AITA

<p>Sometimes you need to help your family through a trying time. Loss of a job, illness or even a death in the family can warrant familial assistance. However, sometimes there are some boundaries that your family will try and force you to cross.</p><h2>On a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11qag9t/aita_for_not_helping_my_sister_with_her_newborn/" target="_blank">popular Reddit thread </a>in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, a woman has a sister that tries to get her to move countries to help her.</h2><p>She writes:</p><blockquote> <p>I am 26F, and I have a younger sister Sadie (19f). We don&#39;t talk often. She lives in Canada with her newborn twins, Iris and Laila. I moved to England a few years ago to study at my dream university. I live there with my now husband, Lewis (30M).</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Sadie got pregnant at 18 with Tyler, her boyfriend, at that time. Tyler and his sister ended up in a car accident a few months after she announced she was pregnant. He and his sister didn&#39;t end up surviving the accident. Sadie was distraught during the rest of her pregnancy. My parents were luckily there to help her out.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Tyler&#39;s sister is his half-sister. They share a dad. His sister is over a decade older than him and has raised Tyler since he was 11. His mom died while giving birth to him, and their dad died of a terminal illness. His sister&#39;s mom just wasn&#39;t in her life.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>After her babies were born, my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer because of all his smoking. My mom had to help my dad and didn&#39;t have as much time to help Sadie with her twins. Sadie reached out to me a few months ago and asked if we could send her some money every month so she could hire a babysitter for her kids and help my dad. Lewis and I agreed since we were financially stable and could afford it.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>She was very thankful to us, but a few weeks ago, she reached out again and asked if we could move back to Canada to help with the twins. This time, Lewis and I refused. I feel like it&#39;s too much, we&#39;ve built a life here in England, and my husband has a demanding job here, and it would take him a while to find another one in Canada. My mom has sent me a few texts begging me to return because they could use the help. Now, I feel bad, AITA?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11qag9t/comment/jc21x12/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3" target="_blank">mdthomas</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>You&#39;re not required to uproot your life to be additional parents to your sister&#39;s children. She was OK to ask; you&#39;re fine to say no. NAH (No A**holes Here).</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11qag9t/comment/jc235ot/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3" target="_blank">Forward_Squirrel8879</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NAH - I don&#39;t think your sister is an AH. She is scared and drowning, and she asks for help. You said no, and she seems to have dropped it. I am not sure a few texts begging for help make your mom an AH, but she is leaning that way.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Especially if she doesn&#39;t drop it. People are not AHs for asking for help. They are only AHs if they don&#39;t respect your right to decline. And I do not think you are the AH for declining in this case.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/11qag9t/comment/jc22073/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=web2x&amp;context=3" target="_blank">Schattenkiller5</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>You cannot in any way be expected to give up your life in England to help your sister with her kids, and it&#39;s pure insanity to expect it. NTA (Not the A**hole).</p> </blockquote><p>You don&#39;t have to move to Canada, OP, and kudos to your sister for asking for help!</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman refuses to move to Canada to help her sister with her kids, mom calls her an AH.

Sometimes you need to help your family through a trying time. Loss of a job, illness or even a death in the family can warrant familial assistance. However, sometimes there are some boundaries that your family will try and force you to cross.On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, a woman has a sister that tries to get her to move countries to help her.She writes: I am 26F, and I have a younger sister Sadie (19f). We don&#39;t talk often. She lives in Canada with her newborn twins, Iris and Laila. I moved to England a few years ago to study at my dream university. I live there with my now husband, Lewis (30M).  Sadie got pregnant at 18 with Tyler, her boyfriend, at that time. Tyler and his sister ended up in a car accident a few months after she announced she was pregnant. He and his sister didn&#39;t end up surviving the accident. Sadie was distraught during the rest of her pregnancy. My parents were luckily there to help her out.  Tyler&#39;s sister is his half-sister. They share a dad. His sister is over a decade older than him and has raised Tyler since he was 11. His mom died while giving birth to him, and their dad died of a terminal illness. His sister&#39;s mom just wasn&#39;t in her life.  After her babies were born, my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer because of all his smoking. My mom had to help my dad and didn&#39;t have as much time to help Sadie with her twins. Sadie reached out to me a few months ago and asked if we could send her some money every month so she could hire a babysitter for her kids and help my dad. Lewis and I agreed since we were financially stable and could afford it.  She was very thankful to us, but a few weeks ago, she reached out again and asked if we could move back to Canada to help with the twins. This time, Lewis and I refused. I feel like it&#39;s too much, we&#39;ve built a life here in England, and my husband has a demanding job here, and it would take him a while to find another one in Canada. My mom has sent me a few texts begging me to return because they could use the help. Now, I feel bad, AITA? mdthomas says: You&#39;re not required to uproot your life to be additional parents to your sister&#39;s children. She was OK to ask; you&#39;re fine to say no. NAH (No A**holes Here). Forward_Squirrel8879 says: NAH - I don&#39;t think your sister is an AH. She is scared and drowning, and she asks for help. You said no, and she seems to have dropped it. I am not sure a few texts begging for help make your mom an AH, but she is leaning that way.  Especially if she doesn&#39;t drop it. People are not AHs for asking for help. They are only AHs if they don&#39;t respect your right to decline. And I do not think you are the AH for declining in this case. Schattenkiller5 says: You cannot in any way be expected to give up your life in England to help your sister with her kids, and it&#39;s pure insanity to expect it. NTA (Not the A**hole). You don&#39;t have to move to Canada, OP, and kudos to your sister for asking for help!

Sometimes you need to help your family through a trying time. Loss of a job, illness or even a death in the family can warrant familial assistance. However, sometimes there are some boundaries that your family will try and force you to...