AITA

<p>Having a baby is very expensive. Checkups, hospital stays, and post-natal care all add up. Unless you live in a country with a public healthcare system, it becomes very affordable and won&#39;t cost you your kidney.</p><h2>On a <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/118b7h9/aita_for_refusing_to_help_my_sister_with_her/" target="_blank">popular Reddit thread</a> in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one woman&#39;s relationship with her sister is strained after they give birth in different countries.</h2><p>She writes:</p><blockquote> <p>I(28F) just had my first baby two months ago. My sister (33F) had her third baby less than a week ago. Now to the relevant background: when I was 18, I came to France on an exchange program, and I just fell in love with the country. Then I decided to go to college, met my husband, and moved here permanently.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>My sister hated the fact that I had left the US. She took any opportunity to trash talk France, &#39;socialism and communism,&#39; trash talk my husband and his family, etc. It got to the extent that I went low communication with her.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>When I had my kid, my parents came to stay with me for a month. My mom was very impressed that we paid nothing to have this baby. I didn&#39;t have to pay for my checkups, mandatory lab work, birth, hospital stay, and post-natal care, including pelvic floor rehab. I didn&#39;t even have to pay for a preventative dentist appointment. The same thing in the US would cost tens of thousands of dollars.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Anyways, they left directly for my sister&#39;s, she needed help (she had some health scare), and they planned to stay with her until she gave birth and then help with the kids for a while. I called to congratulate her when she gave birth and sent a gift. She was pissy even then.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>Then yesterday, she called me and told me that her hospital bills were over $20k because of some complications and that it wasn&#39;t fair that I didn&#39;t pay anything at all (apparently, my mom kept saying that it was free for me). She said since I didn&#39;t have to spend a cent, I could afford to help her, so she too could afford to stay with her kid instead of returning to work ASAP.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>Here&#39;s where I might be the AH; even though I could afford to send her a couple of thousands, I refused to do so purely because of how much she looked down on my decision to move to France and marry a French man. So all I told her was, &#39;Sorry I can&#39;t help you. But you are free to come to give birth to your next child here. Even as a foreigner, it won&#39;t cost you more than 3k.&#39; She called me a condescending AH and said she would go no contact with me. So AITA?</p> </blockquote><p>The internet will answer cross-continent feuds.</p><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Prudent_Border5060/">Prudent_Border5060</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. Your sister had two other children. She knows the cost in the US. Your finances aren&#39;t tied to her in any way. She needs to keep her entitlement in her lane.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/housemusick/">housemusick</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. You&rsquo;re not responsible for others&rsquo; medical bills. She&rsquo;s acting out of jealousy and selfishness. &#39;yOu cAn AfFoRd iT&#39; is the dumbest reason to give a handout to someone who doesn&rsquo;t deserve it.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/AgentAlpo/">AgentAlpo</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA. She trashes socialism but wants to reap the benefits of socialized medicine.</p> </blockquote><p><a data-testid="comment_author_link" href="https://www.reddit.com/user/elineelmo/">elineelmo</a> says:</p><blockquote> <p>NTA, she bullied you into going LC, and then she comes begging for money? That is toxic. You did the right thing; otherwise, she would beg for more money in the future. Congrats on the baby! Focus on your child; she also should.</p> </blockquote><p>You should ask her to apologize to all the socialists out there before you give her money, OP.</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman refuses to pay her sister's hospital bill because her sister hates France.

Having a baby is very expensive. Checkups, hospital stays, and post-natal care all add up. Unless you live in a country with a public healthcare system, it becomes very affordable and won&#39;t cost you your kidney.On a popular Reddit thread in the Am I the A**hole Subreddit, one woman&#39;s relationship with her sister is strained after they give birth in different countries.She writes: I(28F) just had my first baby two months ago. My sister (33F) had her third baby less than a week ago. Now to the relevant background: when I was 18, I came to France on an exchange program, and I just fell in love with the country. Then I decided to go to college, met my husband, and moved here permanently.  My sister hated the fact that I had left the US. She took any opportunity to trash talk France, &#39;socialism and communism,&#39; trash talk my husband and his family, etc. It got to the extent that I went low communication with her.  When I had my kid, my parents came to stay with me for a month. My mom was very impressed that we paid nothing to have this baby. I didn&#39;t have to pay for my checkups, mandatory lab work, birth, hospital stay, and post-natal care, including pelvic floor rehab. I didn&#39;t even have to pay for a preventative dentist appointment. The same thing in the US would cost tens of thousands of dollars.  Anyways, they left directly for my sister&#39;s, she needed help (she had some health scare), and they planned to stay with her until she gave birth and then help with the kids for a while. I called to congratulate her when she gave birth and sent a gift. She was pissy even then.  Then yesterday, she called me and told me that her hospital bills were over $20k because of some complications and that it wasn&#39;t fair that I didn&#39;t pay anything at all (apparently, my mom kept saying that it was free for me). She said since I didn&#39;t have to spend a cent, I could afford to help her, so she too could afford to stay with her kid instead of returning to work ASAP.  Here&#39;s where I might be the AH; even though I could afford to send her a couple of thousands, I refused to do so purely because of how much she looked down on my decision to move to France and marry a French man. So all I told her was, &#39;Sorry I can&#39;t help you. But you are free to come to give birth to your next child here. Even as a foreigner, it won&#39;t cost you more than 3k.&#39; She called me a condescending AH and said she would go no contact with me. So AITA? The internet will answer cross-continent feuds.Prudent_Border5060 says: NTA. Your sister had two other children. She knows the cost in the US. Your finances aren&#39;t tied to her in any way. She needs to keep her entitlement in her lane. housemusick says: NTA. You&rsquo;re not responsible for others&rsquo; medical bills. She&rsquo;s acting out of jealousy and selfishness. &#39;yOu cAn AfFoRd iT&#39; is the dumbest reason to give a handout to someone who doesn&rsquo;t deserve it. AgentAlpo says: NTA. She trashes socialism but wants to reap the benefits of socialized medicine. elineelmo says: NTA, she bullied you into going LC, and then she comes begging for money? That is toxic. You did the right thing; otherwise, she would beg for more money in the future. Congrats on the baby! Focus on your child; she also should. You should ask her to apologize to all the socialists out there before you give her money, OP.

Having a baby is very expensive. Checkups, hospital stays, and post-natal care all add up. Unless you live in a country with a public healthcare system, it becomes very affordable and won&#39;t cost you your kidney.  On a popular Reddit...