day after our parents left, my sister started sending out invites to a party. And she was promising free alcohol.

I didn't see that post just yet. But my sister called me and asked me to go get alcohol for her party, because I was over 21 and could legally buy it. She also wanted me to pay for it and said she'd invite me to the party and introduce me to an 'easy' girl in order to pay me back.

I told her that I wasn't going to break the law to make her happy. She should never have told people her party would have alcohol. She screamed at me over the phone that I was ruining her life, and that she couldn't take back the invites now that they were all over her FB.

I looked at her post and face-palmed. I told her that what she did was really stupid, and she and her friends were all under age. So it's illegal. She tried to say it'd only be illegal if I narked on them. I said I wouldn't nark, but I wasn't going to buy her booze either. She screamed at me some more, so I hung up the phone.

Well that night my sister had the party. And someone called the police for under age drinking. After being arrested and confronted by police later on, my sister threw me under the bus and said that I'd supplied the alcohol she was using.

Turns out she actually broke into dad's liqueur cabinet, and thought it'd be better to frame me for her crime. Police came and arrested me at my apartment the day after the party.

They seemed already convinced I was guilty, and didn't really listen to me when I said I was never there. But I willingly cooperated with them. At the station I told them the whole story, and got them to look at my sister's FB post.

Thankfully there were a few people there who listened to me. But I still had to sit the night out in a cell while my parents were called.

My mom and dad flew back home over night, and bailed out both my sister and I. But my mom tried to make my dad leave me in jail, because my sister had told them her lies as well. But my dad took the time to talk to me, and look at my sister's FB. So he believed me.

This caused a fight between him and my mom. When they got home my dad discovered my sister had broken into his liqueur cabinet, and spoke to police on my behalf. My mom however still wanted the blame to fall on me because as she put it "The charges were ruining her baby's future!"

But my innocence was further proven by the fact that I and my car were seen on CCTV when I left work, and when I arrived at home soon after as the apartment I was living in then had CCTV cameras to watch the parking lot. My car did not move from there for the rest of the day and night.

In my sister's story to police I had driven out and gotten the alcohol for her. But I wasn't seen on CCTV in any liqueur store in the county, and my bank account showed no transactions buying alcohol.

My parents' house also had a camera at the front door, and my car was never seen in the driveway that day. After being confronted with those facts, my sister's story changed to saying I already had the alcohol and gave it to her at my apartment.

But my sister's car had never showed up at my apartment either. And there was like three cheap beers in my apartment fridge and no hard alcohol.

My sister finally had to give up on her lies, and my parents were severely disappointed in her. But my mom still tried to convince me to take the fall for my sister. She came to my apartment and actually demanded that I tell police that it was all my fault. I said I wasn't going to ruin my future for my sister.

She refused to leave and went from demanding to begging. She even got on her knees and tried to convince me that she and my dad would make everything ok in the long run if I just took the blame now. I said I'd rather live my life poor than have that felony on my record.

She threw a huge fit and started throwing things because I refused to do as she wanted. I threatened to call police and she left my apartment cussing me out like a mad woman.

I've never heard so many f-bombs out of her before or since. But she kept them up all the way to her car, and followed it up with saying she should have aborted me before driving off. I called my dad right away and told him everything that happened.

He was insanely pissed and got in a huge fight with my mom as soon as she got home. She didn't even deny anything she said or did, because she deemed it would have been for the greater good of their daughter.

But my dad told her that she couldn't destroy me to save my sister. Then he threatened to divorce her if she didn't try to make things right. She ended up sobbing and then saying she'd do whatever he wanted.

My dad said that it was couples and family counseling, or it was divorce. My mom signed a prenup before she married him, and really had no choice. In the family counseling I called her out on how she ALWAYS believed my sister's lies. My sister tried to say they were not lies.

But each one I pointed out from over the years said otherwise. I'd taken the time to write a list of all the ones I could remember from the past decade that had all been proven she lied. And my mom and sister were forced to stay silent as I read them all. They tried to interject repeatedly, but my dad and the counselor silenced them.

My sister now proven beyond a doubt to be a liar and a manipulator, just shut down and refused to say anything more to the counselor. And my mom finally apologized to me. But it was obviously a forced apology because she looked so uncomfortable doing it.

