Mom lets daughter throw 'vindictive' party after aunt doesn't invite her to wedding.

Not being invited to a party is a form of rejection that is quite frankly telling. It says I don't enjoy your company, you're not important to me, and I don't care if you know that. If you're not going to invite someone to a big party you're throwing, expect them to be upset about it.

On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one woman lets her daughter be petty with her birthday invitations.

She writes:

My (32f) daughter (16f) grew up extremely close to my sister (23f) because of how small the age gap between them is, and my sister got married in September. However, she decided to have a child-free wedding, and my daughter was not invited.

My daughter was extremely upset about this as my sister always talked about how important my daughter being at her wedding was going to be, and her child-free wedding came out of the left field.

Recently, my daughter's 16th birthday passed, and she decided to have a small party with her father, me, and a couple of other close family and friends. My sister wasn't invited, and when she asked me when she should show up, I told her that my daughter was still upset about not being invited to one of her most important events.

My sister got upset, asking why I was letting my daughter punish her because she had her wedding how she wanted it. I asked what she expected, knowing how close she and my daughter are and told her she should have known that my daughter would be upset about it.

I know it's my daughter's party, and it's supposed to be about her, but my sister's behavior makes me doubtful about my decision. My daughter had a blast at her party, and my sister is still passive-aggressive toward my husband and me. So, AITA?

The Internet has thoughts.

Irrasible says:

NTA (Not the A**hole) - Your sister got to decide how she wanted her wedding; your daughter got to decide how she wanted her party. Tit-for-tat. I hope your sister learns a lesson.

jrm1102 says:

NTA - your daughter was simply also having her party how she wanted. Child-free weddings are fine to have, but this hurt your daughter, and she is allowed to be, and her feelings are valid. Your sister needs to recognize that her choice hurt your daughter.

YesPleaseDont says:

NTA. Your daughter is sixteen, not four. Actions have consequences. She has every right to be hurt by not being invited to your sister’s wedding. Your sister had the wedding she wanted and your daughter had the birthday party she wanted.

All is fair in love and war, OP! I classify family as war.