Forgetting your keys somewhere is the absolute worse. On a popular Reddit thread on the Am I The A**hole subreddit, a woman forgets her keys in the middle of the night, and it becomes an ordeal.
AITA for waking my husband up to drive me to pick up my car when I left my keys in my locker at work?
A couple of weeks ago, I accidentally left my car keys in my uniform pants at work and left my pants in my locker (I don’t wear my uniform home for multiple reasons. I bring it home to wash - I have 2)
I realized when I got to the subway station, where I’d parked, that I’d left my keys back at work - a half-hour train ride and no guarantee I’d be able to get back in the building (it was after midnight).
I called my husband to ask him to bring me the spare key. Twenty-two times. I tried my son, but he was asleep (he’s 19 and has a car) and didn’t wake up when I called a second time, and I tried a friend. I didn’t want to call too many people because it was after midnight.
I kept calling my husband, hoping eventually he’d hear his phone. I wound up taking an Uber home. I needed to get my car because they ticket after 2 am usually. So, when I got home, I was pretty upset that I’d called twenty-two times, and he hadn’t answered. I continued trying to call him the whole way home in the Uber.
When I got home, I went inside, went to the bedroom, and woke him up. I was pissed that had this been a serious emergency, I wouldn’t have been able to get through to him.
He kept saying he had my number in his “favorites” so that if I called twice, it would go through the second time. But he had the phone on SILENT! And then put it on top of something soft. So he didn’t hear it vibrating.
He complained that I was mad at him for something I did. I replied that no, I was angry at ME for forgetting my keys. That was 100% on me.
I was mad at HIM for not having his phone on and that he’s unreliable in an emergency, which, thankfully, wasn’t a huge one.
So, AITA for waking him up and being pissed that I couldn’t reach him in what wasn’t a big emergency, but what if it had been?
YTA (You're the A**hole). He's right: you're mad at him for something you did. His having his phone in silent was an accident, just like you forgetting your keys. No one except you did anything to you here.
I don’t get the YTAs. NTA (Not the A**hole) I get what you are saying.
My dad went through a dire emergency a few years ago, and I live out of state. My mom kept calling my sister, who lives 20 minutes from them, but her phone was dead (even though she was at home). So all she could get was the daughter a plane ride away, who could do very little to help until I flew out (which I did within a few hours, of course).
There are settings on phones for this exact purpose to allow families to get in touch with you in an emergency. And while yours was not a true emergency this time, I understand why you are worried about what you would do if you had a real trouble in the future.
Also, let’s be honest; waiting for an Uber alone late at night as a woman is a little uncomfortable. I would have wanted my partner to at least know what was going on/stay on the phone with me while waiting for the Uber. He needs to figure out a better system, especially since it sounds like you work late nights often.
YTA. Your first move here should have been taking an uber home. Calling someone twenty-two times in a row should be reserved for emergencies only. And calling friends after midnight over a minor inconvenience is totally inappropriate.
You could have 100% solved this non-emergency situation yourself. But you decided to make it everyone else's problem.