I told her that her apology was very fake, and after so many years of favoritism the damage was already done. My relationship with her never really recovered, because she was convinced I was guilty no matter what was said until my sister admitted the truth, and then wanted me to pretend to be the guilty one anyway to protect her favorite child. But nothing went her way. So she just went back to crying about it.

When my sister went to court, my mom pleaded with the judge to go easy on my sister for the charges of under age drinking and giving other under age people alcohol, as well as attempting to frame me for her crime. She also resisted arrest when the police came and shut down the party.

She was VERY drunk when it happened. They kept her in a cell over night to sober up, and then she told police I'd been the one to provide the alcohol. My mom's begging, along with the relentless lawyer my parents hired, got the judge to cut a deal, provided my sister plead guilty.

Which she did not want to do. But her lawyer highly recommended she take said deal to avoid jail time, because there was no other way of keeping her from getting a felony on her record.

My sister's lawyer used the fact that the alcohol had not been bought that day, but rather had already been in the house long before the party happened to help lessen the charges.

My sister's FB had also been completely deleted by her as soon as she was able to in order to hide the post. The judge just wanted the case over with, so my sister got off with a huge fine that our mom paid most of out of her own pocket, and a couple years probation.

She was also made to get therapy too by our dad. She's never really showed actual remorse for what she did though. And only had animosity for me, no matter how in the wrong she was.

She was eventually diagnosed as a narcissist after dad made her go see a doctor. After her probation and four years of college were over, she decided she was going to leave home for California and never come back once she landed a good job. She currently works in an office in LA, and we've not spoken in years.

Dad got her that job, and she's not shown any real appreciation for it. Even my mom has given up on her ever coming home for the holidays and us being a family again. It tore her up inside for a few years. But now she's just bitter. She doesn't really blame me anymore.

But we only seem to show indifference to each other. Just because my sister cut her off wouldn't make me the new defacto favorite. It just means my mom lost her baby, and isn't getting her back. She can't leave my dad because she's too reliant on him, despite having her own career.

She'd never want to be on her own again. So she's just become a shell of her former self. Things between me and my dad are still great. He's pretty much disowned my sister for what she's done, and has stopped caring if she'll ever talk to him again.

He and my mom don't even sleep in the same bedroom anymore. She moved into the guest room some five years ago and has stayed there. Their marriage is really only one on paper these days.

Info: It's a felony or misdemeanor to provide alcohol minors. And my sister provided stolen alcohol to at least a dozen people who were under 21. Then she resisted arrest and tried to frame me by lying to police.

The fact that she got off easy thanks to the shark toothed lawyer my parents hired for my sister was incredibly lucky. Not that she was ever appreciative. The judge hit her with a fine for each person she gave alcohol to. Which added up. And with the cost of the lawyer, well my parents were out a lot of money.

TLDR: My sister held a party with underage drinking and got arrested, tried to throw me under the bus by saying I provided the alcohol, and then had to be forced to admit the truth.

So my mom tried to make me take the blame anyway, my parents nearly divorced, my sister got off easy in court, and ran off to California after college, then ghosted us all, even our mother who did nothing but stick up for her

Before we give you OP's updates, let's take a look at some of the top responses:

nearby6 writes:

That is just awful. One how can a parent sacrifice one of their own kids for the sake of the other. That is just too selfish. As for your sister, She is at an age where she should understand consequences of one’s own action. Yet she…. Ugh I would have hung her in a tree somewhere and give your mom a treasure map.

It is a real pity that is how they treat you. I’m So happy your dad was there as a parent and taught you working is life also that you didn’t need help to succeed . I really do hope your future is brighter for you. Keep up the good work!

anxiouswalk writes:

I’m sorry you got thrown under the bus. Your sister is very lucky that she was arrested for under age drinking and nothing more serious (dui or worse) A few years ago my sister in law at the time was house sitting for a woman and was there to supervise her daughter.

SIL was 18 I think and the other girl (who she was close friends with) was 16. They had a party at the house while the mother was gone. My sister in law was the oldest one there and got people to supply alcohol for the party. Two girls that had been fighting over this guy for a long time came to the party.

It ended with one of the girls running the other over and killing her. My sister inlaw was arrested but the charges were dropped bc her mother (mil from hell) has a lot of connections.

