So, when a conflicted woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about ditching a girls trip at the last minute, people were ready for the piping hot tea.
I (23F) was supposed to go on a girls weekend trip to Spain with my long time friend of almost 10 years (24F) and her other female friend (28F) who I was excited to meet. We all live in Germany, but her and her friend live about 3.5 hours away from me and I live closer to Frankfurt.
They decided that they wanted to drive through the night (about 10 hour) and arrive in the morning and said that if I could meet them in their town I could drive with them. I instead elected to just fly over and meet them there since I live so close to an airport.
The day before the trip she texts me a link to book some tickets to a museum that her and her friend booked. She told me to book for 2pm, which is when they booked for. When I clicked the link, the only time slot available was 8:35am. I pretty much was like whatever I will do something else while they are doing that.
The night before the trip I text her asking her how much I owed her for accommodations and whatever else that we are splitting. This is the second time I’ve asked her since her friend was the one doing the bookings and I just assumed I would send them my share when they told me how much it cost.
She didn’t answer but I just assumed she was sleeping to prepare for the long drive. The morning of my flight (3 hours before my flight leaves) she tells me that I had to book my own hotel room because they’re having a guy friend come with them that they invited last minute.
She sent me a link so I could book at the same hotel as them for that night, but all the rooms were fully booked. I searched around the area too and all rooms were booked or very expensive.
I really wanted to go so I just kind of let it go and prepared myself to spend some extra money for a hotel room for myself in a different hotel, but on the way to the airport I had a gut feeling that I wasn’t going to enjoy myself.
So I turned around and went home and sent her a text saying I was going to sit this one out because I was expecting a girls trip. She’s being short with me now and thinks I’m being unreasonable. AITA?
So they book tickets for the museum... but don't bother to book a third for you. And don't bother mentioning it to you until the day before. They book a three person room... but don't bother to let you know what it's going to cost.
And then don't bother to actually make it available to you either, because they're bringing a bloke along too. I totally agree - that's not a weekend you want to be a part of, they've made it abundantly clear they don't care about you. Good call in sitting it out. NTA.
NTA! Why aren’t you more angry?! This would he friendship ending for me unless my friend was seriously trying to make amends.
NTA. They absolutely booked 3 tickets to the museum...they gave it to the guy, just as they gave your bed. Your friend is a sh*tty friend.
NTA. You were just going to be a third wheel to your friend and her friend, who did not include you in museum bookings and then ditched you last minute to share a hotel room with a guy. So you'd be in Spain trying to fit yourself in with whatever plans they make together? Nope. You did the right thing.
Everyone agreed unanimously here that this woman wasn't at all wrong to trust her instincts and turn herself right around. This trip would've been awkward and they can have fun excluding someone else. Good luck, everyone!