AITA

<p>Dealing with your in-laws can be an exhausting experience. Constantly being asked to visit, very few boundaries, and the incessant pressure for grandchildren can all be annoying. It&#39;s important to communicate honestly and be direct when you can.</p><h2>On a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11f97qu/aita_for_embarrassing_my_sil_after_she_expected/" target="_blank">popular Reddit thread</a> in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one person refuses to pay for their nephew to have a phone, and their MIL is not having that.</h2><p>They write:</p><blockquote> <p>I feel super gaslit by my husband&rsquo;s family right now. We are both late 20s, with no kids. When we married, we added my MIL to our cell plan a few years ago because she lives alone and doesn&rsquo;t have a cell phone. My husband thinks it will be safer to have one for emergencies.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>At the time, we added her for her phone and planned it was around $20 extra per month. Plan costs have increased, and she got a nicer phone, so now it&rsquo;s close to $50 per month. Pretty steep, with the way the economy is.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Anyway, my husband&rsquo;s brother has a young kid; he&rsquo;s eight. He&rsquo;s a nice kid, but not my responsibility. When I called my MIL&#39;s cellphone a few days ago, my nephew answered. I asked him if he was at grandma&#39;s house and if I could talk to her. He said he was at his house, and grandma had given him her cell phone to keep because his parents wouldn&rsquo;t get him one.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My MIL didn&rsquo;t tell my husband or me about this, and I got pretty angry. I&rsquo;m already not thrilled about paying for HER to have a cellphone, and I&rsquo;m not happy about paying for my eight-year-old nephew! I went to her house and told her that if she wasn&#39;t going to use the phone, I would take it off our plan and that I wanted the iPhone back from my nephew because my husband&#39;s screen was cracked, and he could have hers.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Needless to say, she&rsquo;s mad now because &#39;it&rsquo;s her phone to do with as she pleases, and she wants her nephew to have it.&#39; I told her it was not her phone and that we won&rsquo;t pay for it if he was using it. I told hubby I was canceling it, and then I did. I told him if she wants a phone again or wants her nephew to have one, she can sign up for her own plan.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>He&rsquo;s mad that I did that. MIL is mad. My Nephew and his parents are mad (but I did get the phone back since it&rsquo;s no longer working on our plan). So AITA? I don&#39;t think I am. We all have to make cuts where we can with this economy.</p> </blockquote><p>The internet are experts on the economy.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ForkShirtUp/">ForkShirtUp</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>Wait, the parents who wouldn&rsquo;t let their eight year old have a phone are mad? Shouldn&rsquo;t they be angry that your MIL went over their heads or is nephew not getting a phone is for financial reasons?</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/KronkLaSworda/">KronkLaSworda</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA (Not the A**hole). The whole point was for MIL to have it because she lives alone and might have an emergency. If she chooses not to keep it, then you don&#39;t have to pay for anything.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/WVPrepper/">WVPrepper</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA at all. Cancel it. You bought it for a specific purpose to keep your MIL safe. It is not serving that purpose and canceling it is completely reasonable.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>There&#39;s no world where an eight year old needs a phone more than a woman. You do what you gotta do in this economy, OP.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman is angry at in-laws for canceling her phone plan for giving it to an 8-year-old.

Dealing with your in-laws can be an exhausting experience. Constantly being asked to visit, very few boundaries, and the incessant pressure for grandchildren can all be annoying. It&#39;s important to communicate honestly and be direct when you can.On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one person refuses to pay for their nephew to have a phone, and their MIL is not having that.They write: I feel super gaslit by my husband&rsquo;s family right now. We are both late 20s, with no kids. When we married, we added my MIL to our cell plan a few years ago because she lives alone and doesn&rsquo;t have a cell phone. My husband thinks it will be safer to have one for emergencies.  At the time, we added her for her phone and planned it was around $20 extra per month. Plan costs have increased, and she got a nicer phone, so now it&rsquo;s close to $50 per month. Pretty steep, with the way the economy is.  Anyway, my husband&rsquo;s brother has a young kid; he&rsquo;s eight. He&rsquo;s a nice kid, but not my responsibility. When I called my MIL&#39;s cellphone a few days ago, my nephew answered. I asked him if he was at grandma&#39;s house and if I could talk to her. He said he was at his house, and grandma had given him her cell phone to keep because his parents wouldn&rsquo;t get him one.  My MIL didn&rsquo;t tell my husband or me about this, and I got pretty angry. I&rsquo;m already not thrilled about paying for HER to have a cellphone, and I&rsquo;m not happy about paying for my eight-year-old nephew! I went to her house and told her that if she wasn&#39;t going to use the phone, I would take it off our plan and that I wanted the iPhone back from my nephew because my husband&#39;s screen was cracked, and he could have hers.  Needless to say, she&rsquo;s mad now because &#39;it&rsquo;s her phone to do with as she pleases, and she wants her nephew to have it.&#39; I told her it was not her phone and that we won&rsquo;t pay for it if he was using it. I told hubby I was canceling it, and then I did. I told him if she wants a phone again or wants her nephew to have one, she can sign up for her own plan.  He&rsquo;s mad that I did that. MIL is mad. My Nephew and his parents are mad (but I did get the phone back since it&rsquo;s no longer working on our plan). So AITA? I don&#39;t think I am. We all have to make cuts where we can with this economy. The internet are experts on the economy.ForkShirtUp says: Wait, the parents who wouldn&rsquo;t let their eight year old have a phone are mad? Shouldn&rsquo;t they be angry that your MIL went over their heads or is nephew not getting a phone is for financial reasons? KronkLaSworda says: NTA (Not the A**hole). The whole point was for MIL to have it because she lives alone and might have an emergency. If she chooses not to keep it, then you don&#39;t have to pay for anything. WVPrepper says: NTA at all. Cancel it. You bought it for a specific purpose to keep your MIL safe. It is not serving that purpose and canceling it is completely reasonable. There&#39;s no world where an eight year old needs a phone more than a woman. You do what you gotta do in this economy, OP.

Dealing with your in-laws can be an exhausting experience. Constantly being asked to visit, very few boundaries, and the incessant pressure for grandchildren can all be annoying. It&#39;s important to communicate honestly and be direct...