The girl who ran over the other girl was in jail for years but isn’t anymore. (Pretty sure she was found not guilty. How? Idk. It’s crazy) Other people were charged for buying the alcohol.

Sister know should have been in a lot more trouble. It’s horrible but shit like this happens a lot. A bunch of irresponsible kids drinking and driving. Adults enabling it. Parents getting them out of it. It’s messed up. You were the only person in the situation with any sense.

gas8 writes:

Wait till she gets pregnant and then she’ll probably because of her narcissistic attitude, will be pounding on the door demanding she be taken care of. I know she will never think she’ll never be appreciative or anything like that...

but I would say in case of anything be on alert in case she decides that she wants to have a kid to boost her ego or just for social statuses but doesn’t want to take care of the poor thing.

Though I’m actually surprised that if anything your sister didn’t try to throw other false charges at you just so you Would be in more trouble than her because she sounds like the “if I’m going down you’re going down harder” type of person.

And now, OP's first update:

Edit: Yes my parents are wealthy. Especially my dad as he's a business owner. He owns several businesses actually. One big one and a few smaller ones. He even owns one of the local gas stations. And the town we live in is full of bored police that are just itching to get some action.

I also heard that a couple of the minors arrested at that party were the kids of police as well. Which did not help my odds when the cops came for me. The reason the investigation went as far as it did is because my dad pushed it through. I also went out of my way to provide some of the evidence.

Like the CCTV from my job, my apartment complex, and my bank statements showing I didn't buy the alcohol. The rest my dad pushed for. He had a lawyer get the CCTV from every liqueur store in the county for that day.

Though my mom tried to talk him out of doing so. In the end this took way too much to prove my sister was a liar, because she tried to stick to her story hard. Even after my parents discovered she got the alcohol from dad's liqueur cabinet.

And yes, my parents lost a ton of money basically paying off the court to dismiss most of my sister's charges. My sister had to pay like 10%. That's about it. And that's just the little bit my parents made her pay. They still paid for her college after that as well.

So people calling this out as rich people drama are exactly right, because it is just that. At the time this went on I was still in college myself. But my dad insisted I have a part time job to learn the value of work. And he was exactly right about that. My family is wealthy.

But my dad tried to keep me from acting spoiled growing up. I even bought my own first car with money I earned working part time. But I can't say the same for my sister as my mom treated her like a princess.

The rest of the family as a whole also hates my sister after what she did back then. So there wasn't much love lost when she ghosted us, save for my mom. She cried about it often for an entire year.

Edit 2: Yes this happened in the US. And yes it was stupid the way police arrested me. My dad had some pretty strong words with them about that. But I guess the cops had nothing better to do. And the arrest was expunged from my record after I was proven innocent.

But as someone in the comments pointed out. It's scary how easily your freedom can be taken away. I've instinctively avoided police ever since that happened. For them arresting the son of a rich guy must have been a big scandal waiting to happen.

And no, no one was injured as a result of DUI. But I've spoken with my dad and he said there were a few DUIs because a few of the minors there got in their cars and tried to drive away.

Considering I heard a few of the people there were the kids of police officers, that only made things worse for me. The cops that arrested me both looked middle aged. So if their kids were involved, that may explain why they treated me like I was guilty.

Those who say this is fake. I wish it was. Because it's so stupid that it really should be. But my ungrateful sister broke our family. And she nearly destroyed my reputation as well. These days everyone in town has forgotten her. She lost most if not all of her friends after that party because they were all arrested.

OP's second update:

I expected to be able to log out of this account and just not come back. But it seems my sister saw my original post on youtube. She's since called home and attempted to raise hellfire. She contacted our mother in a furious rage and saying that I've humiliated her.

And in a complete shock to me, my mom did not care. My sister told her how to find the post, and she read it. And now she was mad at me. But more so because she felt I made her look like a bad mother all over again. But my dad got involved and said it wasn't like I was lying.

Because back then the things she and my sister did were inexcusable. My mom agreed in a very sad way. But still said she wished I'd never posted the story. I suppose I couldn't fault her for that.

I ended up talking to my sister over the phone because our mom gave her my current number. And the first thing she did when I answered was scream in my ear. I stopped the call because of the screaming. And so the call was followed by a flurry of text messages.

My sister demanded I take my original post down. I refused. She threatened to get our parents to make me take it down. But our parents by this time already knew about the post, and among them our dad does not care, and our mom is more mad that I made her look like a bad mother all over again.

