So, when a conflcited young woman decided to consult the moral compass of the internet otherwise known as Reddit's 'Am I the As*hole' about whether or not she'd be wrong to keep a big prize, people were ready to help deem a verdict.
My (26f) boyfriend (27m) is really into cars. He recently discovered a charity project where they fixed up an old Jaguar. It's worth around $300,000. You could buy a ticket for $50 to enter and the money went towards a good cause.
My bf is broke at the moment so I offered to go halves with the ticket. He didn't want to because then the car wouldn't be his completely.
I wasn't too worried about it and didn't mention it again. I did however buy a ticket for myself.
Well, I won and as of August 1st will be the owner of the car. When my boyfriend found out he was really excited until I told him that I was going to sell it and put half of it in my savings and invest half of it.
He said I can't sell OUR car without consulting him. I told him it's MY car and I can do whatever I want.
He now claims it was all a big misunderstanding and apparently he wanted to go halves but hasn't got around to giving me the money yet.
I call BS on it, but he keeps saying that we're a couple and we should make decisions together. AITA for going ahead with the plan to sell the car and keep the money to myself?
[deleted] said:
NTA. Ew dump his a*s. No misunderstanding. He didn’t want to front the $25 to split the ticket and now he is trying to manipulate you.
Gary-F*ckin-Oak said:
NTA. Exactly, he only said he didn’t want to because he didn’t think he could win and would be wasting that $25, and wanted the car to himself, but as soon as OP wins it’s suddenly “our car?'
Nah, son, there’s no ring on that finger, so it’s her car to do with what she pleases. Drop this loser OP, it’s only going to get worse and I guarantee he will resent you forever because he missed his chance at the car that you won using only your money.
Kramanos said:
NTA! I intended to invest in Apple in 1976, but I haven't gotten around to it. Give me money.
fromthevallies said:
NTA. He didn’t pay for the ticket, so he has no say in it. You’re not married. You offered to split it, he said no. That’s the end of it.
Sounds like he’s seeing dollar signs and feels angry that you won’t just share. It’s you money and yours to do with as you please.
[deleted] said:
NTA. I guarantee you if he had paid for the ticket on his own it would be “his car” and not “our car”. But you pay for the ticket with your own money and suddenly it’s “our car.' He even admitted when you offered to split it he didn’t want to share ownership with you.
Your car. You get to decide what happens. Besides, you’re the one who has to pay taxes on it if you’re in the US. If you can’t afford the tax bill for the car it’s best to sell it.
I broke up with him