AITA

<p>Weddings are 10/10 solid parties (usually). Sometimes you don&#39;t want a child at a cool party, though. Child-free weddings are common but inconvenient for parents who have to find childcare.</p><h2>On a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/13re0t3/aita_for_telling_my_sister_she_needs_to_pay_for/" target="_blank">popular Reddit thread</a> in the Am I The A**hole Subreddit, one woman asks if she&#39;s wrong to demand her sister pay for her childcare if her son isn&#39;t allowed to attend her wedding.</h2><p>She writes:</p><blockquote> <p>My (f25) sister&#39;s wedding (F28) is in two months. I was invited as a regular guest, not a bridesmaid or MOH since we live a state apart. She recently sent out inventions.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>There&#39;s a certain level of involvement and time that goes into being part of a bridal party, which I understand. I want to be there for my sister, and I&#39;d like to see her marry.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>But the problem is I&#39;m a single mom. My son is six, and I need to be home watching him when he&#39;s not at school. So being out for hours isn&#39;t in the cards for me right now. My sister&#39;s wedding is child-free.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Since it&#39;s taking place in her state, I&#39;d need to commute and probably leave my house for two full days. I can&#39;t have family watch my son since they&#39;ll all be at the wedding. And I don&#39;t have friends who will babysit for two days.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I contacted my sister and asked if she&#39;d be willing to let my son come to the wedding with me, and explained he couldn&#39;t be left alone so young and that I didn&#39;t have anyone to watch him. She told me her &#39;no children&#39; policy was strict, and she wouldn&#39;t make exceptions.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I explained my situation again and said I&#39;d need some form of child care or to bring him with me. I then asked her if she would pay me to hire a nanny or babysitter to watch him.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She got offended and said, &#39;Children and weddings are both parts of life,&#39; I need to &#39;just figure it out. It&#39;s my kid, my problem.&#39;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Sure, that&#39;s true, but also her wedding, her making it a problem by not allowing me to bring my kid. I told her she could either pay for my child care or I wouldn&#39;t attend her wedding.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>All she did was call me &#39;ridiculous&#39; and &#39;entitled.&#39; She said she shouldn&#39;t have to pay for my child and that part of being an adult is knowing how to take care of that.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I think that&#39;s ridiculous. Money is tight. Child care is expensive. I can&#39;t magically afford someone to watch my 6-year-old, and most people would just let me bring him to the wedding.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My sister says she&#39;s not paying for child care, and &#39;I guess you&#39;re not going to the wedding then.&#39; My whole family is mad at me for &#39;not being there for my sister.&#39; AITA?</p> </blockquote><p>The internet has deliberated thourghly on the subject matter.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/flatgreysky/" target="_blank">flatgreysky</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA (You&#39;re the A**hole). I understand where you&rsquo;re coming from, but you went wrong about this. &#39;I&rsquo;m sorry, but it&rsquo;s not within my budget to travel so far and arrange to pay for child care when I arrive. I send my best.&#39; Full stop.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Don&rsquo;t ask for handouts from a stressed-out bride. Is that what people do? Good lord. If she&rsquo;s gracious, she or the family will offer a solution. But you don&rsquo;t ask for that. That&rsquo;s where the entitlement came from. In the end, the kid is your responsibility, no one else&rsquo;s.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/idontcare8587/" target="_blank">idontcare8587</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA. It&#39;s no one else&#39;s responsibility to pay for your childcare. Completely unreasonable ask.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Veblen1/" target="_blank">Veblen1</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>YTA. I&#39;ve never heard of a bride/groom being expected to pay for a guest&#39;s childcare. What nonsense.</p> </blockquote><p>OP, lobbying your sister for free child-care isn&#39;t the right person to talk to. You gotta lobby the government for that!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman commands sister to pay for her childcare since she wants a childfree wedding.

Shenuque Tissera

Weddings are 10/10 solid parties (usually). Sometimes you don&#39;t want a child at a cool party, though. Child-free weddings are common but inconvenient for parents who have to find childcare.On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I The A**hole Subreddit, one woman asks if she&#39;s wrong to demand her sister pay for her childcare if her son isn&#39;t allowed to attend her wedding.She writes: My (f25) sister&#39;s wedding (F28) is in two months. I was invited as a regular guest, not a bridesmaid or MOH since we live a state apart. She recently sent out inventions.  There&#39;s a certain level of involvement and time that goes into being part of a bridal party, which I understand. I want to be there for my sister, and I&#39;d like to see her marry.  But the problem is I&#39;m a single mom. My son is six, and I need to be home watching him when he&#39;s not at school. So being out for hours isn&#39;t in the cards for me right now. My sister&#39;s wedding is child-free.  Since it&#39;s taking place in her state, I&#39;d need to commute and probably leave my house for two full days. I can&#39;t have family watch my son since they&#39;ll all be at the wedding. And I don&#39;t have friends who will babysit for two days.  I contacted my sister and asked if she&#39;d be willing to let my son come to the wedding with me, and explained he couldn&#39;t be left alone so young and that I didn&#39;t have anyone to watch him. She told me her &#39;no children&#39; policy was strict, and she wouldn&#39;t make exceptions.  I explained my situation again and said I&#39;d need some form of child care or to bring him with me. I then asked her if she would pay me to hire a nanny or babysitter to watch him.  She got offended and said, &#39;Children and weddings are both parts of life,&#39; I need to &#39;just figure it out. It&#39;s my kid, my problem.&#39;  Sure, that&#39;s true, but also her wedding, her making it a problem by not allowing me to bring my kid. I told her she could either pay for my child care or I wouldn&#39;t attend her wedding.  All she did was call me &#39;ridiculous&#39; and &#39;entitled.&#39; She said she shouldn&#39;t have to pay for my child and that part of being an adult is knowing how to take care of that.  I think that&#39;s ridiculous. Money is tight. Child care is expensive. I can&#39;t magically afford someone to watch my 6-year-old, and most people would just let me bring him to the wedding.  My sister says she&#39;s not paying for child care, and &#39;I guess you&#39;re not going to the wedding then.&#39; My whole family is mad at me for &#39;not being there for my sister.&#39; AITA? The internet has deliberated thourghly on the subject matter.flatgreysky says: YTA (You&#39;re the A**hole). I understand where you&rsquo;re coming from, but you went wrong about this. &#39;I&rsquo;m sorry, but it&rsquo;s not within my budget to travel so far and arrange to pay for child care when I arrive. I send my best.&#39; Full stop.  Don&rsquo;t ask for handouts from a stressed-out bride. Is that what people do? Good lord. If she&rsquo;s gracious, she or the family will offer a solution. But you don&rsquo;t ask for that. That&rsquo;s where the entitlement came from. In the end, the kid is your responsibility, no one else&rsquo;s. idontcare8587 says: YTA. It&#39;s no one else&#39;s responsibility to pay for your childcare. Completely unreasonable ask. Veblen1 says: YTA. I&#39;ve never heard of a bride/groom being expected to pay for a guest&#39;s childcare. What nonsense. OP, lobbying your sister for free child-care isn&#39;t the right person to talk to. You gotta lobby the government for that!

Weddings are 10/10 solid parties (usually). Sometimes you don&#39;t want a child at a cool party, though. Child-free weddings are common but inconvenient for parents who have to find childcare.  On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I The...