So she threatened to get a lawyer and sue me for defamation. I told her to go right ahead. My post was made anonymously, and if she sues, then a lot of people are going to find out my post was about her.

She asked if that was a threat. I said no, it's just something that'll likely happen if people dig more into both of our pasts if she starts a lawsuit. It might even affect her career.

Rather than responding in text, my sister called me again and I told her I'd hang up and block her if she screamed in my ear one more time. She angrily demanded I just take my original post down again or else. I pointed out that this is the first time we've spoken in six years.

And she had no problem throwing me under the bus in the past any time she could. And now she's mad because her own actions are reflecting poorly on her when no one else knows the story was about her but us.

And I really didn't care what she thought of me anymore. Dad has pretty much disowned her, and she destroyed all the golden child love our mom had for her.

My sister actually denied being a golden child. So I started to explain exactly what one was. She interrupted me saying that she's on Reddit all the time. She knows what a golden child is. And I could only laugh at the fact that she knows that and still denied having been one.

I pointed out all the things from my first post. How she lied so much, how she always had our mother on her side, and how she was openly our mom's favorite, and how she expected everything to be handed to her.

She was a golden child! There's just no denying that. Well she took this VERY personally and said that she wished our mother had aborted me, just like she'd said all those years ago when I refused to take the blame for my sister's crime. I just laughed some more and asked if that was all she had in her little black book of bad insults.

She did not find it amusing that I found it so amusing. I fired back about how she is a self important narcissist, and always will be. She milked our parents for so much, and had no appreciation for it. Right down to that well paid LA office job she's working that 'Dad' got her.

She scoffed at me and said she got that job on her own merit. I laughed again. No, she did not. Suddenly a well connected LA firm scouted her several states away after college to come work for them when she had no prior experience as an intern?

It just doesn't happen. The old CEO of that company was a friend of our dad's before he passed away. And dad called in a favor. That's how she got that job.

My sister of course went into more denial about the truth I'd just presented her. But I guess it finally clicked in her mind that I was correct. She's a narcissist, but she's not dumb.

So she just started bragging about how well she's been doing at that job. She made it to assistant manager, and is set to be next in line for full manager some day. I was unimpressed. And she demanded to know why.

So I pointed out that I've moved on to managing one of dad's smaller businesses entirely. Sure it was a technically promotion through nepotism. But I worked hard to earn it. And dad's openly stated that when he some day passes away, I'm to inherit everything.

Not that I'm clamoring for it, like she undoubtably would. I actually want our dad to live a good long time. She was so angry that she hung up on me and then called our parents again. She asked dad if she'd really been disinherited. And they confirmed she was.

Dad's will is set to leave her only a small settlement so she can't contest it. And if she were to try and contest it, she'd automatically get nothing. Even our mom's will has basically written my sister out. My sister ended up crying and saying it wasn't fair.

But both of our parents pointed out that her framing me all those years ago wasn't fair. Ghosting them after they paid so much money to keep her from getting a felony and putting her through four years of college was unfair.

They had nothing left they wanted to give. My sister ended up blocking us all from phones to social media. We can't see anything now. But we don't really care.

My mom has sat me down and gave me a long awaited more sincere apology for what happened so long ago. Especially for that day she tried to make me take the blame for my sister. Years without my sister in her life, and the recent incident has made her realize more than ever that she was a terrible mother to us both.

And she can't undo anything. But she wanted to at least say she was incredibly sorry. And that she loved me.

She's just been too ashamed to really show it. She's now finally looking into therapy, and she's even making an effort to spend more time with my dad, like in the old days. It's ironic really. My sister tore our family apart. And then she somehow put it right back together by being the same kind of nasty person she's always been.

So Sis, if you see this post, and I bet you will. Don't bother trying to contact us again. Because if you do, then any more drama you cause is gonna end up right here. So please leave us alone for the foreseeable future.

OP's final update:

My sister sank to a new low of manipulation with this one. A couple of months ago she suddenly showed up at our parents' house with a boyfriend in tow and a positive pregnancy test and saying she was two months along.

She claimed she wanted to make amends so her child would be able to know their grandparents. I saw this for what it was from the start. My sister went out of her way to get pregnant so dad would put her back in the will, and mom would make her the golden girl again. But things didn't go down that way at all.

