AITA

<h2>Dealing with a family member&#39;s passing can be difficult. What&#39;s even more difficult is dealing with their affairs afterward. If they had a will it becomes easier, however, if your extended family doesn&#39;t respect the will you&#39;re in for a hot mess. On a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xuu5zc/aita_for_staying_true_to_my_threats_after_my_dad/">popular Reddit thread</a> in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit we see one family go through the hottest of messes.</h2><blockquote> <p>AITA for staying true to my threats after my dad died?</p> </blockquote><h2>Our condolences go out to you, OP.</h2><blockquote> <p>My dad died unexpectedly last week and my sister Jess and I lost our mom last year to a mix of cancer and the virus.</p> </blockquote><h2>This family is not okay.</h2><blockquote> <p>From how our family acted in the past over scavenging over dead people&rsquo;s things both Jess and I decided to send out a family memo on no one is to enter or take anything from our parents&#39; house until we get there. Both Jess and I work on the west coast so it takes some time to get there with all of our kids and family.</p> </blockquote><h2>OP said f*ck around and find out.</h2><blockquote> <p>I saw several notifications from my parents&#39; Ring Doorbell and I&rsquo;m a lawyer. I reminded my family we will prosecute. Jess and I are on the same page. Jess gets to my parents&#39; house first and notices stuff is missing and my parents had security cameras and an Amazon Echo Show.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>OP&#39;s cousin found out.</h2><blockquote> <p>It showed my cousin taking stuff from the house. So Jess did what we agreed on and called the police and two of our cousins were arrested. Because it was over a thousand dollars both are looking at felonies. My cousin said my dad promised him this stuff and I have my dad&rsquo;s will making me executor of the estate. I told him he should have waited to file a claim with the estate and everyone was warned about what would happen.</p> </blockquote><p> </p><h2>And this might be the nail in the coffin (pardon the pun).</h2><blockquote> <p>Jess and I don&rsquo;t have the best relationship with our extended family and We are not dropping charges. Because of this drama, dad was quietly cremated with no service and we plan to hold one when scattered our parents&#39; ashes at Jess&rsquo;s house in a tree planted for them. &#39;</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Uh-oh, did grandma choose the right side?</h2><blockquote> <p>My last living grandma is upset about it but she sided with my cousins and aunt saying we are too tough on having them arrested.</p> </blockquote><h2><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xuu5zc/comment/iqxge44/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">Prodigious_Wind</a> says:</h2><blockquote> <p>There is nothing quite so unedifying as the rush by distant family members to grab what they can when someone dies.</p> <p>Definitely NTA (Not the A**Hole).</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xuu5zc/comment/iqxfurq/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">mdthomas</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>So your dad had a will naming you the executor and your relatives decided to steal from your dad&#39;s estate.</p> <p>NTA</p> </blockquote><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/xuu5zc/comment/iqxihx5/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3">The__Riker__Manuever </a>says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA</p> <p>My advice?</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Follow through with the charges and use this opportunity to remove these people from your life permanently.</p> <p>Don&#39;t give a single thing or a single penny to anyone in the extended family that you are not on good terms with.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman calls police on cousin who stole from deceased dad's home.

Dealing with a family member&#39;s passing can be difficult. What&#39;s even more difficult is dealing with their affairs afterward. If they had a will it becomes easier, however, if your extended family doesn&#39;t respect the will you&#39;re in for a hot mess. On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit we see one family go through the hottest of messes. AITA for staying true to my threats after my dad died? Our condolences go out to you, OP. My dad died unexpectedly last week and my sister Jess and I lost our mom last year to a mix of cancer and the virus. This family is not okay. From how our family acted in the past over scavenging over dead people&rsquo;s things both Jess and I decided to send out a family memo on no one is to enter or take anything from our parents&#39; house until we get there. Both Jess and I work on the west coast so it takes some time to get there with all of our kids and family. OP said f*ck around and find out. I saw several notifications from my parents&#39; Ring Doorbell and I&rsquo;m a lawyer. I reminded my family we will prosecute. Jess and I are on the same page. Jess gets to my parents&#39; house first and notices stuff is missing and my parents had security cameras and an Amazon Echo Show. OP&#39;s cousin found out. It showed my cousin taking stuff from the house. So Jess did what we agreed on and called the police and two of our cousins were arrested. Because it was over a thousand dollars both are looking at felonies. My cousin said my dad promised him this stuff and I have my dad&rsquo;s will making me executor of the estate. I told him he should have waited to file a claim with the estate and everyone was warned about what would happen.  And this might be the nail in the coffin (pardon the pun). Jess and I don&rsquo;t have the best relationship with our extended family and We are not dropping charges. Because of this drama, dad was quietly cremated with no service and we plan to hold one when scattered our parents&#39; ashes at Jess&rsquo;s house in a tree planted for them. &#39; Uh-oh, did grandma choose the right side? My last living grandma is upset about it but she sided with my cousins and aunt saying we are too tough on having them arrested. Prodigious_Wind says: There is nothing quite so unedifying as the rush by distant family members to grab what they can when someone dies. Definitely NTA (Not the A**Hole). mdthomas says: So your dad had a will naming you the executor and your relatives decided to steal from your dad&#39;s estate. NTA The__Riker__Manuever says: NTA My advice?  Follow through with the charges and use this opportunity to remove these people from your life permanently. Don&#39;t give a single thing or a single penny to anyone in the extended family that you are not on good terms with. 

Dealing with a family member&#39;s passing can be difficult. What&#39;s even more difficult is dealing with their affairs afterward. If they had a will it becomes easier, however, if your extended family doesn&#39;t respect the will...