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Woman cuts off sister for being 'unsupportive' of her fast engagement to older man.

Woman cuts off sister for being 'unsupportive' of her fast engagement to older man.

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On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, a woman refuses to let her 'unsupportive' sister attend her wedding.

She writes:

I (24 F) got engaged to Derrick (30 M) one month ago. Before that, we had known each other for six months. I know that’s not long, but you know when you know. We are madly in love and ready to commit to each other fully.

My sister (26 F) has a problem with that, though. She was supportive of my relationship with Derrick before we got engaged. When I sent her a text telling her we were engaged, she responded by saying, “congratulations.” But then, when I saw her the week after, she got all serious and said I should strongly consider the marriage.

She told me I was young and could meet people I loved more. That was offensive to me because I love Derrick more than anything, and she’s saying my love isn’t that important. She also told me that Derrick and I should date longer before we get married. But we are already fully committed to each other, so we might as well get married and be recognized as soul mates in the eyes of the law.

Anyway, the conversation was so hurtful to me. I eventually asked her directly, 'do you support me marrying Derrick?' She said no. So I stood up, told her she shouldn’t be at the wedding if she didn’t want us to get married, and left. I haven’t talked to her since, although she has texted me multiple times asking to talk.

Derrick and I were working on the wedding guest list yesterday, and we both agreed my sister should not come if she doesn’t support us. So we are planning not to invite her. I mentioned this to my friend yesterday, and she pointed out that it may be rude of me not to invite her. So, AITA for not inviting my unsupportive sister to my wedding?

The internet will decide if your sister should be invited.

DaLoCo6913 says:

YTA (You're the A**hole). You have not known him long enough to actually love him, you are infatuated. On top of that you are ready to ruin the relationship with your sister for a guy you actually do not know?

lihzee says:

I don't know if YTA per se, but I think you're being very naive, and I agree with your sister.

CivilAsAnOrang says:

YTA. You’re upset because your sister expressed honest concern. Your response was childish. And kicking her out of your wedding is equally so.

It_s_just_me says:

YTA, six years older man, six months total length of the relationship. That is throwing red flags all over the place. Your sister is trying to protect you. Your relationship may be OK, but I'd doubt it.

Sorry, OP, without more information, you may want to review this relationship before diving in.

Sources: Reddit
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