It was in February when my sister showed up all of a sudden. She'd taken a leave from work to come see us. She even tried to act all smiles around me. But I could still see the hate in her eyes. She still blamed me. She never stopped blaming me. But she pretended that she'd seen the error of her ways.

Mom seemed to buy her act. But dad didn't at all. Though my parents having a grandchild is something they've been longing for. So they begrudgingly accepted my sister back for the moment.

But not without making sure whether or not this was a con. (Spoiler alert! It was!) My dad suggested my sister take another pregnancy test to confirm. We expected her to protest, but she took the one my dad got and willingly used it. And it was positive. So she was indeed pregnant.

My parents asked for some time alone with my sister. So I went home and didn't see them again till the next day's evening. I got the details on what happened from my parents then.

The evening before they'd had a long talk with my sister about all the things she's done. And told her that they will help support their grandchild, and set up a college fund for them. But if my sister wanted a place back in the family, then she's going to have to work hard for it and prove she's changed.

Because it was obvious with the timing of the pregnancy that she only got pregnant just to try and get back in the family's good graces. She denied this of course. But her past actions spoke for themselves. Our parents wanted her to seek therapy. Both individual and group with them over video calls.

And they also wanted her to apologize to me for what she did years ago since she always refused to. That's when she finally broke and said that I don't deserve an apology. Because I'm the reason she got her life ruined to begin with.

Well my dad didn't let that slide and practically roared at her. And then he told her that she was never grateful for anything they did for her, and that she was only blaming me so she wouldn't have to take fault for her own actions.

My mom chimed in and said that she had to realize her own past actions were beyond wrong. Like when she tried to force me to take the blame for my sister back then so her baby wouldn't get in trouble. And how she'd said those horrible things to me when I refused.

And if she could genuinely admit her wrongs, my sister could too. Well my sister flipped out and left with her boyfriend. The few times I met the guy, I could tell he was only with my sister for the money. Because she treated him like absolute crap. She even elbowed him in the stomach once, right in front of me.

Anyway. My sister came back the next day with a long rehearsed apology for them. Crocodile tears included. And again the only reason our parents let her back in was because of her pregnancy. She was set up back in her old room, and spent the next few days trying to act all smiles.

But her act was pretty bad. She was still expected to give me that long overdue apology. And I met up with her and her boyfriend at a local restaurant our parents picked. We figured if she was to give me anything even remotely genuine as an apology, it couldn't be around our parents.

She started off the apology by basically murmuring. And when her boyfriend wanted her to speak up, that's when she elbowed him in the stomach. And hard too. He asked to be excused, and left us one on one. As soon as he was gone, my sister started what's more of a non-apology.

Basically saying she was sorry for what happened with trying to frame me. But that it still would have never happened if I'd just gone with it that day and gotten the alcohol for her party. And then we could have both had a great time. I countered that she still didn't get it.

She framed me, and when cops were called on her, it had nothing to do with me. So if I had helped that day, then I would have been arrested and charged too. I got up and said she still hasn't changed. She only lives in her little self important world and and walked out.

When our parents learned of this, my sister tried to deny the words she'd spoken to me. But my dad knows the owner of that restaurant. We were seated away from other noisy guests, and were put right below a CCTV camera with audio. It caught everything.

And my parents had the video within hours from the restaurant owner. They played it in front of my sister, and told her this is exactly why she's not getting much in the will. Her child might be, but not her. That's when she threw a tantrum and walked out screaming at them.

And this time, she didn't come back. She got in her car and drove all the way back to LA without another word to any of us. She later called to say her boyfriend had left her. And she didn't know where he was.

As I thought, he was clearly in it for the money. And when their con failed, he cut her loose. So now my sister is around four months pregnant with her baby-daddy pulling a runner.

She's still sending our parents updates on the pregnancy. And my parents are having a very hard time dealing with the fact that their future grandchild is basically being used as an attempted bargaining chip for my sister to worm her way back in.

And sis, if you see this post. I did warn you that I'd do this if you tried anything else. You've left our mother heartbroken all over again, our father beyond disappointed, and me as your mental skaptgoat because you still can't admit it was 100% your fault you were disowned! You haven't changed a bit! And I doubt you ever will!

What do YOU make of OP's story? Any advice for her?

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